‘Look for the Helpers’

On the morning of the Connecticut shooting, a number of people messaged me, “Would you mind taking over the airwaves and do a Hug Nation for the world, now, please?”

One of Hug Nation’s mottos is, “The world would rather hug you than hurt you.” I could understand why people needed to hear that message.

But what could I possibly say?

I wish I had some magic words that could make sense of tragedy. I wish I could quote some scripture or ancient wisdom that would bring relief.

I had none.

Only the recognition that tragedy is a part of life. We are always at risk of devastation at the hands of tornadoes, earthquakes, and tortured human souls.

During these times we can only shower the families with Love and allow ourselves to grieve.

Hopefully, from the devastation of this collective loss, we better recognize the bounty of our blessings. When we witness this kind of darkness, it can renew our appreciation of light.

A beautiful Mr. Rogers quote has been circulating online.

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’ To this day, especially in times of ‘disaster,’ I remember my mother’s words, and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.”

If any good can come from tragedies such as this, it is a focus on the helpers.

And more importantly, it is a reminder that we are ALL helpers.

“Helper” isn’t just a role for people who work at soup kitchens or ride fire trucks.

Being a helper is a role for all of us. We are all responsible for making the world better.

We already do this for our family and friends. As we wake up to being a part of the human family, we must extend our role as helpers to all.

The truth is that there are untold horrors that happen every day…and endless gorgeous miracles. When faced with a harsh example of humanity, we must remember that the potential of the human heart is limitless. These experiences of pain serve as wake-up calls to our spirits. How can I raise my vibration? How can I express Love more fully? How can I live my purpose and add to the positive flow of the Uni-verse?

Let the loss inspire us to open our hearts more and express Love deeper.

We are the helpers. It is time to shine bright.

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John Halcyon Styn is the author of, Love More. Fear Less. & hosts a “Heart Recalibration” podcast called HugNation every Tuesday.



  • So honored to to br able to share this here.  

    Here’s a link to the video I ended up broadcasting: http://youtu.be/OEynagqbI2E

    • Debs6266

      So excited to see your post here, John … Beautifully written.

      Hugs 🙂

    • Brandi

      Thanks for your post here, and thanks for linking to the broadcast you ended up airing. Ahh, that was a good hug nation hug! Thank you for being you <3 I don't think there's anything more I need to say, thank you and Namaste.

  •  Beautiful post, John! And so true. Now, more than ever, we have to be the light! The brighter our lights shine, the more darkness fades and the more hope we can give to those who are living in the fear. Sending so much love your way! <3

  • pola

    Dear John. I am very grateful for your beautiful post! it lifted me and gave me a sense of peace….God bless you.

  • Ema

    I think I am a great helper, but after this I promise to you and everybody else that I am going to try even harder to be even better helper to every single soul on this planet. Much love and blessings.

  • Thanks pink jesus

  • Beautiful, thanks John <3

  • Tiffany

    Great reminder that we are all helpers. I will find 3 ways I can be a helper. Thank you for the wonderful article.

  • Thank you John! We all need to hear this and remember that we are the helpers. We can’t stand around waiting for others to make the world a better place. We have to do what we can right now. It’s up to us. 

  • You are here to help. Your help is essential, as you are the only one qualified to be who you uniquely are. The uni-verse wasted no precious resources to make certain you are here, so do that thing you do!