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Crap You’re Leaving Behind In 2011 (And What To Take Into 2012)

by Terri Cole on December 21, 2011

Happy Holidays, Daily Lovers!

New Year’s allows us to clean the slate. To help gain clarity on what needs to go and what needs to come with you to make 2012 AMAZING, I want to share with you a New Year exercise I used to give my clients.

Create THREE separate lists:

1. CRAP YOU ARE LEAVING IN 2011
Write down experiences, feelings, people, circumstances… anything that you do not want to drag with you into 2012. Share this list with a trusted friend who will witness without judgment. Then, burn the list so the energy attached to it can be released back into The Uni-verse and out of your experience.

2. GEMS YOU ARE KEEPING FROM 2011
Write down what you learned from your experiences, good and bad, but especially from the ones on list #1. Once you honor what you learned, you won’t need to repeat the crappy situation. Even the worst situation has a gem. You just have to be willing to look through the crap to find it. Hold onto this list.

3. WHAT YOU ARE CREATING IN 2012
Write what you want to create for yourself: how you want your life to look and feel. This list should be written in the present tense and include all areas of your life: love, health, family, wealth, friends, career, fitness, spirituality, etc. Marinate, meditate and think on what you have written. Put this list where you can see it on a daily basis. When you look at this list, feel the feelings of having these things. By conjuring the feelings, you become a magnet that will draw the experiences to you.

It is a proven fact that writing down your intentions gives them a much better chance of actually coming into being. Create some time and space to creatively write your lists. Invite some friends to your manifesting party and make it fun!

We are the architects and engineers of our life experience, so commit to creating your best life in 2012!

I’m interested in what your resolutions are, what experiences you need to release, and what gems have you gleaned from various situations. I’m also here to offer any advice and be your biggest supporter in making 2012 spectacular!

Love Love Love
Terri

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Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist & transformational expert. CEO of Live Fearless and Free. Check out Terri’s website here.

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  • Anonymous

    I love this, Terri! Thanks!

    • Terri Cole

      Nikki!
      Fantastic job! I love your lists and thank you for sharing them here!
      Who is next???
      love love love
      terri

  • Kdbug47

    Great idea..I think it is a keeper for 2012!

    • Terri Cole

      Thanks Kd~
      Share your lists right here and I will witness for you.
      Power in putting it out there ;)
      love love love
      terri

  • http://twitter.com/CAG_Style Charles G.

    This is an awesome idea.  Much better than  a list of ‘resolutions’ that may or may not happen.  Thanks Terri.

    • Terri Cole

      Thanks Charles~
      What is on your lists this year??
      Share right here and we will witness for you <3
      love love love
      terri

  • sarah

    Thank you Terri for this exercise, i came out with heaps of stuff for each question.. the core things were

    1. Crap to leave behind in 2011:
    overlooking talents
    indecision/stagnation/fear of making mistakes
    overthinking, overplanning, controlling my path towards a fixed ‘perfect’ ideal
    agreeing to take on someone else’s negative offering eg. guilt, disappointment etc
    the thought ‘i can’t do or have that’. it’s like a bad mantra!
    my current living situation – i want to live somewhere new with different people

    2. Gems:
    . to live in the moment & set feelings-based intentions, and be open to what comes my way. sometimes the best things/experiences/opportunities & people you stumble into, rather than go out and ‘find’
    . to remember it’s my choice to ‘agree’ with someone else that i should feel bad/guilty/ashamed/not enough/weird etc
    . be tapped into physical sensations of being energized/motivated and feeling flat/recoiling – perfect device for making decisions
    . deep in my core there is a part of me that is like the still eye of the storm when everything else seems crazy
    . when you come into your own you have to stay true to yourself even if others can’t handle the ‘new’ you
    . when you avoid making mistakes you also avoid a lot of fun
    . when you step up and declare your talents you can affect more change than if you shrink yourself down

    3. Creating for 2012:
    . i am enjoying a fun nurturing fulfilling romantic relationship that’s organically blossoming, and which acts like a container for us to practice being present as well as personal growth
    . i am in a new phase with my family of origin – love them from afar and we all respect eachothers different lifestyle choices as adults
    . i am financially independent with more than enough to support me. i have decent savings
    . i have a bouyant open authentic physical community of friends, we all encourage eachothers fullest expression and share similar perspectives. Maybe like a face-to-face TDL gang!
    . I surrender wholeheartedly to all that i am without shame and feel secure
    . my career is a beautiful bountiful arena for me to share, touch, move, heal, resonate, inspire and create positive shifts within others that will in turn ripple out to enhance the larger community/world

    thank you Terri for this exercise, and thank you TDL for providing this space to share! I  hope some of my ‘gems’ and intentions help others. lots of love xoxo

    • Terri Cole

      wow sarah! I L*O*V*E* your lists and thank you for sharing them here with us. I am sooooo into leaving “perfection” behind~yes yes yes!!
      I have no doubt that your courage to share your authentic self will help others and according to Deepak just added a hunk of awesome karma to your karma bank!
      Thank you
      love love love
      terri

    • Spencer

      Sarah, let me know where you move to begin a life anew. I want to live next door.

      • Terri Cole

        me tooooooo Spencer!!
        love love love
        terri

  • Rowleywernig

    Thank you for giving me focus on the future and an ability to learn from the past.

    • Terri Cole

      I am so happy this exercise resonated with you. All of the experiences you have had have lead you to THIS moment right here right now. There is now and will only ever be ONE you, my friend. So embrace that, learn from the past as you said and create a future that thrills you to pieces!
      I will be here cheering you on like a wild maniac!
      love love love
      terri

  • Karen

    I am definitely going to set aside time after Christmas and before New Year’s Eve to do this!!!!   Thank you SO MUCH for passing this along.  I’ll keep you posted.  Love, Me

    • Terri Cole

      I will hold you to that for sure! You know where to find me ;)
      love love love
      terri

  • Mjdel226

    I’m not one to journal and write letters and then burn them or anything, but this idea is really resonating with me, so I guess that means I totally need to do this exercise!!! It WILL be done before new years. Now that’s I’ve made this promise to a bunch of strangers, I’ll be forced to keep it :-) . Thanks for giving me something I obviously need! 

    • Terri Cole

      Yes my dear! I am more than happy to witness your list anytime ;) you can drop it on my fb page http://www.facebook.com/FearlessAndFree anytime and our collective intention will help bring it into being. I am so glad you are going to do it!
      love love love
      terri

  • Cesar

    1. Crap to leave behind
    -My ex boyfriend. He hurt me more than anything or anyone has ever hurt me. I still love him, but I realize I have to let him go. 
    -Changing the relationship between me and my parents. I started acting differently and I’m going to change that.

    2. Gems
    - To be strong. I am stronger than I ever knew. I want to continue being strong, and even though at times it’s tough, I  manage.
    - To live in the moment. Continue making new friends and living life to the fullest.

    3. Creating for 2012
    - I’m ready for a loving relationship. I have been through a lot but I’m finally ready to embark on a new journey, a journey with someone who cares about me and that will love me for who I am. 
    - Developing my personal brand and continue to grow my business. 
    :)

    Thanks Terri, I’ll try this. I feel like 2012 will be a good year. I don’t know if this is possible for one to say but I feel like 2011 was both the best and worst year of my life. A lot of things happened but I’m growing as a person and I hope it’s all shaping me into a new person.

    • Terri Cole

      Yes I believe it is totally possible to have the best and most painful year in the same year! I hope that 2012 is the year that you fall madly and deeply in love with yourself ;) It sounds like you have been doing a lot of growing and one thing I know for sure is that self love will lead to healthy mutual romantic love. When I was younger and hoping another would complete me…I did not find what I was looking for because I was the one who had to be ok with me. I look forward to staying in the loop of your most AMAZING 2012!
      love love love
      terri

  • Spencer

    Thank you Terri. This exercise is a must-do for me. I will do it before the new year.

    • Terri Cole

      Ok Spencer I am holding you to that promise. You can drop the list on my Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/FearlessAndFree for me to witness anytime or I will do a follow up in January right here on the amazing Daily Love!
      love love love
      terri

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  • Markie

    I love this. I plan on having my teenage daughter write her lists with me. We can both say goodbye to some (divorce) ugliness we’ve had to experience, and create, independently and together, a much happier year. Thank you!

    • Terri Cole

      Markie~
      I love the idea of teaching and sharing this kind of healing with your daughter! I did vision boards instead of gifts last year with my nieces and nephews and it had a true impact even on the 4 year old. I would be honored to witness both of your lists anytime. All good things come to both of you in 2012.
      love love love
      terri

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  • Amanda

    1.       Crap I’m leaving behind in 2011:
    Laziness, self doubt, procrastination, resentment, negativity, guilt, the “I cants”, insecurity, old romantic unhealthy relationship, the not enough thoughts, letting my ex  continue this dependency on me ( and me allowing it because I care about his well being)- I want him to find his own place, not communicating and letting that build resentment.
    2.       Gems:
    I learned that procrastination is just a form of resistance, but sometimes it’s best to learn what your true priorties and passions are- because they are often the things you don’t want to resist. Also, that it lead me to learning my true passions.
    I learned that your thoughts create your reality, therefore, you doubt yourself and you end up standing in your own way.
    I learned that it’s best to love yourself unconditionally at all times. Once you whole heartedly love yourself then you can do the same to others and receive unconditional love.
    I learned I’m a work in progress and always will be.
    I learned its okay to feel and acknowledge my feelings rather than feeling guilty for feeling.
    Proper communication is best in order to have a healthy relationship.
    I learned what I’m looking for in a romantic relationship in the future, and not to take things and people for granted, to be greatful, and that I’m now closer to finding my soul mate- that I’ll understand one day why things didn’t work out. That the most beautiful things bloom from the darkest storms, I now have a beautiful and inspiring son.
    Clarity and to be present
    Holding things in leads to resentment
    What I put out in the universe I get back, and lastly ask for what I want the universe will always say yes.
    3.       What I’m creating for 2012
    I went after my dream and I couldn’t be happier with my personal, romantic, and business relationships. My companion has a complete heart, we empower one another, we continue to grow as a couple, we nourish each other, we have the same core, we continue to work on being present, and share the same beliefs. I’m happily in a relationship with my soul mate (now I know why the others didn’t work).  
     
    My career is one opportunity after another, where I inspire and help people, I’m true to my authentic being and I share what I have to offer with the world. I’m in the fashion/blogging industry and I feel fulfilled yet ready for opportunities and expansion.
     
    I meditate and manifest on a daily basis, and I love myself whole heartedly for whom and what I have to offer. I embrace my worth. I remain present, healthy, and positive. I send love. I’m continuously and consistently working on the best self I can be for me, my son, and relationship. I’m always peeling off layers, reflecting, and seeing things clearly. I embrace and am thankful for each day that presents itself- I see opportunity in every situation and I witness miracles big and small on a daily basis. I’m grateful.
     
    I’m financially independent and abundant (in all aspects of my life not just material)  
     
    My son is healthy, happy, eager, and full of life. He carries a positive attitude and a big heart.

    • Terri Cole

      Wow Amanda your lists just blew me away! Thank you so much for sharing them here with us. It sounds like you learned an amazing amount of life altering Gems in 2011. The self love realization is so profound and remembering it is so important. So thank you for the reminder.
      love love love
      terri

      • Amanda

        Thank you for allowing such a beautiful and loving safe space for people to share and your guidance thank you, much love, and happy New Year.

        Love,
        Amanda

  • Meg

    Me too. This is awesome will share when I get on the pc:)

  • sagitta

    1. Crap I’m leaving in 2011:
    The feeling of loneliness, regret, laziness, sadness, low self-esteem, that guy who I told I liked (I need to move on already), negative people, no more sad tears.

    2. Gems I am keeping from 2012:
    I’m keeping those people who support my goals and keep me motived. I learned this year how important it is to speak up, that I AM good enough, that I can do whatever I set my mind on (ran my 1st 5K & 10K). I learned that no one is perfect, and that I must love myself and take care of myself always and to not change my values for anyone. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, to not look but enjoy life, and to not lose faith that someday I will meet that special someone because I deserve it.

    3. What I am creating in 2012:
    I want to enjoy the things I do have in my life – my family. I want to enjoy being single and being a woman. I want to go out in the world and see and do what I want to do. Life is to short – want to live it one day at a time. If something doesn’t happen, it wasn’t meant to be, and to learn from it and keep it moving….. For many years, I’ve been wanting to run the NYC Marathon and 2012 is the year I WILL run it :)  

  • Meg

    1. CRAP YOU ARE LEAVING IN 2011
    negativity, the muck of the past old thinking, people that don’t deserve my time, emotional vampires,anything that steals my joy or detracts from my full potential.
    .2. GEMS YOU ARE KEEPING FROM 2011
    The lessons I have learned from my mistakes.
    Taking care of myself listening to my own intuition
    Trusting the Universe a bit more and the people in it .
    3. WHAT YOU ARE CREATING IN 2012
    Taking steps to take care of me mind body and spirit.
    Living fully surrendering to whatever the Universe has given me which is soo much
    I could go on and on, but keep reading Tdl too for inspiration :) ♥

  • Tsanborn

    So far the crap I am leaving behind:

    impatience with late and slow peopleJudgement of self and othersgossip!! (energy drain)belief in lack of ANYTHINGstagnant energyclutter (creates the stagnation)ALL negative experiences that I have held on to to prove I am unworthyPeople whose names I will leave off this list.  reactive energy when I hear the name or see the people on the above list..not personalall attachment to misperceptions and unhealthy thoughts from past!

    • Tsanborn

      sorry that looks like one long sentence!!  not how I typed in my list!!

  • Tsanborn

    I am going to try this again:)
    1.CRAP LEAVING BEHIND:
    ~impatience with people who are late, or slow
    ~Judgement of self and others
    ~gossip! (energy drain)
    ~belief in lack of ANYTHING!
    ~stagnant energy
    ~clutter (physical and mental..causes the stagnation)
    ~ALL negative experiences that I have held on to to prove I am unworthy
    ~people whose names I will leave off this page
    ~Reactive energy to the above mentioned people
    ~all attachment to misperceptions and unhealthy behaviours from the past!

    2.THE GEMS of 2011
    ~realization that most if not all of my fears never actually happen
    ~one bad day does not make a bad year, or life
    ~heaven is accepting what is, hell is resisting it.. I have a choice
    ~people come into our lives for a season, a reason or a lifetime.. when someone leaves a space is made for someone 
       or something new~
    ~meditation is key in a more calm and focused way of being

    3.WHAT I AM CREATING IN 2012
    ~an attitude of abundance that flows with ease
    ~ a healthy, happy body and life
    ~a new future by finishing my 200 YTT, looking into energy modalities and possible well coach course!
    ~a daily practice of trust through yoga, meditation, affirmations and energy work!
    ~Deeper, more meaningful relationships with all the amazing people in my circle

    thank you for this terri!

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