What if we understood conflict from a new scientific quantum perspective, gaining a new awareness of how to use conflict when it arises in a way that’s healthy and creative?
If you look at your life, the periods of greatest conflict also were the opportunities for greatest growth and awareness. You were stressed about a job, had an argument with your spouse, decided to take a risk to do something new. These situations were either fueled by inner conflict or outer conflict with another. But by staying in the conflict – not running away, not shutting down, not ignoring it – you got to the other side. A resolution was created and with that came possibility. Access to something new and undiscovered. Potential. An ‘ah ha’ moment. Creativity.
But we often bail when things get crunchy, before we experience the positive results that are born through conflict. Why do we avoid it?
1). We’re not taught how to be conscious in conflict so it shuts us down.
2). We let it defeat us. We give up. We quit. We don’t realize conflict is not only ok, but is also essential to transform us.
3). We misinterpret it. We think just because there is conflict in our lives that there must be something wrong with us. Or we’re a failure. Or other people don’t have it.
If life were devoid of conflict, there would be no opportunity for evolution. We would exist in a state of nothingness. Homeostasis. Stagnation. From a biological standpoint, all species’ evolution has occurred through the triumphing over conflict to adapt. It’s called Natural Selection.
Stop making conflict so scary. Stop making it be bad. Stop confusing conflict with drama.
Drama is your story about conflict.
Conflict is just a part of life’s process to spurn you to your next level.
Talk about it less. Resolve it more.
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Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer/director/producer/teacher and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl’s Actor Workshop – where the “right brain rules” – in Los Angeles and New York. He is endlessly inspired by his students’ fearless creativity and is tireless in discovering new ways to help us all get out of our own way a little bit more each day. He just finished writing/directing his first feature film, Birds of A Feather.
Twitter – @AnthonyMeindl