Quality intimate relationships are certainly not my strong point! However I am now creating space for a soul partner. I believe it is the will of The Uni-verse that I attract a loving, caring and supportive partner. It’s part of my “Journey Home” to feel worthy and deserving of love and intimacy.
But I don’t believe there is much possibility for a healthy, open and giving relationship if I drag along truckloads of past baggage to be magically fixed by a new love interest!
For most of my adult life I was seeking relationships to fix my own brokenness. I attracted partners that I thought I could fix in hopes that somehow I could fix my relationship with my father.
My relationships were a pretty accurate reflection of my own self-worth and self-love. I was attracting my mirror!
Because I learned to keep my feelings buried as a child, I pretty much learned how to keep them stuffed down in my relationships as well. My fear was that if I opened up and risked being vulnerable, the trauma of my childhood would repeat itself. If I am open, I will get hurt again!
As a result of this early childhood conditioning, I often confused love with pity, so I tended to attract those I thought I could rescue. It was much easier, I thought, to focus my efforts elsewhere; as long as I wasn’t trying to fix me, it was okay.
I often put people in relationships on pedestals and let them take the initiative for my life’s directions and choices. I was looking for The Uni-verse in other people and it never worked. It was always a disaster. We all have our weakness’s and our dark sides. That’s what makes us human.
I am now willing to turn this all around and make space for the love that The Uni-verse wants for me.
I have a vision board with images that represent my ideal partner. I have the description quoted on the vision board and it’s on my iPhone as well.
And I am going for gold! Because that’s the will of The Uni-verse for my life!
The partner I attract will be an extension and a reflection of The Uni-verse’s safety and respect for me.
The partner I attract will be a reflection of The Uni-verse’s understanding and compassion for me.
The partner I attract will see the The Uni-verse in me.
The partner I attract will bring me closer to The Uni-verse.
You may think this is a tall order and wonder if such person could ever exist? “Surely they would have to be made out of clay!!”
Will such a partner ever show up?
The answer is simple: “When I become it, they will!” Because we attract our mirror! We attract a reflection of our own self-worth and self- love.
So where are you in the relationship department?
Do you have someone in your life who is a mirror of your self-love and self-worth?
Are you loved and accepted as you are without judgment and is your “Journey Home” being nurtured and encouraged?
You deserve all this and more!
I would love to hear from you.
Please drop a comment below.
Much Love & Welcome Home.
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Ryf Van Rij is a coach and creator of “The Daily Way Home.” He has also been an Actor, a Commercial Pilot, a Business Co-Owner and an Events Coordinator at a Major City Art Gallery.