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Ask For What You Want!

by Chris Assaad on January 7, 2012

Hey friends! Happy New Year!

I’m excited to share my first video blog with you and even more excited that I put it together with my main man Mastin Kipp while I was visiting L.A. over the holidays.

The vlog was inspired by a great conversation we had about the importance of ASKING FOR WHAT WE WANT in life, in relationships and in business. We’re all familiar with the saying: “Ask and it is given”. Well, there’s definitely truth to the fact that if we don’t communicate what we want to the Uni-verse and to others, there’s a significantly lower chance that we will see our wishes come to fruition. And yet, so many of us don’t really speak up and ask for what we want because of a number of reasons that we hold onto as justification for keeping quiet.

At the same time, it’s important to be able to ask for what we want from an authentic place and without having attachment to the outcome. When dealing with people, this means that BEING with people should come first and above any desire or agenda we are hoping to fulfill. When it comes to things we’re after in life more generally, the parallel is BEING content with where we are and not coming from a place of lack, despite having some goal or destination that we have our sights set on. When we are able to strike this balance, our intention will be pure and this will greatly affect the vibration of our requests and the way they will be received.

The last piece of the puzzle is the importance of seeking to bring something to the table when we are making requests to create a win-win. Asking ourselves what we can give in return or how we can add value or serve is a great place to start. In this way, we are both the giver and the receiver. Our requests are much more likely to be heard and acted upon when they are coupled with a desire to make a contribution rather than being all about what we can get. Rather than treating others as a means to some ego-driven end, this approach honors our connectedness as human beings and puts relationships first.

The start of the New Year is a great time to set your sights high and use your voice to ask for what you want! Let us know what you’re asking for and where your requests are coming from. Remember, think big and go for it because this life is ours to create and if we don’t ask, we won’t get.

May this be OUR best year yet!!!

Much love,

Chris (and Mastin) :)

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Chris Assaad is a rad singer/songwriter and a TDL reader. Check out his website here.

  • Trali

    Just watched your vlog! Hehehe was so lovely to watch you guys! I’m asking for love and to be in a relationship in 2012!! And not from a place of lack, I have a lot of love to give and I am ready for a commitment and I love myself first, taken a while to get here….ready to receive as well as give. Im also asking for a career change to work with wonderful positive people who inspire me and to work in a team supporting each other and constanting learning and being stimulated. I have a lot to give, i am positive and uplifting to be around and i am hard working and dedicated, social and a fast learner and have integrity. I would also like to ask for new friends….I’ve done a lot of shifting of late and would like to change my social network, I’m fun to be around and very understanding and supportive. Really would like to focus on
    pilates yoga and fitness bcos I love these things, makes me happy and proliferates into my relationships with others, the world in general etc. am so grateful to be living in a country that enables me to do so….I’m also asking for small changes to peoples lives for the good….whether that means being kinder to others, being more environmentally conscious or the like, any small change we can make that has a better effect to the world we live in (more people reading TDL would help this cause hehehe!!) is wat I’m asking for in 2012!!!!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Yes Trali! Love it!! :)

  • http://twitter.com/jeffsoars Jeff Mendelsohn

    I  would like both of you to travel to Asheville, NC for a speaking or gathing event.  Maybe you could stay in my apartment as my giving.  Abundance is all about taking chances.  My job has changed somewhat with income and I have to be free of holding on to the old ways, but positive about the new; 
    Jeff
    jeffmende@gmail.com

  • sarah

    I recently had a big shift in perspective about something i want to manifest. For a while i had wanted to get my own place, starting from a place of ownership/independence/’should’, to serve me. Then recently i realised what i really wanted to do was create a space for love – a social hub, where friends can come and jam (i wanna hold bi-monthly art jams, music jams, film jams!). To provide a sanctuary not just for me but for others. I now know that coming from this place of service, expansion, sharing, creating joy, will bring me closer to my dream faster and easier. No more grasping about what i can get, my focus is now on being able to create a beautiful space for my community.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      That’s beautiful Sarah! Cultivating community is so important, especially for artists and it’s awesome that you’re taking that on. Wishing you all the best on the path to your dreams!

  • Sassy pants

    I want to: love myself, love others, and find a deep, romantic, healthy and fun lifetime partnership. I want to bring playfulness and joy to everything I do. I want to ask more questions. I want to show up to everything with an open heart and kindnessbto everyone. I want to experience the magnificent life is conspiring for me. I want to be connected to and the same as everything and everyone in the universe… I want to say goodbye to a mountain man from last week and wish him all the love on his amazing new journey, and say I am sorry for not being as open and present as I could have. And thank him for the lessen. And forgive myself.

    • Christinemskinner

      that’s beautiful !

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Amazing!

  • http://www.jillrowe.com jill

    my goal this year is to connect with as many people as possible so that I can soak up knowledge, share my lessons and create a dialogue that will be ongoing and fruitful.  My goal is to share my message and through my passion and desire to create change in people’s lives ~ that I will also create change in my own.

  • Maureen

    Thank you for all that you do.  I can’t start my day without my dose of the DL and am especially pleased when Chris is in the mix.

    My goal for 2012 is to get back East to my family, and to secure a job that I love and that has meaning and purpose.  I want to make a difference.   I do believe that I am exactly where I should be at this time in my life.  Definately not where I ever dreamed I would be…. but I know that the Uni-verse has my back. 

    2012 is my year, and I am excited to see where it takes me.  xo

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Yes Maureen! May 2012 be your best year yet!

  • Katherine

    For 2012 I want to be more bold in asking for what I want; and just took a huge step to do that (and was pleased watching the vlog that I know I asked from that authentic place!).  I work for a clinic driven by a parent company back East, and see what miracles we perform everyday with the fragile, mentally distressed elderly I work with.  The type of clinic I work for is in short supply in the rural west — I want our parent company to hire me to market and direct their program more on this side of the continent, to serve the greatest number of people we can, to return joy and quality of life to people whom depression has robbed of these things.  I want to double my income this year so I can completely erase the debt I left a 22 year marriage with and start to create financial security for myself (which in turn allows me to be more generous in the world); and be able to move forward to create the other part of my life:  a small ranch setting where my young adult children and I can manifest that other dream we love, raising beautiful, quality, sound “doing” horses; where my daughter can teach and work her healing magic and my son can train and practice and be ever more competitive in what he does.  I want to come enough into my own identity through my work and my passions to connect with a heartmate who not only allows me to give and receive love and passion, but someone who while building his own dreams can support mine; and appreciates the love and support I offer in return. Someone who is not afraid to explore the mystery and depth of a love blessed not only by two humans, but made sacred by our intention and willingness to submit it all to God and the Uni-Verse to continue to grow us.

    Thanks for the wonderful wake up this morning, Mastin and Chris, and for the opportunity to clarify a little more this morning “What does Katherine want?”.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Great stuff Katherine! Thank you for sharing :)

  • erin

    I want to find a way to share my gifts in 2012, live my truth, become financially free and find a job that truly aligns with my values. I want to serve others, be in the place that makes my heart sing. Oh, I also want to go back to school and get a degree in psychology! 

  • Tara Rose

    I am a classically trained singer, guitarist and pianist. I ask that the universe bring me students that are eager to learn so that I may share my musical knowledge with the next generation. I also ask for more venues and audiences with which to share my gifts and to keep the rich traditions of classical music alive. 

  • Jana Wilcox

    LOVE this post and know it was the clarification I’ve been looking for on so many levels…it explains where I’m at in my life and is the answer to ALL that I have been asking.  I’ll share my mission statement I wrote almost 20 years ago and though I’ve embodied it on some levels until today did I really feel the essence of how my personal mission will truly manifest, how I will step into the present moment with love.  Your vlog gave me a glimps of what it feels like.  It comes from a place of being love and giving love and always asking, How may I serve?  This may sound strange but I feel like I just got the key that unlocks the door that is opening before me. 

    “Let go of the past, release the future AND live in this moment with love spreading joy wherever I journey.”  to simplify, “Be here now with Love”

    Thank you for sharing your light and showing me the way, I will be forever grateful!

    xo, Jana

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Awesome Jana! Your mission statement is beautiful :)

  • Niki

    Awesome Chris! Really enjoyed it! Very inspirational and in fact very pertinent to what I’m currently going through right now! :) thank you ans lots of love!

    Niki

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Thanks Niki! Glad to hear. Much love to you too :)

  • http://www.angelsamongus.tv/ Valerie Wildman

    Hi Mastin and Chris,
    Thanks so much for this wonderful vlog and site!
    Thank you also for the invitation to ask for what we want in 2012.
    I would like to help others realize their magnificence and power to make a positive difference in the world moment-to-moment. Toward this end, I would be most grateful if you would share http://www.angelsamongus.tv with your readers/viewers and invite everyone to participate/co-create a positive place where we all can inspire each other as “a-reporters” by contributing positive uplifting inspiring videos, stories, songs, poems, art, dances etc.
    With Deep Love and Gratitude for All That You Are and All That You Do,
    Valerie Wildman
    (bio/contact info is also on the site)

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      That’s wonderful Valerie :) I checked out the website and I love the message! Keep up what you’re doing and all the best in bringing your vision to fruition!!

  • Mayuri

    This was such a beautiful vlog! Much love to you

  • Gina

    I greatly appreciated reading and watching the vlog, Chris & Mastin.  As a singer/songwriter, having support in my community has been a challenge that I’ve faced for several years now.  I have often asked myself why this is so.  The key point that I found to be most valuable from your blog and vlog is knowing the origin of my request.  Do I have solely positive intentions?  Am I being desperate?  This point was the one point that I was missing when it came to asking for support.  I am thrilled to have acquired this knowledge and cannot wait to apply it in 2012. Thank you very much.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      That’s great Gina! Thanks for openly sharing your insight. Wishing you a an amazing year in 2012 and that you find the support and community you desire :)

  • Angie

    This is so great! And it was so nice to hear and see you both, Mastin & Chris! In 2012, I am asking the Uni-verse to help me with my dream of beginning my very own music classes and eventually my own music studio. I currently teach at a place called Musikgarten, which provides family music and movement classes for children ages 0-9. Music has always been a passion of mine, and I have been so fortunate to be able to make a living from performing for the past 10 years. When I went to Musikgarten training, I suddenly became passionate about teaching this philosophy they have – which focuses on the importance of music in a child’s life at a very early age, not only for musicality sake, but for basic child development in general. I realized it was another extension of my musical talent: being able to foster musicality in young children and possibly inspire them to future musical greatness, or at the very least a deep appreciation for music. In October, I moved 40 minutes away from the studio I have been teaching at for the past year and a half, so now I am commuting. I am happy to do so, but I also did some research and I see a lack of anything like Musikgarten in the new area where I live. I am so excited about the possibility of starting my own thing near my new home, but it’s also a very daunting task. I need to begin to approach people that may be able to help me in creating my new dream, but it is also out of a place of service – I want to bring this fantastic program to more and more children because I think it is so wonderful and important to a child’s development and in keeping a love of the arts alive in individuals and families. So, I will begin my quest, as frightened and overwhelmed as I am – and I am starting by putting this post up and out into the Uni-verse. Thank you for this vlog today :) Love and peace…

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Good for you Angie! That sounds like an amazing vision and the fact that you’re coming up against feelings of overwhelm and fear are simply a reflection of the magnitude of what you’re creating. Go for it girl! Much love :)

  • Suellenmtroup

    Chris & Mastin! Your vlog today helped me so much! I’ve been “stuck” and you gave me a new way of looking at my situation. You see, i’m in direct sales and part of my work requires me to pick up the phone and “ask” but i have been paralyzed with fear of rejection because i think they won’t want what i have to sell and i certainly don’t want a sale out of pity. When i change my thinking to reflect what’s in it for them then it comes from a place of pure delight and genuine excitement that i have something exqusite to offer or “give” not “get”. Hence the difference in a “giver” vs. a “taker”.
    Thanks guys! xxoo
    Suellen

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear Sueellen! You got it! :)

  • Loving Me

    I’m asking for partnership based on love, not on fear or ego. I realized that my method of going about getting into partnership/marriage had been based on fear and ego. I was afraid I would never find it, particularly if I showed the person the real me, so I pretended to be what I wasn’t. My true self never showed up. My ego told me that that I wasn’t complete since I didn’t have a partner and I took  comments such as “you’re so beautiful and successful, kind and sweet so why haven’t you found anyone?” to mean there was something wrong with me. Looking back there was nothing wrong, I just didn’t believe that I was good enough or worthy. In the past year, in a quest to find out what was “wrong” with me, I found that I didn’t love myself. It took a lot of deep soul searching and an excellent spiritual psychology program to help me see that I was loveable and I now know what it feels like to love myself. That love is growing everyday and subsequently so is my love of others and it’s a very different love. It’s starting to show up as me wanting to give instead of wanting to receive. In fact that realization has just come to me in the past two days and your video confirmed what was coming forward for me. I feel like I love authentically from deep down in my soul and it brings tears to my eyes. I’m happy and yet I’m not in partnership. A year ago my entire happiness depended on whether I was even dating someone. I’m growing in leaps and bounds and sometimes it hurts but once I see below the hurt to the love, my life expands. Thank you for this video and your Daily Love. 

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Wow. Thank you for sharing your experience and such a powerful and moving insight. I can feel the love :)

  • Vicheka_im

    i want to feel empowered. i want to be independent, i want to make my own money, and i want to break it big as a fashion stylist.

  • Gloria

    Dear Mastin and Chris,

    What do I want to ask for?   A lot!  Mastin, I have an idea close to my heart to discuss with you in future.  But it’s nowhere near ready yet.  I want to both ask and (be ABLE to) receive that 2012 be but the beginning of the best my life is yet to bring, growing more into my purpose, my truth, my service, and the highest version of my authentic self.

    Happy New Year!!!

    Much Love and Gratitude to You Both,

    Gloria

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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BMZWHTBZ7357KGCLG7VWU2TJ6Y Lauren-Lee

    Hi Guys,

     

    I happened to (accidentally on
    purpose) stumble on your video blog and like all things in life; it was a case
    of attracting just what I needed. My life took a drastic and expansive turn a
    few months back and after years of disconnection and fear, I have been on a reflective,
    sometimes extreme journey back to myself.

     

    It has been a time of healing and
    a time of daring to dream. A time of ferreting out all the baggage I have been
    hauling around with me and after much sorting and repacking I am optimistic
    about my future. I strive to live for the day, the moment and the only thing
    that matters is ‘how I feel’. I may not be clear on what the future entails
    exactly but I am enthused enough and trust enough in myself and the universe to
    climb on the mystical adventure safari. I sometimes get stuck in the ‘sacrificing
    my needs for those I love’, ‘pleasing others to establish my worth’ and ‘grasping
    for a self-imposed need for perfection’ and not just ‘being me’. I know the
    secret for me is just pure surrender to the flow of life.

     

    I loved listening to your
    interaction and just having you both verbalize what I have had rattling around
    in my head.  

    Life has been exposing me with
    increasing frequency to people that follow their bliss and unearth their
    creative freedom much like you.

     

    So my new year’s “ask” is simply
    to be who I was born to be, to live each day for the love of it,  and spend more time doing the things I love
    just for the pure heavenly, “joyous smile on my face” experience of it.  My passion is writing, it is as natural to me
    as it is to breathe. So I “ask” that I empower myself to write because it eases
    my spirit, write for the exploration of seeing what creation unfolds on the
    pages and write because it is an innate part of who I am.

     

    This morning I found myself watching the sunrise bleed over the
    horizon, the wind playfully cajoling in my hair, the water softly giving way to
    the relentless pressure of the ferry and I felt invigorated and blessed to be alive.
     It reinforced for me that life is all
    about the small stuff, the minutes in-between the focal points of our day, the special
    people that prompt you to live with intent, laugh with gusto, appreciate small
    gestures, rejoice in everyone’s individuality and find the wonder in every
    aspect of being part of the human race.

     

    Loving wishes for all in 2012, and
    know that I have in my sharing already given myself the gift of doing something
    I passionately love… J

     

    Love and Light

    Lauren-Lee

    Sydney, Australia