A more Loving way to view anger, disagreement and haters!

So, if you know me, you know that I am a pretty loud individual. I also can be kinda crazy and opinionated. I LOVE to be proven wrong because it means I’m learning something. But I can be pretty “passionate” about my beliefs.

I’m also an active user of social media. I LOVE Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and all the amazing social tools that are out there now. One of the by products of being a voice that people listen to as well as honestly putting myself out there is that I get a TON of feedback. I get emails, Tweets, FB messages, comments and texts from folks.

And what’s so RAD is that not everyone agrees with me! And sometimes the way that people disagree with me could be seen as cruel, mean, aggressive or just down right NEGATIVE. A lot of people I know would BLOCK these people, delete them as friends and get offended. But that’s not what I do.

Because of the coming election and recent convention speeches, I have been been posting on my personal Facebook about my thoughts and beliefs about what’s going on. BTW – I keep my political beliefs out of TDL because this is not a space for that, this is a space for a much more important conversation, the conversation of sharing what we are going through and how to get through it THRIVING!

But I share my beliefs about non “TDL” topics on my personal FB and Twitter. Well, as I have started to do this, ALL KINDS of people have been saying ALL KINDS of different things. About what I’m saying, what candidate I support, the state of government or media in general. And with this kind of a topic, people get pretty passionate.

But instead of making people wrong if I disagree with them, or if they project their passion on to me, I want to understand them. I want to hear them. I want to see where they are coming from and I’m always asking, “what can I learn from this interaction and this person?” I ESPECIALLY ask this question when I get SUPER TRIGGERED! You know – those people who say those things that just gets RIGHT under our skin. And makes us REACT before we can even speak! And depending on what they are talking about, we even have a visceral and emotional response.

I’ve learned enough not know that when THAT happens to me, I need to look alive, because I lesson is upon me.

What I’ve come to understand is that EVERYONE is a teacher! And if we do no Love the Soul’s of the people we disagree with, we have more to learn about Love. We are quick to judge, what is right and what is wrong. Who is right and who is wrong. But at the end of the day, the Truth is – somewhere between what YOU think and what I think, is most likely the Truth.

I’ve learned to see “haters” as nothing more than feedback. I’ve learned to see that anyone who “attacks” me, at the deepest level is simply requesting Love. And I’ve come to believe that even though some people may make it personal towards me, it’s never about what’s between me and them. It’s always about what’s between them and The Uni-verse and me and The Uni-verse.

Other people are merely reflections teaching us more about ourselves. Because on a spiritual level, there is only one Soul, broken up into many people here on Earth. So as I can begin to understand others, I begin to understand myself – and as I understand myself, I begin to understand others.

What is attack, blame and criticism were just requests for Love? And that people’s opinions were just feedback and information that is showing us to either be firmer in our resolve or to question what we believe? Wouldn’t that be RAD?

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  • Melissa

    Thank you so much for this article.  You can’t believe how timely this was for me!!  After getting it in my email this morning, I prayed about a family situation that is in shambles.  Your perspective helped to totally change mine and I think, make me more open in my prayer time this morning.  I hope…and pray…healing is on its way to this relationship.  Thank you so much!!

    • that is AWESOME Melissa! What’s going to happen now?

  • Ana

    Sooo…Being loud and opinionated is O.K.? 
    Why do I always think I need to change it?And yes, at times you have to say/do something to put myself below others in whatever way possible not to let them be jealous. That’s wrong, isn’t it???

    Many around me think “I am crazy” with this “spiritual stuff”… Sad most people don’t “get it”…

    So true all that was stated in today’s issue. Thank you.

    • there’s a difference between being loud and opinionated and being righteous. we don’t want to shove our beliefs down ppls throats, especially when they don’t want to hear it. AND at the same time we can be FIRM in our resolve and OPEN to learning new things! no one sees the perfect truth!

  • Mary

    Powerful post, Mastin. Don’t know if I can get to the place where I can see others’ attacks as a request for love, but the realization that everyone is a teacher certainly rings true.

    On a separate note, you’re a wonderful writer in need of a “second pair of eyes” to look over your stuff before posting. The typos – at least for me – lessen the impact of this meaningful message.

    • Anana

      I respect your point on the “typos”, my friend; however, imperfection is cool. The message is still clear, and it still shines wisdom through it. It take some skills to write posts daily, and who cares about typos. (Speaking of criticism…hehe…right to the theme of today’s post.)

      • Mary

         You’re cool, Ana. I learned something from and appreciate your feedback. tshank! 😉

    • Hey Mary – we launched a new site and it deleted the post my editor edited late last night, so we ran w/the un-edited post! Thanks for catching it! ;o)

  • “It’s a lie to day, ‘I love you,’ to your husband when you hate your siter. You cannot love and hate simultaneously. Sorry.” Cinnamon Lofton.  This was a big one for me when I heard this from my spiritual mentor.  My mind said, “Yeah, right.” My heart, “knew it was true.”  It is about building “BRIDGES not BOUNDARIES” with these people.  I have found that the very people I have created hatred over, are the very ones that lead me to this amazing spiritual path where “I am perceiving everyone as an awakening being who is here to claim his or her birthright to the higher planes of unconditional love and oneness.” Ken Keyes Jr.   Thanks Mastin…Right on! RIght on!  butterflymaiden7.blogspot.com/ 

  • India Dunn

    Dude!!! The new look is B!eauti Full!!! Ok, I LOVE YOU- you continue to speak my thruth, and I again feel that ahhhh( deep breath ). Thank YOU!!

  • Sarah

    people are merely reflections teaching us more about ourselves. Because
    on a spiritual level, there is only one Soul, broken up into many people
    here on Earth. So as I can begin to understand others, I begin to
    understand myself – and as I understand myself, I begin to understand
    others.”……..You just blew my mind a little bit. Thanks for that =)

    • haah, thanks! it blew my mind the first time I considered it, too!

  • Very timely Mastin! Thank you! I am currently triggered by an individual and I am feeling much anger. He has failed to show up for me and for my son. However, the perspective that he is only looking for love really helps to lessen the blow of the recent occurence. When I feel into who he really is at his core, I realized that he is perfect and beautiful. He has so much good in him. He is loving, gentle and kind. He is brilliant and resourceful. He just wants to be loved.

    Writting this opens me to feeling more love for him. I can appreciate is participation in my life. He has provided me with the greatest push to “wake up” and become MORE. I am thankful to him for being a part of my life!!

    Thank you for the reminder!  

    • awesome Katrina! ANDDDD – is there more love for YOU, too?

  • Kwinkler716

    Simply awesome!

  • Mika

    I do believe haters are wanting, needing, craving love and attention. But how to give it? Yhey think you are fake or not truly loving.

  • lingling lan

    I learned from Lifeclass that I should give my own meaning to insults, derogatory slurs, and other verbal shenanigans. Words are things unconvinced.

  • Limer16

    I love this blog! It always has something relevant to say and helps me to let go of my Ego and see the Universe through the lens of LOVE. I spread news of this blog to everyone! I read the quotes in our weekly meetings at work and try to live my life by the message this blog sends. Thank you to everyone who participates in this blog. What an exciting journey we are all on!

  • Reinventedlight

    I have also noticed many typos and sometimes it takes a second to figure out what the sentence is intending to say. I adore these emails- I also notice they are sent out in the middle of the night (half the time I am awake when they are sent). I live in West Hollywood if you’d like a third pair of detailed eyes. 😉

    Thanks for all the powerful, honest and poignant posts that you put out daily.

    Holler at me if you’d like a P.A. or “extra-eye-editor.” That’s my TM name. 😉

    [email protected]

  • I appreciate that perspective, especially right now. I’ve been dealing with a few situations that have made me look inward instead of pointing an angry finger outward. It’s a little painful to ask myself what could I have done differently in this situation, but I’m trying not to let feelings of failure overcome me. I’m replacing it with the idea that I’m a student of life, always learning and improving.

  • Kirsten Xavier

    It is true that negative people are in pain and crying out for love. When my love tanks are full I can handle it. But I’m still amazed how easily I react to criticism, negativity, etc. despite years of meditation and spiritual therapy. But it really always comes back to my own buttons getting pushed/triggered when I react to other’s negativity. It is so true that other people are our mirrors. It’s not easy to really look into our own shadow. It can hurt. A lot. But it’s worth it.

  • Alex

    I love it.  I want to take it less personally when folks disagree with me.  I’ve got a lot of Christian friends and family who believe that Christianity is the only way, and that all others are in the wrong–people of other faiths as well as homosexuals, democrats (haha), etc….  I absolutely don’t believe this is true. They do outwardly say that their beliefs aren’t just opinions/beliefs, but they are FACTs.  There’s no open listening or tolerance…. so I am afraid to voice my opinion.  I feel that I have to just “not go there” with these friends and family in order to preserve good relationships with them, since I think they’ll just drop me if they know I disagree with them–or worse, they might be worried about me and try to convince me to believe like them.  I keep silent, but not sure if that’s the most empowering way to live.  I feel like I live a double life sometimes.   What can I learn from this? How can I be more loving and true to myself at the same time?  Anyone have any thoughts about this?