About Alexis Wolfer

Being Vulnerable Is Sexy!

Being vulnerable gets a bad wrap – especially within the context of dating and relationships. Out of fear (of rejection, looking needy, or any of our other insecurities that come to the surface when embarking on an intimate relationship), we try to hide our vulnerabilities at all costs. We play games. We act tough. We… Continue Reading →

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Get Behind Your Worth!

I was at Soul Cycle this morning and the instructor kept saying “get behind your worth.” Now, if any of you are regulars at Soul Cycle – or any other motivating spin class – you know that these types of mantras are thrown out around class almost as much as the sweat-soaked towels are. And,… Continue Reading →

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Embracing The Unknown

So many of us write “to do” lists, make 5-year plans and set expectations. We foresee career trajectories, anticipate the future of our relationships and aim to achieve every last one of our life goals. But what if what you planned isn’t nearly as good as what could be? I’ve often said that I’m of… Continue Reading →

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Forgive Yourself Right Now

This week marks the beginning of the Jewish New Year where the emphasis is on wiping your slate clean, starting anew and forgiveness. No matter your religion, though, I encourage you to focus on forgiving… yourself. Whether you push yourself too hard to “do it all,” spread yourself too thin in an attempt to be… Continue Reading →

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Acknowledging Others!

For most of us, all we want is to be acknowledged: to be heard, considered and appreciated. We want to be seen. Whether you’re arguing with a spouse, ordering lunch or speaking with a co-worker today, ask yourself this: Are you hearing what he or she is saying? Are you considering what he or she… Continue Reading →

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Saying No

This past week has thrown me into a sleep-deprived whirlwind. I haven’t made it to the gym in 4 (going on 5) days – and anyone who knows me, knows this is a clear barometer of my stress level. My carbohydrate, sugar and caffeine intakes are each creeping up daily. I am overtired, over committed… Continue Reading →

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The Weight Of Our Words

I’ve lately been spending a lot of time thinking about the conversations we have and time we spend discussing how others look. It seems like all too often we start conversations with people we haven’t seen in a while with something to the effect of “you look wonderful” or “have you lost weight?” – and… Continue Reading →

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Being Euphoric

So many of us are people-pleasers. We’re concerned with what others think of us, their feelings towards us and how we can best please our friends, families, acquaintances and more. But while all of these are wonderful qualities that shouldn’t be overlooked, they should not – no, they CANNOT – come at the expense of… Continue Reading →

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Love Your Body’s Core

I was at dinner with a friend last week (shout-out to celeb trainer Kit Rich) and we were talking about my upcoming Body Heart photoshoot, where in which I would be asked to place a heart on my favorite body part in an un-retouched picture. And while you’ll have to wait to see my chosen body part –… Continue Reading →

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Happiness Order

So often we try and “fix” the problems in our lives – or the things we’re less than happy with. We focus on the things that aren’t. Some of the more Type-A among us (myself included) make lists of things we want to change in our lives: our job, location, salary, relationship status, weight, health…… Continue Reading →

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What Do You Say About Your Body?

It seems like every week I read something new on what my body shape/type/size says about me. Are “apples” at increased risk of heart disease? Should “rulers” worry about back problems? If I’m a “pear” should I exercise differently? But instead of worrying about what your body says about you, the more important question should… Continue Reading →

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From The Outside Looking In

A few weeks ago I was shooting a TV segment and making small talk with one of the models on the set. (As a Real Beauty activist I try to shoot segments with Real Women (not that models aren’t real, of course!) – and, as a result, a lot of my models-for-a-day have full time… Continue Reading →

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