I was spending time with a close friend of mine a few weekends ago, and one of the many things we have in common is that we are both expanding our current business practices. We got to talking about our dreams at one point and how they were things we were only talking about. We also talked about how our lives are now; we applied a lot of hard work and walked through a lot of fear and because of that, our dreams of becoming independently secure and wealthy on all levels are even closer than before. BUT we both at some point thought this would never happen.
My story of stepping into my current place in life with teaching, mentoring, coaching, and writing started not too long ago. I was in a rut, I hated myself, and I thought I really had nothing to live for except for the same old everyday crap.
But I had these dreams. Dreams of having a larger and more luxurious place to live in Sedona, Arizona, a convertible, more money in the bank, an outlet to think and act more creatively, a way to help and teach others, be my own boss, take vacations on whim, run a marathon, wake up whenever my body naturally wanted to, have a slimmer, healthier body, and less toxic food cravings.
I used to think that these visions and dreams were lofty: unattainable, too far off, too much work, and worst of all, NEVER going to happen. It wasn’t until my conversation with my friend that weekend did I TRULY realize, “Holy s***! Most of what I wanted IS already happening!” Most of which I thought I would never EVER experience.
The reasons why I thought that were because of a few things– err, sorry – EXCUSES! I was not putting ANY action toward my desire. I never believed they would happen. And the biggest sorry-a** excuse: I did not deserve to have them because my self-esteem was in the freaking toilet!
See, I felt like such crap about the way I looked, the way acted, what little I thought I had to offer. I never BELIEVED that I could live a life I dreamed of or experience the things in life that I wanted to. I was too busy making everybody else’s dreams come true instead of my own, because I was waiting for some kind of recognition!
After I woke up, I started putting MASSIVE ACTION toward liking myself a whole heck of a lot more; it was like someone stuck an Energizer happy battery into my back, and I could not be stopped! LOL, but seriously – when I got over myself and Loved myself more, that helped fuel my action(s).
When I got into action, it lifted my spirits and made me want to go even further and further! There is a level of sustainable happiness that I now know I can CHOOSE to feel at any given time, and when I do, I put one foot in front of the other and walk gracefully toward achieving my goals and dreams.
When my actions were built with an attitude of “YES,” I am guiding this and making this happen, and my story to myself was “I believe in myself. Just look at what I doing now,” each little step I take reveals a dream I get to experience because I had the positive thought and fuel behind to get my a** in gear, and it feels good! Now more than ever I feel like I can have anything, and I don’t mind doing the work to watch my dreams unfold in front of me!
You see, when you take action and learn to (and pardon the phrasing) “get over” yourself, your dreams and goals have more weight. Believing your dreams (no matter how big, small, lofty, or grounded they are) won’t come true is the reason why they don’t. You believe they are just pipe dreams that are out of your reach.
Your attitude and mood behind what you want must shift. You have got to get out and live by a higher standard and not the by the standards of where you might be now. But the most important part is that you have got to believe in yourself! Low self-esteem and low self-worth are dream killers. They make them seem like they are unachievable and undeserving, but they are achievable and deserving!
The higher self-worth you have the more it motivates you into ACTION! (There’s that word again). Better states of mind and positive self-initiated motion help to achieve what you want! You actually begin to look forward to finding out what those dreams will feel like when they arrive. You’ll look forward to applying your hard work and knowledge each step of the way.
More and more, you’ll be motivated to stay on track with your plans and goals, instead of falling off track and having your dreams seem like nothing but a complete train wreck!
Here are some coaching tips on getting started:
- Say your dreams out loud to yourself and write them down. Make them more real by stating the obvious. Get them out of your head and onto paper and into the Uni-verse!
- Change your thinking. Use mantras, affirmations, mirror work to build your self-esteem.
- Get some cheerleaders! Go to your support system. Tell them what you need, what you want to achieve. Buddy up with another friend who is motivated to get their dreams rolling, too.
- Take personal growth studies, read motivating books, quotes, blogs (well, you got this one checked, right? :)) work with a mentor or a coach to help guide you through the fear.
- Most importantly: TAKE MASSIVE ACTION!!! (Every day, even if just little steps.)
Taking action has a positive physiological effect on the body – all the way up to the way you think! Remember, what you say, think, eat, and breathe affects the way your body will react. So when you decide to shock your body into change, it breathes a whole new life into the way you think. Which, by the way, controls your actions. Hmmm…
Get motivated to take risks, meet new people, have the stamina and endurance to see your dreams peek through the curtains of your fear in the beginning, all the way to the entire stage symphony being shined on the amazing stage that is and can be YOUR LIFE!
By the way, I have been SO GRATEFUL to experience many of my dreams! My best: I am helping and teaching others and sharing wisdom globally, and it’s so fulfilling to my heart. Now, I am not far off from that home in Sedona I want or the fancy convertible to get me there!
So what dreams and goals have you been wanting to achieve? What reasons or excuses have you used to not pursue them? Who is your support system that will help you on your way to your dreams? What actions can you take today to help raise your self-esteem? Let me know in the comments below!
All My Love,
Andrew “Drew” Parales is a vocational rehab educator for students with disabilities in transition & employment, a school site program & events coordinator/trainer. He is also the creator and personal growth mentor of “i LOVE Liberation” Connect with Drew at: