Daily Share – How Do I Get Over My Boyfriend’s Ex Girlfriends?

TDL_FB-iconHi there,

Me and my boyfriend have been together now for over a year. I’m 21 and he is 25, I’m having difficulty tackling the ex girlfriend problem. He has around 5 ex’s and that’s okay they all talk and hang around in the same group and some go over to his house with friends and i find myself obsessing over it constantly checking his messages or telling him he cant be friends with them, I’m finding it really hard. I don’t know why I’m so insecure and i really need some advice how i can get over it? Thanks…

A TDL Reader

  • george

    Thanks for sharing. I was in a similar situation to yours except in this case there were even more girlfriends and we were younger! There were also cultural and other issues that could have easily made me insecure and paranoid. Unbeknown to me, he invited two ex-girlfriends over for lunch, he said they were coming over but never asked if that was ok beforehand. They were not only incredibly beautiful but impeccably dressed and they all spoke the same first language! I was more than happy to meet them because in the end they were part of his journey as you are also. The time wasted worrying about checking his messages means that you maybe need to work on somethings within yourself. You lose so much of the moment when you waste it on negative based activity that has no validity. Relax, sit back, enjoy and let it flow. Good luck.

  • erika

    I don’t find it necessary to keep in touch with all exes. It’s over for a reason, isn’t it?
    What is the reson for a partner to have the urge to keep spending time with an old girl- or boyfriend? I don’t get it.

    Why not accept there is a new life partner and let go of what’s been… just a little, right?

  • Allison

    I can imagine it would be disconcerting to have so many exes around. I think a little healthy distance is best when it comes to exes. However, if you have discussed it with him and it is evident that the situation will not change, you have to do some soul searching to determine if this is something you want to deal with. Would he be comfortable if you hung around all your exes regularly? Is he worth it?

    I believe it is wise to keep your eyes open, but checking his messages regularly will eventually drive you and him crazy. It is a waste of your life. Whenever I find myself in that zone, it is a red flag to me that something is out of balance within me, or something is wrong with the situation.

    If he is worth it, then the best thing to do is to build up your self. Build your self esteem. Read books, blogs, inspirational videos that lift you up. Become active in other hobbies that fulfill you. Keep the lines of communication open with him and focus on your relationship with him. Talk to other couples in similar situations that have made it work. Wishing you all the best.

  • Emma Russell

    I saw a testimony of Nadezhda Vyacheslav on how she got that guy to love her as she did him.Though i don’t know her, i believed her cos she said Mutton Osun a spell caster help her seen it happen.I didn’t believe her cos she used a spell i believed her cos she made mention of a mutual spell caster i know of that is mutton Osun. I have also see a lot of testimony about his work on the the internet on blog pages and so on.I literally took a lip of faith to contact him and it turn out that it paid off.In my own case i didn’t ask that him to make anyone fall in love with me or ask that my cheating wife comes back.This time i was at fault i messed up.Will really like to say it was an honest mistake or a few hours or days of weakness but then i will be insulting my wife and the love i feel for her.I was in full control of what i was doing i had the choice not to cheat but i still did. She didn’t find out by herself i told hoping if i told her how sorry i am and how much i still love and want to be with her despite my betray she will forgive completely.It was the biggest mistake of my life maybe i should not have told her, i guess she would have still found out if she didn’t catch me then i bet the other lady would have told her what was going on to destroy what me and my wife had.It was obvious my betray really hurt her i could she it in her eye and i was really sorry.That is why i wasn’t so surprise when she asked that we go our separate ways.There and then i realized that i was following the part that ruined my life and my family.I literally lead four month of my life in misery.I have never felt like i needed her like i had felt begging was not an option nothing was an option cos she was gone.It was right about that time Mutton Osun came into the picture or when i asked that he help me get my wife to love as she did before.I was able to provide the items he asked that i get for the spell and send then down to him.Like Nadezhda Vyacheslav said “the spell does become effective at once that ” she was right also cos just after i did what Mutton Osun asked me to do with what he sent me, it took 7 days before anything happened i even thought for a minute that i had met a fake spell caster but in the end i am happy with my wife again.We going to be renewing our vows on the 20th of September. I was on the edge of become a walking dead a woman with nothing to live for thank my star Mutton Osun helped.I will also leave his contact for those who thing he can help them { [email protected] }