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Are You Making Your Dreams Attainable OR Out Of Reach?

Drew ParalesI was spending time with a close friend of mine a few weekends ago, and one of the many things we have in common is that we are both expanding our current business practices. We got to talking about our dreams at one point and how they were things we were only talking about. We also talked about how our lives are now; we applied a lot of hard work and walked through a lot of fear and because of that, our dreams of becoming independently secure and wealthy on all levels are even closer than before. BUT we both at some point thought this would never happen.

My story of stepping into my current place in life with teaching, mentoring, coaching, and writing started not too long ago. I was in a rut, I hated myself, and I thought I really had nothing to live for except for the same old everyday crap.

But I had these dreams. Dreams of having a larger and more luxurious place to live in Sedona, Arizona, a convertible, more money in the bank, an outlet to think and act more creatively, a way to help and teach others, be my own boss, take vacations on whim, run a marathon, wake up whenever my body naturally wanted to, have a slimmer, healthier body, and less toxic food cravings.

I used to think that these visions and dreams were lofty: unattainable, too far off, too much work, and worst of all, NEVER going to happen. It wasn’t until my conversation with my friend that weekend did I TRULY realize, “Holy s***! Most of what I wanted IS already happening!” Most of which I thought I would never EVER experience.

The reasons why I thought that were because of a few things– err, sorry – EXCUSES! I was not putting ANY action toward my desire. I never believed they would happen. And the biggest sorry-a** excuse: I did not deserve to have them because my self-esteem was in the freaking toilet!

See, I felt like such crap about the way I looked, the way acted, what little I thought I had to offer. I never BELIEVED that I could live a life I dreamed of or experience the things in life that I wanted to. I was too busy making everybody else’s dreams come true instead of my own, because I was waiting for some kind of recognition!

After I woke up, I started putting MASSIVE ACTION toward liking myself a whole heck of a lot more; it was like someone stuck an Energizer happy battery into my back, and I could not be stopped! LOL, but seriously – when I got over myself and Loved myself more, that helped fuel my action(s).

When I got into action, it lifted my spirits and made me want to go even further and further! There is a level of sustainable happiness that I now know I can CHOOSE to feel at any given time, and when I do, I put one foot in front of the other and walk gracefully toward achieving my goals and dreams.

When my actions were built with an attitude of “YES,” I am guiding this and making this happen, and my story to myself was “I believe in myself. Just look at what I doing now,” each little step I take reveals a dream I get to experience because I had the positive thought and fuel behind to get my a** in gear, and it feels good! Now more than ever I feel like I can have anything, and I don’t mind doing the work to watch my dreams unfold in front of me!

You see, when you take action and learn to (and pardon the phrasing) “get over” yourself, your dreams and goals have more weight. Believing your dreams (no matter how big, small, lofty, or grounded they are) won’t come true is the reason why they don’t. You believe they are just pipe dreams that are out of your reach.

Your attitude and mood behind what you want must shift. You have got to get out and live by a higher standard and not the by the standards of where you might be now. But the most important part is that you have got to believe in yourself! Low self-esteem and low self-worth are dream killers. They make them seem like they are unachievable and undeserving, but they are achievable and deserving!

The higher self-worth you have the more it motivates you into ACTION! (There’s that word again). Better states of mind and positive self-initiated motion help to achieve what you want! You actually begin to look forward to finding out what those dreams will feel like when they arrive. You’ll look forward to applying your hard work and knowledge each step of the way.

More and more, you’ll be motivated to stay on track with your plans and goals, instead of falling off track and having your dreams seem like nothing but a complete train wreck!

Here are some coaching tips on getting started:

  • Say your dreams out loud to yourself and write them down. Make them more real by stating the obvious. Get them out of your head and onto paper and into the Uni-verse!
  • Change your thinking. Use mantras, affirmations, mirror work to build your self-esteem.
  • Get some cheerleaders! Go to your support system. Tell them what you need, what you want to achieve. Buddy up with another friend who is motivated to get their dreams rolling, too.
  • Take personal growth studies, read motivating books, quotes, blogs (well, you got this one checked, right? :)) work with a mentor or a coach to help guide you through the fear.
  • Most importantly: TAKE MASSIVE ACTION!!! (Every day, even if just little steps.)

Taking action has a positive physiological effect on the body – all the way up to the way you think! Remember, what you say, think, eat, and breathe affects the way your body will react. So when you decide to shock your body into change, it breathes a whole new life into the way you think. Which, by the way, controls your actions. Hmmm… ;)

Get motivated to take risks, meet new people, have the stamina and endurance to see your dreams peek through the curtains of your fear in the beginning, all the way to the entire stage symphony being shined on the amazing stage that is and can be YOUR LIFE!

By the way, I have been SO GRATEFUL to experience many of my dreams! My best: I am helping and teaching others and sharing wisdom globally, and it’s so fulfilling to my heart. Now, I am not far off from that home in Sedona I want or the fancy convertible to get me there! ;)

So what dreams and goals have you been wanting to achieve? What reasons or excuses have you used to not pursue them? Who is your support system that will help you on your way to your dreams? What actions can you take today to help raise your self-esteem? Let me know in the comments below!

All My Love,

Drew

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Andrew “Drew” Parales is a vocational rehab educator for students with disabilities in transition & employment, a school site program & events coordinator/trainer. He is also the creator and personal growth mentor of “i LOVE Liberation” Connect with Drew at:

www.iloveliberation.com

Facebook: ILOVEliberation

Twitter: @iLOVEliberation

  • Kelsey Campion

    Drew,

    Thanks for sharing, definitely what I needed to hear right now. In the midst of a career change and dealing with heaps of fear and uncertainty and questioning if I’m “good enough” at any particular thing. Coming from an academic background, I thought my next goal had to be concrete and quantifiable, but you’ve proved me wrong. Saying I want “an outlet to think and act more creatively, a way to help and teach others, be my own boss, take vacations on whim” is okay and I don’t have to have my next career move planned down to the details. My extreme aversion to uncertainty has kept me stuck- thanks for helping me reframe and realize what an exciting time this is.

    With Admiration,
    Kelsey

    • http://www.iLOVEliberation.com/ Drew Parales

      Hi Kelsey!
      What am amazing share! Thank you so much for reading! I know EXACTLY where you are coming from! I had the same aversions and it took everything I had to move past my “stuff” and get going to where I wanted to go. I had to realize that my desires were stronger than my fear. When I reached out, I found that there were others that were in the same boat, and we helped each other flow downstream! I’m so happy this piece helped you see that everything really is within your reach and totally attainable. YOU CAN DO THIS! Let me know how you walk along the path of our career change Kelsey..

      All my Love, Drew

      • mnady

        Talk about perfect timing! I also am in the midst of moving forward in a new career. I just had my first interview yesterday and while I know objectively that it went well, my fear is now trying to convince me otherwise. Thanks Drew

        • http://www.iLOVEliberation.com/ Drew Parales

          YES!! Timing is everything! ;) I am wishing you THE BEST of luck with the outcome of your interview.. Recognize your fear, and release it out. What is yours will come flying right to you! Let me know how it all turns out!

          Luck & Love, Drew

  • Cher

    Drew,
    Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I have worked with students with developmental disabilities for 19 years, and 4 years ago I lost my job. I am now in the throes of writing a book, which I have had wonderful advice here on TDL! I too love Sedona, and have often thought that I would love to live there. It is so spiritual and magical, feel good place for me. I am trying, uhhhhh… doing … the steps it takes to move forward, but I can see that I need to do more outward work on what I want and ASK FOR IT!
    Thank you again… I can’t wait for you to tell us all about your new place in Sedona!

    • http://www.iLOVEliberation.com/ Drew Parales

      Hi Cher!
      Its great to have teaching students with disabilities in common with others! We have so much to say and do, dont we? ;) I LOVE hearing that you are writing a book. CONGRATS TO YOU! Way to step into your dreams and taking action to make them come true. Like you said, its in the “DOING!” I would love to hear more about how your doing on the completion of your book, so keep me posted. NEVER GIVE UP! And you are so welcome,.. I’ll be back to let you know how my new sanctuary is the magical Sedona! Something else we have in common. ;) Thank you so much for sharing!
      Lots of Love, Drew

  • Sayeda Mohamed

    Hi Drew,
    Thankyou for pushing me even more forward to what I want. I’ve had huge issues with motivation and believing that I don’t deserve something, like being a singer/songwriter. I’ve been pushing away my dream for years and you know what? It keeps haunting me. It doesn’t leave. I’d started a blog recently to document my journey to becoming an artist, a small step to opening myself to the universe but I never showed it to my friends or family. But finally yesterday I decided to make a Facebook page to promote my blog and invite all my friends and peers…
    I feel so liberated now. Like if finally decided wholeheartedly….okay, I’m doing this that’s it. No more back and forth about it. I know I’m on this dangerous unknown path but it’s also exhilarating! Still this helped so much. Every story helps because sometimes I start losing faith when I see my peers on more secure paths…
    Thankyou :)
    And um, here it is http://www.thealternativephoenix.blogspot.com
    I’m going to be an artist. No if’s, and’s or but’s

    • http://www.iLOVEliberation.com/ Drew Parales

      Hi Sayeda!
      I LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear this!!! No if’s and’s, or but’s!! Thats the way to charge forward, focus on your dreams!! You have a beautiful story to live out and it right there. Im so happy that this article helped you!! I am going to hit your blog now!! Keep up the amazing and creative work! I believe in you..
      Big Love, Drew