Are You Giving Your Power Away To A Coach, Psychic Or Healer?

IMG_0594In the book, The Quest: A Tale of Desire & Magic our heroine Kathryn Casey goes to an African Psychic. His prediction is so specific and she is so desperate to find “The One,” she takes this prediction literally and tries to fit MR. WRONG into her life as a result. Admittedly, I have done this myself, and many other friends of mine have been guilty of this as well. The film that we are endeavoring to make deals with this very phenomenon and tackles the addiction to finding “the one” head on.

I am an avid fan of coaches, courses, healers, and psychics, and tools, but when used to control your situation or being stuck in the thinking mind, they defeat the purpose. They are there to point you in the direction, but ultimately, it’s our responsibility to listen from the heart and allow the true messages that want to come forth for us to be present.

One summer back in my twenties, I remember how desperate I was to find answers. I felt frustrated that I kept looking outside myself, feeling like I needed these people or this information.  My desire to be in control was leading the show and taking my power away.

However, whenever I asked a question, the right answer or resource appeared. At one point, I was led to Carolyn Myss’ Sacred Contracts. In this book, she used the analogy of Dorothy from The Wizard Of Oz, noting that  Dorothy’s guides – the Scarecrow, the Tin Man, the Lion, the Good Witch, the Wizard (and even the Wicked Witch of the West) – were all a part of her journey, but she had the power within to get herself home all along. This was such a powerful message because ultimately we just have to REMEMBER who we are and where to look for the answers.

Just as an FYI, I’m not painting a picture that I have it mastered, because I STILL FORGET and have to be reminded over and over again. I love my guides and I will continue to have my spiritual entourage, but it’s important and ultimately up to me to trust my own intuition.

Everyone’s access to their intuition is different, so I am not going to give you tools and rules here; I invite you to create your own process that FEELS good to you.

However, here is what I like to remember for myself and pass on to you: sometimes the guidance that any teacher, psychic, mentor or healer is giving you could be leading you in a completely different direction. Translated: don’t get too literal and try to force an answer.

When I feel myself forcing an answer – I know I am out of flow, and I’m in the thinking mind instead of the feeling one. I allow my monkey mind some airtime because it’s not always so easy to switch out of it, but then I ask the question, “What do you want me to know?” and usually some answer will appear; sometimes it takes longer than I like (but that’s my lovely EGO – always in a rush).  Another great question I like to ask is, “Does this feel true to me?” inspired from the wonderful Access Consciousness by Gary Douglass and Dr. Dain Heer with the inner knowing that “the truth will make you feel lighter and a lie will make you feel heavier.”

It’s okay if the answer comes from “outside” help; in fact, we as human beings have blind spots, and it will often take some sort of external stimulus to help us shift our perception. But it’s important to REMEMBER that you ultimately have the answer within yourself.

When working with someone, my new framework is to say to myself, “I am hiring this person to be the mirror for me to help me Remember the truth of who I am. Within me, I have all the answers I need. They are just helping me Windex it.”

When Kathryn Casey, from The Quest: A Tale Of Desire & Magic, was forcing the answer with her psychic prediction and trying to be in control, it reminded me of myself. I have been to countless healers, psychics, coaches, to the top of the mountain and back and have tried to finally have the relief of KNOWING.

My dear friend, Barbara Brooks, once said to me when you’re “out of control” (and out of your comfort) is when the miracles occur and you are truly receiving. By out of control, I don’t mean in a destructive sense, but just letting go of NOT knowing or thinking you can control how the picture is going to turn out. Visualize it, and then detach and allow it all to come forward.

As a perpetual student, I will always see coaches, healers, and psychics, but from the filter of being an OUTLAW of attraction (I call myself that for the reminder to NOT control the Laws of the Uni-verse from the thinking mind). Meaning REMEMBERING that we have all that we need to know inside us, to love ourselves fully and completely, and to be in full trust that the Uni-verse has our back.



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Spiritual entrepreneur Brooke Emery, founder of B. Unlimited Productions, is a Possibility Synergist and Certified Strategic Attraction Coach. She is the Executive Producer for the film “The Quest,” based on the novel by Heather Strang. To learn more about the film, see The Quest’s fan page on Facebook.



  • Amy Fuchs

    Well said….You Go Girl! xoxo A

    • Brooke Emery

      Thank you Amy!

      • Dee

        I totally absorbed all you have written here, Brook. It does ring true to me. Such a great post. Really useful. It’s easy to get bombarded with all the ‘stuff’. A quick journey back to remembering that the answers are within us. Much love x x x

        • Brooke Emery

          I am so happy this was helpful to you. May we all remind each other because it’s so easy to forget. Much love back to you. xoxo Brooke

  • Regi B

    Love this article…can’t wait to read more from you!

    • Brooke Emery

      I can’t wait to write more. Love to you xoxo

  • Rachel W

    Brooke, This article is great! Thank you for the light you bring to us! XOXO

    • Brooke Emery

      Thank you for being a beautiful mirror for me always.

  • Dyann

    Thank you for this article. I will also continue to seek “outside” knowledge, but asking the divine for understanding of the knowledge, then experiencing the love that blossoms in my heart, brings the serenity and usefulness I desire. Bless you.

    • Brooke Emery

      Bless you Dyann. Thanks for sharing that.

  • Mel

    This really resonated for me. I felt lighter after reading it! Must mean it’s all true 😉

    • Brooke Emery

      I love that it made you feel lighter. Have a beautiful day!

  • Tracey Ceurvels

    Brooke, I just love these reminders. Thank you. (and i love the “outlaw of attracting.”)

    • Brooke Emery

      Thanks Tracey! I still love the Law of Attraction just want to remember to NOT CONTROL it. xoxo

  • Beth Levy

    Brooke, you are amazing such a beam of light! I miss working with you. Great article. xoxo

    • Brooke Emery

      I miss you too! Thanks so much. I’ll be touch soon. xoxoox

  • Eva Scharfstein

    have many nice things to say to you…and they are all about the love the shines from you. You make me smile

    • Brooke Emery

      Thanks Eva the feeling is mutual. 🙂

  • Tracy McMicking

    Brooke, wonderful article, thanks for reminding us that our job is to remember,

    • Brooke Emery

      Thanks Tracy. Much love to you. May we always REMEMBER!

  • Debra

    Thank you for bringing up the act of looking inside… so important. We, many times, don’t trust ourselves to have the answers.. but we are very wise.

    • Brooke Emery

      Thank Debra. It’s just remembering for all of us to take time to listen even if it doesn’t happen on our time clock. (that’s the one that get’s me every time) 🙂

  • TVJackieM

    Heather Strang is the best! She is my BodyTalk Practitioner and midwifed my book which is autobiographical but fictionalized. A psychic had the same effect on me and I ended up meeting the man that was predicted but he was not interested at all. Major learning lesson but it led me to heal and find my own empowerment through people like Heather who guide but ultimately want to raise a person’s confidence in their own intuition.

    • Brooke Emery

      What a gift to have that knowledge and to have Heather on your team.

      • TVJackieM

        I call her “Healing Heather” but not to be confused with the Bach Flower Remedy 🙂

  • I love this article and message so much. Thanks Brooke for sharing your own personal journey and giving us a really good reminder to filter others’ opinions and messages (even if they are from a certified intuitive) through our own hearts and wisdom. And I love your new title “The OUTLAW of Attraction” How perfect!

    • Brooke Emery

      Thanks Heather! You and I have been on this journey together for a long time. I am glad I have you to remind me for the days I forget to REMEMBER!! xoxo Looking forward to the Soul Filled Cafe.

  • Tevis

    Brooke, this is so beautifully put. I know so many of us will resonate with your wisdom even as we love and value our teachers deeply. Celebrating both the humanity and divinity in all of us, I’m sending you a huge wave of admiration and gratitude for having expressed this so eloquently.

    • Brooke Emery

      Love being on this journey with you sister!

  • Alan Davidson

    Brooke – very important distinction – be my own spiritual authority – the deepest trust (and love) of self.

    • Brooke Emery

      Thanks Alan. I love that your teachings and meditations give that gift of self reliance and trust. On the ride together. 🙂