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Daily Share – Help Me To Be All That I Can Be!

January 19, 2013 by 10 Comments

I don’t believe in wailing to the world that my life has just fallen apart, but things haven’t exactly been moving the way I want them to in ANY area of my life (except maybe physical health). Relationships, career, family support… are all facing turmoil. My intuition is fogged, I’m unable to follow my gut… because IT’S ALWAYS TIED UP IN A KNOT THESE DAYS. I can’t BEAR to watch/read a single negative word – it’s like I’ve got some compulsive disorder. I run from the most ordinary things. I’m disappointed with the way things have turned out for me…I used to be the most cheerful, happy-go-lucky person. I’ve loved without restraint, only to be badly hurt. Now I’ve just shriveled up into a fearful ball trying to figure out what went wrong, how I can change myself so patterns don’t repeat, trying to tell myself I’m enough and I deserve love from an amazing partner… I doubt myself and EVERYTHING else at times. Why did all my love, effort and faith fall to nothing? I can’t live like this anymore. I’m so hurt; I wake up at nights feeling like I’ve been punched in the stomach. I believe in success, in love, in happiness. I want to be all that I can be. I need help. I need guidance.

A TDL Reader

  • Nivia

    I could have easily written this letter! I can honestly say I know exactly how you feel. We are all connected and you are not alone in your journey. I say surrender to everything you are feeling. Don’t try to resist the feelings and emotions that come up. It is the hardest thing in the world to do, let yourself be flooded with all the angst, the despair, the anger……and yet still know that at your core, you are worthy and you are deserving of all that you dream and desire. I am going thru the same transition you are. And I have found that it was best for me to allow myself to be in that space and at the same time know that it was going to pass. I read, prayed, talked to myself, meditated, put my headphones on and rocked out to Pandora, wrote in my journal, and I confided in people I trusted. You’d be surprised that the people that love you the most will be the ones that help keep you together. You are not alone.

  • Susana

    Life is full of ups and downs. If you were cheerful, happy, lucky and full of love, remember that you still are. You might be experiencing a little crisis that is here to teach you something. You will find your way back to your true self and be stronger and wiser.
    Accept the feelings your experiencing, feel them, and let them go. Meditate and ask yourself what is it that this experience is trying to teach you. Listen. Slowly but surely you will start to feel centered. You will see your true self after the fog clears.I send you my love and courage. Be absolutely certain that this too will pass.

  • redshakti

    Surround yourself with loving souls, and let everyone else go . . . enjoy/in joy 

  • TrackerM

    I felt like this a few years ago. All I can say is that it truly does pass & at the end you look back & realise with so much joy & pride how far you have come. You also realise that you have learned so many amazing things & your life will never be the same, (in a good way). Allow yourself to feel it all, don’t try to stop it of fight it, you can’t. Turn to your dearest & truest friends, they will not let you down. Have faith that it will all be OK & your intuition will re-emerge, for it is still within you. Try & be still & just listen to your own silence & it will be there quietly speaking. Trust it, trust life & if you have any spark of faith, talk to it too, tell it everything & let it help you too. I never had a ‘faith’ before, that was one of the many  amazing bonus’s  of going through the dark time. I wish you well

  • Jessie

    You must love your self first !! Don’t run from the negative in your life right now embrace them as gifts . Let go and Let God , if you trust God has a plan for you , you will not feel like you have been punched in the stomach. You are at this exact moment in your life for a reason , its time to find your inner strength and love your self . Don’t you know you are enough !!  The right person  is going to love you when your ready !! I was always taught to add something to my life, find something that you can bring to your life that is just for you working out, mediation, cooking class etc… don’t give your love and peace away fight for it !! you are more powerful than than you think !!!
    with love and wish i could give you a hug !!
    Jess

  • Liz

    I understand how you feel. I was there too just a year ago. I could have written every word you used. I was the happy go lucky, driven, loving girl you described. I felt betrayed by God. I felt like even though I’d always tried to follow my heart and live authentically, the rug always got ripped out from under me. It was only when I hit rock bottom and let go of my Christian view of God  and started looking at God as a conscious universal (even unbiased, undiscriminating) energy that everything started to shift and make sense. I still believe in Jesus, but I feel that the traditional Religious depiction of God is a limited human projection of what we think we need. Someone told me to watch The Secret. It’s a good beginners 101.  Even though you feel bad now, you have to get it under control. You could be accidentally ripping your own rug out from under yourself and not even know it. In fact, I’m going to tell you that that is exactly what you are doing.  You have got to relax and get your emotions in a positive, feel good state. Whatever energy you vibrate at, you will attract what will match that energy. I know it sounds unbelievable, but it’s true. It might take a little while to get the hang of, but you can manifest whatever you want and sometimes whatever you DON’T want. Take some time, (months, weeks, days years, to look into manifesting, the law of attraction, all the “woo woo” stuff. Let it sink in. Let yourself relax, be happy with yourself just as you are. Everything will work out, if you just give yourself permission to just “be.” Be a student of the Universe and it will bring you what you need. While you are feeling good again – and I’d like to point out that feeling good is a conscious choice and may take some focus – start thinking of what exactly, no matter how farfetched, your perfect life would be. Get specific. Follow your absolute truest love and bliss on that perfect day. When you figure out what you want, start living as though that “dream life” is your reality. Come up with a plan at getting the dream life. Think of it like eating an elephant. You can eat it if you eat it one bite at a time. Have patience. Take comfort in just knowing that you are living authentically and the rest will fall into place. Warning: Once you figure out what you want, pursue it with all vigilance, take action and don’t give up because there will be unexpected detours. Don’t get too over obsessed with whether or not you have the right plan just be free to make tweaks as needed along the way. The path will reveal itself. It’s most important to know what it is you want or else you will find yourself going in circles. I recently found myself  lost in the plan, going in circles. I knew something wasn’t working. I finally figured out, what was right in front of my face. I just had to remind myself what my ultimate goal was and adjust my priorities to fit. When you are on you authentic path, true love will show up. When you love yourself, you will know where you are going. Love will show up on the way and it will be going to the same place you are.

  • Cartysgirl

    It looks like we all have been there. First, God bless all the replies who made it thru the rough times. I never realized how dark rough times could be until mine came along. I had the trifecta one year. My live in boy friend left me, they had layoffs for the first time ever at my work. Thank God I was not one of them because the day they left, I got the news I had breast cancer. In all the darkness TDL reader you have to look for your light. I was thankful I had a job to pay for my illness. I truly turned everything over to The Lord. I continued to do the one thing I could do which was work. It kept me moving forward. You need to see every day you get out of bed is another step in moving towards better times. The bad times will go away. keep your focus strong. One day at a time. Sending you a huge survivor hug.. Did you feel it? LOL

  • Jules

    Becoming a daily reader of the Daily Love is a beautiful thing.  I read the quote by Paulo Coelho and looked at the book The Alchemist sitting on my bookshelf..Read it again was the msg I heard my inner voice say.   Like a few of the responds you have gotten you can see you are not alone, I too feel that I am being challenged by my inner Being to take the path that is right for my spiritual health.  I am reading the Power of Now again and the chapter Beyond Happiness and unhappiness there is peace.  The turmoil that we go through when our inner world starts to
    we feel our happiness being threated is what we need to pass through.  I like a few could have wrote all the words you have written.  That ‘s a good thing, cause we are all moving into a better place.    I would to sit face to face with a few of the Daily Lovers cause there is that feeling of connection and it feels great, especially in times of doubt and uncertainity…Much love being sent to you and others like ourselves seeking to move through this not so good feelings today.

  • Kailyn

    Funny, I’m reading this thinking that wow this writer is taking thoughts straight out of my head. Listen, we’ve all been there. If you seriously want to change this pattern of thought I have a very quick an easy tip for you. Take the focus off yourself. Now I’ve been told this many times before when I’ve been in a sort of ‘rut’ and I know how difficult it can be to really take it in when you’re already so far down. But right now, just take a moment and decide on one thing you can do for someone else. Call a parent and tell them how much you appreciate them. By doing this I can’t guarantee that you’ll be 100% back to normal but I can tell you that you are now headed in the right direction. Just keep going, everything will fall in to place so perfectly for you. I believe you are an amazing person. 

  • http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com/ Nina

    It sounds to me like you’re so exhausted that you’re now just dragging yourself through life. Since you don’t believe in “wailing to the world” that just tells me that you are in one of the most painful times of your life right now. Lucky for you, I think we’ve all been there. It’s like that saying, “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” I think it really is. I had my worst point a few years ago, and I felt like no matter how hard I tried to fix things my life just got more and more miserable. Obviously this advice is my opinion based on what helped me, but I think the first step is to relax and let go of all the stress. Get things into perspective. You probably need to take some time to yourself, without obligations and responsibilities, maybe for a couple days, and really sort out what is wrong and what you would like your life to be like. Understand that changes do not happen overnight – and “overnight” could even mean months. Then brainstorm on little bite-sized steps that could help you get the life you want. For me, I wanted friends with similar interests, so I could get out and do things, so I was researching and came across the MeetUp website. I found a perfect dance studio for me (one of my biggest passions is dance) and a boyfriend through that! It took me about 3 months using MeetUp to find the dance studio, and 2 months after that I met the guy in another MeetUp group. The point here is, don’t bull-in-a-china-shop your way through things, just give yourself space and opportunities to improve your life, to make you happy, and the rest will come. For me, I needed dance to really feel like myself again. That made me happy, helped my health, etc. and that probably made me more open and more “attractive” (from my happy, healthy glow) such that I found a boyfriend. So I suggest you first take a deep breath and put the focus back on yourself – your heart – instead of this external life that is failing you. Start from the inside, and work your way out. Heal yourself, and your life will follow. Hopefully that was helpful.

    Much love,
    Nina
    http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com/
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