I’m 30-years-old and I’m in love with my best friend. I met her in college more than a decade ago. Following our college graduations, we drifted apart until we reconnected two years ago. Having the chance to spend time with her again has added an indescribable joy to my life. Even though we live a significant amount of miles apart, we still make an effort to see each other at least once every few months and communicate in some way every single day.
During this time I have developed strong feelings for her. I believe the best relationships blossom out of friendship, and there is no one else I enjoy being around on this earth more than her. She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me and I literally would do anything for her because I love her unconditionally. Like I tell her from time to time, she is the best! There is no other woman I would pick ahead of her on the planet. She means everything to me. I could see myself growing old with her and taking care of her throughout our lives. That is the definition of true love.
She knows I care for her deeply but I haven’t informed her about the depth of my feelings. The truth is that I’m terrified to confront her with “I’m in love with you” talk because I honestly don’t think she loves me the way I love her. She is currently single but not completely single. There is a guy she has visited a couple of times over the past few years who lives 2,000 miles away and says she is “committed” to even though they are not “officially” together. I’m pretty sure that she is in love with him.
Holding back my feelings and emotions for the woman of my dreams has been extremely difficult. My only options are to A) keep my feelings to myself or B) confess my feelings to her.
She means the world to me and I’m afraid she will end the friendship if I confess my feelings to her.
So the big question is what do I do?
A TDL Reader