We like to make life difficult. Yes, we do. I know that sounds strange, because it seems like we’re always doing everything we can to find serenity in our fast-paced realities. We just WISH we could get a break sometimes. We can’t WAIT for our schedule to mellow out a bit. We DREAM about being able to function on high vibrations while everything around us seems to be in alignment with what we’re up to.
I have news for you – so get ready – because this could be a game changer for you.
Did you know that you already have all the tools to make your life easier? Yes, you can make your reality WORK for YOU by setting yourself up to WIN. Everyday, we make promises we can’t keep, we underestimate traffic, and we blame other people for what we experience.
That makes us play small. It says we can’t be responsible leaders. It shows that we’re victims. We do this because we’re attached to our image. We do this because we try to please everyone. We do this because it’s hard to take a look in the mirror and accept that we’ve created anything undesirable.
If you can see how unempowering that is, you might be able to make an instant shift.
When you break your word to anyone, including yourself, a piece of you dies inside. You start to believe you aren’t reliable and that begins to show up in all ways of your being. How you do one thing is how you do everything. You start to buy your own BS and you have other people enrolled in your stories. Soon enough, no one will be able to rely on you for anything at all. Do you understand how liberating it is to “under-promise and over-perform”?
You’d rather surpass people’s expectations than not meet them. When someone makes a request of you, STOP. Think. And consider all parties included. If the tiniest little intuition says that you may not be able to fulfill their request, tell them. Don’t say you’re gonna be at their school play, graduation, birthday party, or even have the time to do lunch if you may not be able to.
If your intentions are pure and you’re excited in the moment, that’s awesome, but set yourself up to win by not stretching yourself too thin. The only reason why we get stressed out is because we start too many projects and don’t have enough time to finish them all.
A broken promise is a broken promise. Even forgetting to call someone after you said you would (because you had too much on your mind) is a broken promise. On an energetic level, you’re telling this person that something else was more important. Then you tell them a story and they buy it. We all do it and it never feels good on either side. If you say you’re gonna do something, you can write it down so you won’t forget. It’s really that simple and it has made my life so much easier.
Being late for something is also a broken agreement. People are either consistently late and in a rush, or they are rigorous with their time and manage to be early or on time for everything. Remember – how you do one thing is how you do everything.
Be in your integrity and allow yourself ample time for everything. I used to be a few minutes late for just about everything in my life. Then I realized how that wasn’t working for me OR my integrity – so I now aim to be early for my stuff. I show people that I respect their time, so they in turn respect mine.
If you live in a city, you know what traffic is all about. That is never a good enough excuse to be late. Expect it and set yourself up to win by leaving 15+ minutes early. Don’t blame someone or anything else for your circumstances. If you find that you aren’t able to fulfill a commitment, own up to it and be honest.
Life works really well when you don’t break promises, when you show up on time, and when you remove excuses from your vocabulary. Do what you say you’re gonna do, show up on time and own your circumstances. Everything in life is a choice and you get to have a highly-functioning reality if you decide to have one. You ARE powerful enough to be, do and have WHATEVER you want! That includes ample time, and having ample time is a result of under-promising.
Decide RIGHT NOW that you’re a leader of your own life and watch your life flourish! And don’t forget to:
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.