5 steps to gain more confidence.

I just got back from Bali and am sooooo excited for Star Wars this weekend. I am going to see the film four times between tomorrow and Saturday. Are you excited, too?

Ok, I digress… (but seriously, I’m excited!)

This week, we discuss how you can gain more confidence. This is not the same as becoming egotistical. You can be confident without letting your ego run the show.

Also: this will be the last Claim Your Power TV of the year. I’ll be back in your inbox early January with brand new training and episodes of Claim Your Power TV. I’m going to be with Jenna and her family in North Carolina.

This is Jenna’s favorite time of year, so I’m going to be with her!

One of the most important parts of bringing your purpose to life is having confidence. Without confidence, you can never truly live your purpose.

Without confidence, nothing happens.

Many of my clients have had a moment in their past where they lost their confidence. Perhaps because of a trauma. Or perhaps because of a “failure”. Or an injury. Or because someone else told them they weren’t enough and then they believed them.

Have you had a moment or moments where you felt like you lost your confidence? Worry not, you can get it back. And it’s not as hard as you may think.

As Star Wars draws near, summon the power of The Force and let’s find your confidence again.

But seriously, you have a unique gift to give this world. You have a special and Divine purpose. You’re meant for more than your current circumstances. And it’s not egoic to think so. It’s needed to truly bring your purpose to life.

Then, after you’ve watched this week’s episode here’s your assignment:

1. Tell me how you are going to take your confidence back.
2. Name one grounded way that you will apply #1. (Be specific).
3. Imagine what 2016 will look like with this new habit, tell me what your life will look like one year from now if you apply #1 each and every day.

When you find your confidence, you take the first step to bring your purpose to life. Do it for you. Do it for those that you love. Do it for those whose life will be impacted with your bold new choice.

Leave a comment below and claim it.

Much love, Happy Holidays & may the Force be with you – always,

Mastin

P.S. Are you a centered heart business owner or spiritual teacher? Do you dream of inspiring people and helping them with your message or healing modality? Do you want to create a heart-centered business that is simple, effective and gives you more than enough time to have a life that you love and serve? I’ve got you covered.

Apply for my annual Wealthy Healer Retreat. It’s a powerful seven-day retreat this April in Maui where I roll back the curtain on my heart centered spiritual business and show you how it’s done. This training has created some powerful results for clients, some of whom have built six and almost seven figure businesses, all while making a massive impact.

>Click here to apply.

Space is limited, and this retreat always fills up.

Who are you to teach others? Who are you not to? You’ve been walking on a path for a while now, and we need your voice. Let me teach you how to get it out there in a bigger way, and in a way where you are compensated abundantly for your service. Don’t wait. Apply now.

If you can’t make this one, send this blog to someone who can. You never know how you can change someone’s life.

 

[Begin transcript]

Welcome to Claim Your Power TV! I’m your host Mastin Kipp, where each week we guide you to live your purpose with passion! Quick disclaimer: This will be our last Claim Your Power TV of the year. We’re taking the last two weeks of the year off so that we can reset and recharge. We will be back in your inbox and online with more videos in early January.

But this week’s video is 5 steps to gain more confidence. I think confidence, self-confidence, is perhaps one of the most important attributes or virtues that you could have. Now I’m going to be really crystal clear – confidence is not the same thing as being egotistical. A lot of people think that, oh I’m so confident, I’m in my ego. No. Confidence is the ability to believe in your intuition and your higher power and put it into practice and to act on what you know to be true.

That’s ultimately what confidence is. It’s to act on what you know to be true.

And there are five steps to really develop and cultivate this confidence.

The first step is admit the truth. Number one. Simple and easy. Admit the truth. Actually, I should take that back. It’s simple but not easy. When we admit the truth, “I don’t love you anymore,” “I eat Cinnabon every night before bed and wonder why I don’t lose weight,” or “I’m really struggling being a parent” (because no one’s supposed to admit that), or “I’m really having a hard time in this relationship,” or “I really hate my job,” whatever that truth is, you can’t have confidence if you’re lying to yourself. So the first thing is you have to admit what’s true for you.

And then do what my friend Mary Morrissey says: Do it afraid. Live your life afraid. It’s okay. The storms will come. The rise and the fall will come. The darkness will come. I’ve talked about this earlier that cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek. Do it afraid. It’s okay to do it afraid because when you do it afraid, you’ll start to recognize that life will prove your fears wrong. So you want to do it afraid.

Third, you want to surround yourself with people who support you. How could you possibly have confidence if you’re constantly surrounded by people who are talking crap about you? Think about that. If you’re surrounded by people who say, “You’re not enough. You’ll never amount to anything. You’re never going to do it anyway. This is all just a bunch of crap or bullshit,” or whatever it might be. Will you ever truly have self-confidence? The answer is I don’t think so. Right? So you want to start to consciously and intentionally surround yourself with people who can lift you up and who help you believe in yourself because you can certainly believe in yourself but you’ve got to have a tribe. Marianne Williamson calls this her Positivity Team. So you’ve got to have your Positivity Team or your tribe to help pick you back up when you doubt yourself, to remember how awesome you are.

And fourth, you want to celebrate the small wins. Let’s say you want to lose 100 pounds. You lost one pound – celebrate that! You’re one pound less! Let’s say that you want to make a million dollars and you made five – celebrate the $5. This really taps you into the attitude of abundance and gratitude because really big wins, quantum leaps in growth happen with a lot of little, tiny steps in between. So you want to get focused on celebrating and staying in that celebratory energy of celebrating the small wins.

And then finally, Oprah said this and I thought it was so incredible what gives her confidence. She gets confidence by knowing that she is supported by a power greater than herself. So when you feel small and when you feel like you’re not enough, feel supported and know that you are supported by a power greater than yourself. This could be God or the Divine or Source or your Spirit Guides, whatever that word is for you – don’t get caught up in the semantics, but know that you are supported by a higher power. So, if the problem feels really big, what have you done to yourself? You’ve made yourself very small. So if you’re feeling small in the face of adversity or in the face of a problem, know that you have infinite intelligence – God, Source, Spirit, your Guides – there to support you. And so you can turn it over and say, “You know what, God? You know what, Source? You know what, Divine? I’m having a hard time with this. Back me up. I need your help.” And when you make that prayer, prayers are always answered the moment that they are received.

So to recap, admit the truth, do it afraid, surround yourself with people who lift you up, celebrate the little wins and lean on your higher power. If you do these things, you will certainly be on the path of confidence.

I just love that Oprah quote about confidence. When I heard her say that recently, it just really blew me away. How else could you really, truly have confidence? If you think you’re doing it by yourself and you’re in your ego… You know, A Course in Miracles says that the lies, that the ego believes ‘in my solitude my salvation lies.’ And that’s not true.

It’s when you know that you’re supported by a higher power or when you ask for help from that support tribe, that’s what starts to give you confidence.

So my great wish for you is to implement this stuff. I know it’s the holiday time. I know sometimes it can be hard to do this during the holidays. But find your positivity tribe, admit the truth to yourself, do it afraid, celebrate those small wins and surrender your will and ask for that Divine help because it WILL show up. Be receptive to whatever comes your way.

So you might be watching this video over on Facebook or over on YouTube. I’d invite you to come on over to TheDailyLove.com and below this video let me know, and this is important, let me know how you’re going to implement these 5 steps to gain more confidence. Let me know how you’re going to implement these so you can start to apply it. I don’t want this to just be another video that you watch. I want you to really step into and apply these things. That’s what lights me up – when you see real transformation in your life. And the way that you see transformation is by the application of knowledge. You might think that knowledge is power, but that’s not true. Applied knowledge is power. Knowledge that’s acted upon, that is truly powerful.

The other thing is I’d invite you to subscribe to our channel on YouTube so that you can get instant updates for when we have a new video coming out. And also over at TheDailyLove.com enter your name and email address and you can get updates and special surprises I only send through email. But most importantly, and as always here at Claim Your Power TV, my greatest wish is that you get out there, take action and make it real. Have a great holiday season and we’ll see you in the New Year in 2016! Lots of Love!

[End transcript]

  • Muhammed Ayeb

    1. I accept the truth that I don t study well

    2. I study afraid of fail.

    3. Only supportive people surround me ( my sweet family, my friends, my classmates…).

    4. I celebrate all notes of exams even the small.

    5. I am divinely protected and guided and always ask for divine help.

    I apply this every and each day and 2016 will look full of success, joys and abundance.

    Thank you Mastin Kipp. Love

    • These are great, Muhammed! Looking forward to hear how your 2016 goes! ~Team Mastin

  • Hi Mastin; Yes even confident people can have moments or stretches where they feel unolympic to borrow a phrase from the movie cool running. 🙂 and of the points you make the most important one to me is surrounding yourself with supportive positive people. You should also apply this to the movies you watch, music you listen to, podcasts you follow, tv shows you enjoy, and books you read. Like with food they don’t all have to be healthy but they shouldn’t be destructive either. the one shift I have made and will continue into the new year doesn’t seem like a big one but it is. In the past when I’ve been part of a round up post or featured on something like a group discussion I always said how honored and blessed I was to be mentioned among the other names. Recently I decided this isn’t true. So, now I say check out the people who were featured with me. Its accepting that I am just as deserving as special as important as accomplished as respected as whatever word you want to use as anyone else. To me this is a big shift. thanks for the post. Even confident people like us can use a reminder that if it does get away from you you can get it back. have a merry christmas max

    • Absolutely, Max! We can all use that reminder as you say. Great share! Merry Christmas to you too! ~Team Mastin

      • and often the problem with losing confidence is in not seeing results. Its not as easy to have faith in yourself your god or the universe when you don’t see the fruits of your labor. Or sometimes its not seeing the results you expected or not seeing them as quickly as you would like. These are times when you really need those positive teammates to pick you up and cheer you on. blessings max

        • Love this! You definitely pinpointed what brings so many of us down. And so yes, it’s super important to have the positivity team there to support you no matter what!! ~Team Mastin

          • glad to be part of team martin and to have you and all your amazing people on mine. I nailed it because I’ve lived it. I am blessed to have lots of people encouraging me and pulling for me both on and offline. and today i had the good feeling of meeting another person on their journey and connecting through your post. great work, max

  • Ana Hernandez

    This is just what I needed to hear this morning! I wrote a book and will self-published it. It will be released in January 2016. I am so afraid at so many levels about the book coming out. Your steps for building confidence is what I needed to keep moving forward despite my fears. THANK YOU!

    • Hi Ana; I self published myself last january. In addition to the usual fears that you have expressed I was doing this as a blind person. It all went well. I got some great five star reviews on amazon and some awesome blog posts and testimonials. I don’t know what your book is about, but I want to encourage you. So, please drop by my site and send me an email. I want to help you promote your book when it comes out. I’d also love to connect on twitter and face book. As Mastin said a key ingredient to confidence is having a tribe. wishing you all the best, max http://www.theblindblogger.net

    • This is great to hear, Ana! We’re so happy about your book and that this video came at the right time for you. Keep it up! ~Team Mastin

  • 1. I’m going to practice asking for help from my higher power more often – I am so guilty of thinking I’m alone in times of frustration and overwhelm. I forget that so many amazing things that have come about in my life have come out of times of frustration and feeling lost. Because my higher power had my back in those times, they turned out to be very pivotal and eventually times of positive change in my life. I need to trust the process and trust my higher power has my back.
    2. Just yesterday, a client’s husband reminded me of how blessed I am – he told me he read my blog and how much it impacted him. It was about overcoming some really big obstacles in my life and he told me of another person he knew that did not make it past the same struggles and had past away because of them. I was reminded of how far I’ve come and how much the universe has my back. To practice trusting my higher power I will set a daily timer on my phone to pause and be grateful for how far I’ve come and all I have in my life and ask for any guidance at the same time.
    3. I know 2016 is going to be a challenging year for me but with this practice I also know that I will have a daily opportunity to turn it over to my higher power and trust in the process because it’s exactly where I will need to be in that moment.

    Thank you, Mastin and Jenna!! Have fun at Star Wars (I know you will!). Have a very Merry Christmas and a very much deserved rest 🙂

    • Hi Robyn! Thanks for sharing – you have some really awesome points here! And yes, I’m sure Mastin and Jenna will thoroughly enjoy Star Wars 😉 ~Team Mastin

  • WoW ! 😀

    As a confident person, I will definitely implement those 5 steps to gain greater inner strength and balance ! 😀

    Just when I “think” I know it all, a new Master shows up ! Hé Hé ! 😉

    Thank you for the reminder, Master Mastin ! 😀
    Ian

    • Hey Ian! We’re really glad that you found the steps of value to you and something that you can apply to build on the confidence you already have. That’s great! ~Team Mastin

  • Lucia

    1. I am going to trust the higher power, and work to remember that the universe is always supporting me. Trust is definitely a virtue I am intentionally developing, and trusting that I am supported is a big one for me.
    2. Write down everyday any struggles I am having, and ask for help with them.
    3. I will first of all go to bed early night – that is my big goal for 2016. I will go to bed early and prioritize my need for rest. So I will be celebrating small successes with this goal! I will also be living in my flow, and giving up worries and concerns every morning by writing down what I need help with and asking for help, and seeing where the universe takes me!

    • These sound great, Lucia! We are wishing you the best with them! ~Team Mastin

  • Rose

    1)I admit that right now I don’t want to be in a romantic relationship and that sometimes I feel lonely.
    2)I can own this truth & communicate it to others even when I’m afraid of how it sounds or what others might think.
    3)I am surrounded and supported by loving family members and friends; I see evidence of it when I open my heart.
    4)To catch my judging/comparing voice and parent/comfort it.
    5)I am always surrounded by a loving and caring HP…

    • Hi Rose! You are definitely on the right track with these! Way to go!! ~Team Mastin

  • erika chotai

    Okey… 😀
    1. Tell me how you are going to take your confidence back.
    By showing up as Me and even risk being akward to others.
    I will take my book writing project right to the edge, present it as it is; as My Own Truth, and to boldly ask for support and help along the way. To look for all the helping hands and being there also for others in the same way.

    I will continue developing my body language and body flexibility/strength and voice, to help my son, (who is deaf/hard of hearing,) through his life – To make him feel just as wonderful and loved as he is while growing up and finding his place in the world.
    Explain how I feel and not feeling ashamed for doing that. Not backing down, having the power to believe in what I am.
    2. Name one grounded way that you will apply #1. (Be specific).
    Practicing Forgiving, myself and others. As well as building trust toward Me and other people.
    3. Imagine what 2016 will look like with this new habit, tell me what your life will look like one year from now if you apply #1 each and every day.

    I will be surrounded by friends and positive networks of people in my work, and in my home. I will realize that they were and are there and that I am loved and trusted. My worth will shine through because I make it visible to Me, again.

    I am interesting; to Me and Others 🙂

    <3

    • This is all really great, Erika! Especially love the part about forgiving yourself and others – so powerful! Sending lots of encouragement! ~Team Mastin

  • Anna de Vries

    Thank you Mastin, i am still having trouble believing where life has taken me this year. I am totally flabbergasted about what’s next in 2016. I’ve seen a glimp. I am living the life that i always wanted. There is room for improvement at the financial department. We’re working on that. But my life compared to two years ago is so so much different in every positive way. So thank you for your advice and honesty. Wish you all the best in 2016! Happy december.

    • This is so wonderful to hear, Anna! We are sending you much love for 2016!! ~Team Mastin

  • Melvina

    My truth is that I’ve never had to interview and I’m afraid to have one, so I’be allowed fear to stagnate my job search. Today, I have admitted my truth, #1. Monday I will go to a job opportunity scared, #2. I will celebrate the fact that I went through fear and just did it, #3. I will stay around d people who support me and begin supporting myself( I put myself down a lot), #4. And #5, I will continue to remember that is my HP in control and that my HP has my back. Thank you for this, I will claim my power and get a job. Thank you.

    • This is great, Melvina! We will continue to keep you in our thoughts as you take step into something new! Much love! ~ Team Mastin

  • Andy Lafferty

    My truth is I am afraid of rejection on any level and it really effects me when it’s from a love interest.

  • Michelle Regan

    Every day I’m learning to understand my truths helped along by my partner, friends and excellent humans like yourself (my positivity tribe). Putting into practice the, sometimes shocking, lessons about who I really am as opposed to the learned habitual responses will take practice but I strive every day to be the best me I can.

    Like many of us who finally realize that life isn’t about hiding behind a mask (of what ‘they’ expect you to be) I am slowly emerging from the me I made out of fear into the whole me I am truly capable of being.

    You mentioned that sometimes problems seem so insurmountable we feel dwarfed but in the face of any challenge you are reminding us to not play small for even a second because our potential lies in being fearlessly ourselves. As long as we are authentic there isn’t anything we can’t overcome.

    I have played small for many reasons for far too long and this has served no one. I vow to be bold and step into the sunshine with those who are truly living their purpose by being themselves unashamedly.

    Thank you for the love you share, we are all better for spirits like yours who give goodness to the world.

  • Aarush Nadeem

    7-11 HOLY SPIRITUAL OIL BEST TRADITIONAL HEALER MAMA ALISHA +27710565695 IN JPOHANESBURG SANDTON
    This oil is used for blessings to come down upon you. Rub the oil on the top of your head and bottoms of you feet and have luck in all number games.
    Be the first to review this product call +27710565695
    Meet famous holy spiritual oil doctor 11 years experienced Certified Psychic doctor,Leader of African traditional healers approved of accuracy,treats and cures long time illnesses and solving problems with guaranteed results.
    Contact Mama Alisha +27710565695
    Email:[email protected] http://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/76e22e652cbf150cf986fe919ff486a738169ec0edba45949cb408864f415afb.jpg
    http://www.mamaalisha.co.za

  • Aarush Nadeem

    http://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e4bb08f0f94fe677d47b579f46318650a99b5ade670f43b023e031e6e38129e8.jpg SANDAWANA OIL AND SKIN CALL NOW MAMA ALISHA +27710565695 IN SANDTON JOHANESBURG
    Do you really don’t know the use of sandawana oil and skin these two things work together and give the real results if are use professionally. There are very many people all over the world live happy life not because of their effort but the help of sandawana oil.
    Sandawana oil and skin help in the following:
    -when you want to boost your business and get much money.
    -when you lost your things such as lovers,money,jobs,fiends,and other related items.
    -when you are in a desperate life sandawana oil and skin can do the best to bring to a good life you ever liked before.
    -when you have been working but nothing you can save just come for Sandawana oil and skin these will not leave your life the same.
    -when someone cheating on you get sandawana oil and skin for stopping the habit.
    You can get jobs,manage business,family,and any thing else as long as you use sandawana oil and skin properly following my instructions; remember no side effects
    You can contact me on:
    SAME DAY RESULTS 100% PERCENT GUARANTEED
    CONTACT MAMA ALISHA +27710565695
    EMAIL:[email protected]
    http://www.mamaalisha.co.za

  • Aarush Nadeem

    http://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/3886a67bd7cde719d99e6fa587ebd7192694d6eccaf2ffdde059c30a2dcc2947.jpg 100%Love Binding Spells,+27710565695 Professional traditional healing Mama Alisha.

    Traditional witchcraft spells for wealth, protection, witchcraft spells for love, witchcraft spells for luck, witchcraft spells for marriage & to return a lost lover. Witchcraft spells can be used to help you with anything in life from getting revenge, winning court cases, knowing the future & understanding dreams
    Improve your financial well being with witchcraft spells, have better success with love with the help of witchcraft, break a bad spell against you & get your ex-back, bring in new lover into your life with witchcraft spells of magic.
    For one to one traditional healing session with traditional healer chief to consult the ancestral spirits for answers to your problems call or you can also communicate with chief using email
    Witchcraft love spells
    witchcraft love spells to heal a broken, witchcraft love spells to melt the heart of someone, witchcraft love spells to bring passion into your relationship, witchcraft love spells to attract a lover, witchcraft love spells to find a perfect partner, witchcraft love spells to reunite with a lover, witchcraft love spells to bind a lover & witchcraft love spells to fix your marriage
    Witchcraft has been used since ancient times to influence love all over the world. Witchcraft spells to improve your confidence, witchcraft love spells to find your soul mate.
    SAME DAY RESULTS 100% PERCENT GUARANTEED
    CONTACT MAMA ALISHA +27710565695
    EMAIL:[email protected]
    http://www.mamaalisha.co.za