Beyond Valentine’s Day—Rip Your Heart Wide-Open!

annieburnside01Valentine’s Day need not simply be a day to think of love only in terms of our own romantic partner or our own children or our own parents. Yes, Hallmark and Russell Stover want us to believe that this is what a holiday based on love is all about, but perhaps we can choose differently. Perhaps we can choose to utilize this day to consider what it could mean to our world to simply LOVE ‘EM ANYWAY… All of them anyway. Everyone anyway…

The boy who answers you rudely in the carpool… LOVE him anyway.

The woman who bristles at you in the check-out line… LOVE her anyway.

The man who begs for money on the street… LOVE him anyway.

The woman who uses drugs… LOVE her anyway.

The girl who bullies your child… LOVE her anyway.

The husband who cheats… LOVE him anyway.

The mother who belittled… LOVE her anyway.

The father who was weak… LOVE him anyway.

The murderer who endangers our city… LOVE him anyway.

But how? HOW some might ask. First of all, LOVING THEM ANYWAY has nothing to do with not allowing natural consequences to unfold. To put that in street terms, if you do the crime, you must do the time. Every single choice, EVERY CHOICE, leads us in a direction and into another choice. WE are responsible for our choices. There are natural consequences for our choices. Period.

And yet, there is a third perspective that very few on our planet have ever tapped into, much less lived, and the time has come for more of us to do so if we truly wish to offer our highest self to others and heal our divisive world.

This third perspective is a HEART-BASED perspective that holds opposing perspectives in a place of Oneness and LOVE, and it goes something like this:

We truly see a woman who has been abused, and we feel her pain and sorrow—and without judgment—we LOVE her anyway. Likewise, we truly see the man who abused her, and we feel his pain and rage—and without judgment—we LOVE him anyway.

When we truly see another, we see past their humanity and into their soul. We feel BOTH the reality of our shared humanity AND the essence of our shared spirit, simultaneously. S.I.M.U.L.T.A.N.E.O.U.S.L.Y. As ONE…

This third perspective is called “Christ Consciousness” and “The Buddha Within” and it is available to all of us like never before. When we allow the third perspective, we transcend the duality of the limited human perspective and include ALL in our LOVE and know ourselves as consciously spirit-embodied. There is no higher way that we can navigate our world. A rare few have offered us this perspective through their own lives lived, and the message has always been JOIN ME in this heart-based consciousness. The message has always been WE ARE ALL ONE. The message has always been judge not. The message has always been the PEACE that passeth all understanding.

So this Valentine’s Day, perhaps it is time to feel beyond what we normally perceive as LOVE. This Valentine’s Day let it not simply be about a limited romantic love for a few who are mine but rather an infinite love that includes everything.

If we remain locked in solely the human perspective, we remain locked in a limited capacity to love.

The time has come. Rip your heart open wider, deeper, broader and higher.

Our heart awaits the rip.

Our world awaits 7 billion rips…

Warmth and LOVE,


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A modern bridge between the mainstream and the mystical, Annie Burnside, M.Ed. is a soul nurturer, award-winning author, and teacher specializing in parenting, conscious relationships, authentic living and spiritual development. Her book “Soul to Soul Parenting” won the 2011 Nautilus Silver Book Award.

  • Jacktortoise

    I rise up, this day after Valentine’s, to see and feel ALL the pain and suffering of years and decades and centuries of disconnection, ignorance, abuse, neglect and separation, and somehow, to love it anyway, and to get on with the healing and reunion with love…….thanks Annie…..

    • Annie

      Jack, beautifully put. Decades and centuries… so true. Thank you! Warmth, Annie

  • Nice job Annie!!! Loved it.  

    • Annie

      Thank you, Todd! Why didn’t I get a “sweetie”:) Ha! 

  • Sgraham003

    If I could be less quick to judge and more quick to love my world would be a happier place.

    • Annie

      Indeed! Thank you for putting it all in a much-needed nutshell:) Much LOVE, Annie

  • S_adrian_miller

    Anne, as always you say it when we think or feel it.  Thank you for permission. 

    • Annie

      SAM, I appreciate you taking the time to share here! I agree that by offering whatever is in our heart, we give others permission to do the same… xx Annie 

  • Amyhayden5

    Annie, you are always challenging me to dig deeper!

    • Annie

      Thank you, Amy! I very much enJOY YOUR offerings, as well, which also invite thoughtfulness, presence and depth… 

  • madelinetrue

    As always, spreading the LOVE and with kindness and logic, nurturing other souls to do the same. You are doing great work, thank you Annie! 

    • Annie

      Madeline, thank you for showing up here today with those supportive words. I APPRECIATE it and YOU greatly! See you in the lake soon:) JOY, Annie

  • michellebersell

    YES!  Love Infinite LOVE – wonderful Annie!  Thank you for sharing your wide-open heart!!

    • Annie

      I am doing my best to sustain the wide-open heart, Michelle. Not always easy as you know, but well worth the effort. Becoming more effortless as I grow:) LOVE ya, Annie

  • Juliaford

    Ok…. Today I LOVED HIM ANYWAY…
    And I released the negative energy and made way for a much better weekend ahead.Thanks Annie!

    • Annie

      WooHoo, Julia! It has a way of doing that and it changes our world… Thanks for sharing this wonderful unfolding with me:) Warmth, Annie

  • Gorgeous imagery … Love this Annie …

    • Annie

      Thank you, AM, and I have a feelin’ that you’ve got the LOVE ‘EM ANYWAY part kinda down:) xx Annie

  • Kathleen

    Another Fabulous Blog Annie!   First we thought our Hearts were Broken.  As we  are now understanding that our hearts were never broken, they have only been Broken Open . . .  It IS time ~ 

    So Cheers to Letting IT RIP!!!!!!!  Love it!!!  <3

    • Annie

      Kathleen, I LOVE how you explained it above! I agree wholeHEARTedly:) Break it open…WIDE open! Annie