But Will It Be Worth It When You Get There? The Feeling Of Success (+ a Free Chapter!)

It’s a crime against the human spirit that we so often disassociate positive emotions from the pursuit of success.

We tell ourselves that It’ll be worth it when we get there, and we grind and crank and endure our way to the goal posts. We man up, suck it up, and shut up—all in the name of making a better life for ourselves. We fake it so we can be somebody.

Our productivity—and results-obsessed society—pathologizes feelings. Business and academic cultures are especially adept at discrediting the intelligence of feelings. After all, following your heart is often illogical and seemingly counterproductive. Not too many shareholders are asking, “What’s the most joyful way to conduct business?”

Scarce are the diet programs and exercise regimens that value happiness or freedom over weight-loss metrics . . . I’d flip for an investment adviser who asked me, “What makes you feel most connected and excited in terms of where you can put your money?”

Discipline can feel wildly liberating. Shrewd, tactical thinking can feel incredibly creative and energizing. I’m not saying that positive feelings can’t exist in pursuit of material goals or within conventional environments. I’m saying that:

… far too often, epidemically often, we go for the external win at the cost of our internal wellness. And that’s because we don’t value our inner attunement as much as we value outer attainment.

– excerpted from The Desire Map, Book One

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Danielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map, author of The Fire Starter Sessions (Random House/Crown), and co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. An inspirational speaker, former think tank exec and business strategist, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over a million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes. You can also find her on Facebook and Twitter @daniellelaporte

  • Trent

    Beautifully written Danielle.  You are absolutely write in stating that happiness should come in the pursuit of goals, not postponed until we achieve our goals.  When we think happiness is at the end of a journey, we miss all the fun of the journey, which is where happiness is to begin with.  

    Thank you for drawing attention to this necessary paradigm shift.

    Enjoy the journey,

  • Drew

    WONDERFUL… Just wonderful!!!! Congrats on the new book Danielle! Cant wait to read it and soak it all in!
    All my Love

  • Elle

    I love your way with words. Always a surprise and delight when I read what you’ve written! 

    All the best wishes,

  • Marlene

    Your writing is always beautiful, short and powerful. A magical combination that sparks new thoughts, revelations and truths in my heart. Thank you. 

  • “The intelligence of feelings”… I love that. We are all enough TODAY! Thank you!

  • Fabulous quotable! We’re off path as a society in seeing the truth in our intuitions, but you are certainly doing your part to help us back to a beautiful appreciation of it. Thank you.