Daily Share – Finding The Courage To Follow My Heart!

The other day I had lunch with an old friend. We hadn’t seen each other in nine months.

Within five minutes of being together, he said, “I have a proposition for you. I’ll let you keep my speakers and hammock if you let me use your car tomorrow to pick up my boyfriend at the airport.”

I fell silent.

There were a rush of things that ran through my head but mostly I immediately felt my answer was no.

I wasn’t happy with the thought of being left without my car for 5 hours (the airport is a 2 hour drive each way), the inability to go to two events I had planned, and the risk that something may happen to the car. But that wasn’t totally it.

It was the energy about how this was presented to me. It didn’t feel right.

Normally I’m very generous with my things and wouldn’t think twice about helping a friend out, but this request didn’t land well.

So I stayed quiet and kept assessing my feelings when my friend came back with, “Well, I just thought it would only be fair because of all the times I let you borrow my scooter last year.”

My jaw dropped. Tears rolled down my face. And I realized in that moment why my heart was telling me no.

The energy of which he came at me. Expecting. Leveraging. Manipulating.

In a way, it was hurtful.

Instead of just asking. Just looking me in the eye as a dear friend and asking me for a favor. AND, being willing to hear the answer and respecting it.

I realized then that we had grown in two different directions. Operating at two different vibrational frequencies.

Throughout the rest of the lunch we made small talk and I grappled with the guilt that was plaguing me….a good friend would just give it, don’t be too attached to your things, he’s gonna hate me forever.

But I just couldn’t go against the feeling in the deepest part of me. My intuition.

My intuition has gotten really loud this past year. It’s probably because I’m deep in my spiritual practice. Most of my work with private clients is using my intuition. To channel the messages they need to hear. To guide them to their best life.

I’ve worked hard to hear my inner voice. Just 4 years ago as a corporate banker in New York City, I would’ve done anything to hear the messages of my Higher Self.

But my mind was Too. Damn. Loud.

And never mind just hearing it. The hard part is trusting it. And listening when it goes against what will make you popular.

I’ve also learned that when you don’t listen, the Uni-verse slaps you hard.

The car will break down. The coffee will spill. The investment will be a scam. It’s like your Higher Self saying, “Hey! I told you so, but you didn’t wanna listen.”

However the cookie crumbles, there are always signs and most of the time we’re not listening.

The heart and soul of you is guiding you in every moment. The heart’s language is the essence of You. Life flows easefully, gracefully, and miraculously when we listen.

The mind is also essential for living on this earth. The mind is the set of skills that help you get to your dream life – like studying, completing tasks, and setting goals. However, the mind is also responsible for questioning, doubting, and conforming.

So here’s the thing: the mind and the heart must be in sync. For most of us, they are not.

Most of us are too worried about what other people will think or pleasing our parents, friends, society to make our choices based on our heart. We usually steer our lives in a socially acceptable manner, according to our mind.

News flash: Heart centered, wildly successful people don’t give a funk about what other people think. Or even if they do, they’ve learned not to listen to that voice and instead listen to their heart.

Our intuition leads us to our Divine Life Purpose, our Divine Soul Partner, and our Divine Right Life.

For so long, we’ve been conditioned to do what other people expect us to. It takes quiet courage to listen and follow the guidance of our heart.

Many times the guidance is not what other people want to hear but it’s imperative we listen.

When we don’t, we feel anxious, tired, sick, uninspired, and unfulfilled. This is also how our body signals “no.”

When we do listen and when our intuition says “yes”, we get chills, happy tears, and spontaneous smiles cross our face. We feel like we’re floating on a cloud.

So, I stuck to my guns and didn’t lend my car to my friend. Two days later, he banged on my door to pick up his hammock and stormed off in a fit. He was angry. His ego in full throttle.

The difference now to some years ago is that listening to my intuition no matter the outcome felt right to me. I was prepared to deal with the social repercussions because of my strong relationship with myself. We may never speak again, but it’s ok. I’ll let the Uni-verse work it out.

Your heart is always speaking to you. Can you quiet the mind enough the listen? Can you find the courage to follow your heart? I’d love to hear about it. Leave a comment below. I read every single one and they fill my heart!

A TDL Reader

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sandy

Loved this!! Thanks for sharing
ninja

I absolutely love and relate completely to your post. Fantastic. Really. Makes me smile ALOT! Courage is definitely what is required.
Miriam

You have spoken what I have known, but haven’t yet grown into. I know it is the right path, but fear still abounds. I applaud you for having the courage of your convictions.
A TDL Listener

Your message today was just what I needed to hear. Thank you. I began meditating 4 days ago to “quiet my mind” and begin to hear the messages of my heart. I am on a path, as you have been, though mine is just beginning and I need the reinforcements of chosen words as your message spoke to me today to continue. Thank you again.
tedge

Beautiful article!! Thank you!!!!!!!!
Josephine

Your message is so true. In December and January, my computer crashed, I was involved in a car accident and I was laid off from a job- that now I realize I should have never taken in the first place. The day I went on the final interview, I met with the owner of the company and my gut kept telling me not to take the job because it didn’t feel right! But I didn’t listen and to make matters worse, I had gotten another offer that I truly wanted to take but because I listened to my mother (long story) and the job I took paid a little more, I chose to got there. So, now, although I’m still unemployed (and if you know of a great opportunity- please let me know!), I have been spending the past 2 months trying to learning to listen to my gut. I take time making decisions and I try not to let fear and worry rule the days. It’s not easy and it will be an life long process, but I have made a commitment to myself trust what my heart is telling me and tap into that source as much as possible. Thank you for this very good article and keep them coming because I need to hear it everyday!
Ari

Thanks for sharing this!! I had an experience just the other day where I was asking a friend for a favor and noticed a part of me that wanted to leverage past events toward getting what I wanted. I chose not to because it didn’t feel right. Even so, I noticed how strong that sense of entitlement can feel. I can feel into both your perspective and your friend’s perspective. Both are understandable, it’s such a human thing. In communication like that, somewhere along the line, someone has to bring consciousness to it or else the “not right” feelings just hang out under the surface in one or both parties and cause tightness. Bravo to you for bringing the consciousness!
2yoshimi

Wow! You. Are. EXACTLY. Where. I. Am.
Thanks.
Yasmin Shima

YES. I’ve had countless intuition based experiences of far fetched ideas that I’ve fought against only to come up against them again. Fear, anxiety, depression and guilt plague me when I don’t follow my heart. Trying to fit into society and do the ‘right’ thing normally ends up in messy mixed messages then finally jumping off the ledge.. after driving everyone mad with indecisiveness! Most recently I am undertaking my Yoga teacher training after a 4 week vacation turned into 2 years of travel. None of it was planned and I’ve run out of money, but despite the fear of how to survive my intuition says it’s something I need to do. As my favorite saying goes… ‘When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.’ TRUST and letting go of sabotaging thoughts and fear are the most challenging and rewarding things one can do. Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts on this, many of us resonate.
Connie

Very cool article and lesson learned and taught. Best of all you learned much about your inner strength during the time you debated whether to lend the car to your friend or not. It is hard to know what the right choice is somethimes. Especially when feelings are involved. These are always accompanied by the “fears”: the fear of losing a friend; the fear of looking selfish; the fear of losing the car; the fear of being used. Generally, these fears are unfounded. But what is right about your decision is not that you might have made it based on one or all of these fears, of course. It is that you might have helped your friend grow a little bit. He was upset, but he will thank you later…
Chris

I thank you, and the Uni-verse that is utilizing you as it’s messenger to send words I needed as reinforcement for the journey of listening to that whisper in my heart that I have started embarking on. It is a great journey indeed, isn’t it?! May the gifts you receive from following your intuition continue to heal the moments of letting go.
Donna

great message and very timely, thank you!
VeronicaStenberg

I’m working on that. To get my mind and heart in sync. That’s when magic happens but also when I can feel safe.
Doze

This man is soo right. I just wasn’t courageous to listen when I had the time to. I had a choice to take an internship that would propel me towards my dream job or running for a college student body poisition that I have always dreamed of doing to a great extent obsessed over which had cost me ALOT. So I picked the more logical decision and what I felt people expect me to (the internship) and I have never felt soo empty/unfilfiled in my life, hurts more knowing the situation won’t come back, and I am trying to forgive myself and others who didn’t really care enough to give me sound advice. How do I move on?