A place to Love and be Loved
Why do we turn the things in our lives that are gifts into complaints and burdens and headaches and drama? Why does it take tragedy (usually someone else’s) to wake us up to the gifts (however impermanent they truly are) to what we have in front of us right now? Why do we take for… Continue Reading →
There’s a military saying, “Embrace the suck.” It’s a very Buddhist concept. When we deny what reality is giving us, we create suffering. So life is a dance between minimizing expectations and surrendering to what our lives actually reveal to us. By embracing our lives totally (even the stuff that “sucks”), we get through them. The Armed… Continue Reading →
Connection. It’s what we’re all after. But we mistake being “connected” (through technology) with real connection. So we keep searching for it in things. Gadgets. Tweets. Status updates. Instagrams. Pics. Video streams. And the more we keep reaching for those things to connect us, the less we actually feel. Period. Connection comes from being with… Continue Reading →
In his book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz mentions four principles we might want to follow to live a more present, joyous and drama-free life. 1) Be impeccable with your word. 2) Always do your best. 3) Don’t take anything personally. 4) Don’t make assumptions. Ahhhhh . . . yes. Assumptions. We assume all the… Continue Reading →
A student of mine said recently that while she’s driving around town she often asks herself, “What am I doing with my life?” We can all relate. But when we ask ourselves that question, we often do it out of panic and undermine how much we’ve actually accomplished. We beat ourselves up for where we… Continue Reading →
I think part of the challenge of being on a spiritual journey is that sometimes we can get all “Lama-Dama-Ding-Dong” about it. We think enlightenment is serious or we express these platitudes of love and peace and Kumbaya – when in actuality, real transformative, spiritual change occurs by getting into the nitty-gritty of it all…. Continue Reading →
We live in three different realities. Or another way to think of it is that we allow three different narratives to run our lives. What if we became more mindful of which narrative we spent the most time? The first reality is simply the nature of the 3-dimensional reality we’re all living in. It’s our… Continue Reading →
We hold back for all sorts of reasons. We think we’re going to be too much. We’re scared we won’t have enough if we give it all away. We believe that others will judge us and we’ll look stupid or weird or crazy. We don’t trust that if we really stopped holding ourselves back that… Continue Reading →
Do you realize how powerful you are? How you can become actualized in your life in a way that empowers yourself and others? As you become more and more self-actualized (which is really self-empowerment), you move from a preponderance of insignificant upsets, distractions and nuisances in your life to greater accomplishments. You stop spending time… Continue Reading →
Sometimes you’re going to want to quit. It’s normal. People feel that way in all walks of life and in all pursuits – from artists to athletes, from mothers to media moguls. If you didn’t feel that way, I’d think you were maybe not normal. But often, in an artistic career path, we choose to quit,… Continue Reading →
We all have great ideas. Inspired light bulb moments. Thoughts fueled by creativity and intuition. Brilliant flashes of genius that reside within us but are connected to something much larger than ourselves. And then we think about them. (Don’t do that!) Over and over. And again and again. The more we think about the original idea, the… Continue Reading →
I had a stunning realization recently. My expectations in life are a direct result of the questions I am asking myself on a daily basis. When we ask ourselves questions from our brain’s neural grooves that have been habituated over time – we don’t have access to the things we really desire in life. Well… Continue Reading →
