Caution! Reading This Will Change Your Life!

Do you have the strength, faith and Love to truly hold space for you and those that you Love?

I know, “hold space” sounds like one of those weird “new age”, “self-help” terms that don’t really mean anything. You know what – you’re right. And I want to change that, right now.

To me, “holding space” means being able to sit in a space and mindset of Loving compassion and non-judgment as you and those around you process their lives. This means, instead of being pulled in every direction by the emotional whims of those you Love, you just detach and watch it unfold like a movie you’re watching instead of taking everything “they” do personally, thus affecting your state of mind and well-being.

If you live at the whim of what other people are thinking and feeling, you are like a little ship lost in a storm at sea. You can’t control anything; you are at the whim of the tide, the wind and all the elements outside of yourself.

But, that is not what we are. We are not small ships. We are huge, if we choose to be. We are so big, that we don’t have to be affected by the whims of other people’s emotions – OR OUR OWN!

That’s right. We can watch our emotions come and go, too. The trick is to not apply a meaning or a judgment to the emotions of others, but rather, observe them.

This way, as we are changing, growing, opening, fearing, whatever we and those around us may be going through, we are no longer defined by it. Just like we are not defined by the movies we watch, we watch them with joy because we know it’s just a movie. I’m asking you to do this for your own emotions and for the emotions of others.

Instead of being all caught up in how other people are acting, feeling and being, and also believing that your emotions are permanent, just detach and watch them.

This is what holding space means. It means not reacting with fear or haste – but waiting, watching and then RESPONDING with Love and awareness. This is a huge step you can take towards loving yourself as well as loving others. You are now free to express yourself. Others are free to express themselves without being judged.

This is how we grow and Love together, by stepping out of judgment and reaction and holding space. So the next time you read or hear “hold space” just know it means to watch the comings and goings of life without being attached to them. See life as a movie and don’t take it personally. Give yourself and those around you the freedom to process with you out loud without judgment.

The world would be a massively different place if we could all give ourselves and others the respect to do this. This change starts with you. How can you hold space for yourself and those in your life? Let me know: [email protected]

Love & space,

Mastin

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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here. Take what resonates with you in this blog and leave the rest.

  • legend

    if we will watch the comings and goings of life without being attached to them can we enjoy them?

  • Christina

    How crazy- I just watched Tricia Huffman’s (aka- Your Joylogist) video on this yesterday. It’s something I really need to work on. Thank you!

  • THANK YOU for this breeze of fresh air. I do need to remind myself every once in a while that I am not my emotions, because they come and go and I shouldn’t be defined by them.

  • I came across this concept several years ago as I was going through an emotionally hard time.  Every time I would feel those emotions coming on, I would imagine two electrical chords being unplugged and it totally worked.  I may have had to “unplug” my emotions every 20 minutes or so, but that visualization helped me get through that rough period.    Thank you Mastin!

  • Camillaasmatullah

    that was a joy to read and connect with…..i will so try to do this as i myself so often feel like that little boat! thank you for the precious insight!
    Camilla Asmatullah

  • Al

    Cool…maybe you’d like o check out my page, Al.

    http://tmoltue.blogspot.com/

  • Deliah Davis

    One question, how long are you supposed to sit around and be non responsive?  Or shall I say, is there a breaking point?

  • dyanne brown

    Excellent post. I have recently learned something about this, but this takes it a step forward.

  • Scrummybee

    “Give yourself and those around you the freedom to process with you out loud without judgment.” Beautiful Mastin, just beautiful. Thank you.

  • Wendycarly1

    I absolutely needed this, right at this moment. Thank you!

  • Ana

    Thank you so much for this! I’m working on this right now as I grow and become a more positive person, I’m learning to detach myself from what my boyfriend does or says. I’m not sure if it’s going to work out or not as there are many positive things in the relationship, but a lot of the stuff that I have doubts about is kind of stuff that I can’t make a decision from right off the bat, so I’m learning to be patient and “hold space” for this time in my life. I know all will reveal itself in due course. Thanks!

    • kitty

      I think you and i can relate because before my bf and i broke up, he was my world and i wanted to alwasy be with him and would worry about what he did but that got me nowhere. I am also ina  quest of  finding myself,  my happiness, strength, and worth. So good luck, i am sure you dont need it. 

  • Kai

    How do you detach and be in the moment?

  • kitty

    I think now adays it is so important to detach but so hard at the same time. Especially with technology. I find myself texting and fbing while hanging with other people. I really need to stop doing that. The only people who need to stay connected are doctors and thast because they are on call 🙂 We need to be present and enjoy whats in front of us and stop looking for what else we can do to entertain ourselves. We need to be comfortable with our thoughts and know that from time to time, nothing is going on and its ok to just sit. “The art of doing nothing” This is mostly for me but i am sharing incase anyone else is on my boat. Which appearantly is huge 🙂 Anyway thats my piece.

    Love and light to all,

    Kitty

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