I want to share something from my life with you. It’s about what I can do for a friend who I tremendously love.
When I met this sensitive, loving, pure person, we immediately felt a soul connection.
To make a long story short, not long ago I learned that he is on drugs. Hard drugs. Something I never touched nor have one of my friends or family. Having a very clear opinion about drugs, this just hit me. I knew he experimented with them earlier in life, and now he admits he doesn’t use it just with friends or at parties, but also at home, alone. He says he is disgusted by it, but also doesn’t know if he wants to quit. I’m afraid it’s getting worse. I ‘think’ he’s using, because he lacks a lot of love and purpose in his life, has been hurt in the past and maybe looks for love and beauty and reducing ‘life pain’ through the effects of drugs.
I try to respect everybody on their own path. I realize that everybody has a right to choose, that every soul chooses his lessons for the next life, that everyone grows and learns in their own time.
But how can I be there for him on his path? I don’t want to preach: do this, do that. I think that doesn’t work. People have to learn from their own experience. But on the other hand, I want to speak from my heart and don’t want to hold my opinion about drugs back. I’m afraid he’ll turn his back on me if I’m too confrontational, and that he’s not ready to hear certain things.
How do I find the balance in this? And how do I help him find his self-worth, and get his self-love back? How can I help him find trust in life, show him the power that’s already within him, but which he cannot see or connect to at this moment? What can I do and what is best not to do?
Thank you for listening!
A TDL Reader