The Daily Love
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My relationship ended 2 days ago. I’m wondering, do I really want to be single? And if I do, how do I want to decorate my life from now on?
What would you do?
A TDL Reader
I would (I DO) try to find the beauty and wonder and “awesome” in every circumstance. It took me a LONG time to see those in singleness even though I’ve been single for most of my life, but the reason it took me so long is because I had a hard time letting go of “should.”
So what I would do is TRY to celebrate being single even if it isn’t really what I want (it isn’t). I’d make it my practice (always a work in progress) to seek things worth celebrating in whatever circumstances I found myself. I’d even celebrate the pangs and pains and sadness and grief as testimonies to what once was, as well as what is in me. I would choose again and again to celebrate myself just as I am, as difficult as that sometimes is.
And although I don’t want to be single, I would celebrate the beauty of singleness and the wonder of me as I AM, unconstrained by my expectations of the expectations of another. That, after all, is who I really am, and who someone, someday, will fall head-over-heels in love with, just as I’ll fall head-over-heels for her.