Daily Share – Still Questioning Life…

February 19, 2013 by Anonymous TDL Reader 8 Comments

Hello family! I’m new to the site, and I am enjoying it so far!

I thought I would share what I am going through at this point in my life. I currently am living at home with my parents, no job, and no money to pay the bills. I am very hopeful that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes it gets hard. I am also still in love with my ex that I left 2 yrs. ago. We still talk off and on, and I am still close with his family. I feel we are supposed to be together but he doesn’t think we should at this time.

Feeling hopeful, but still questioning life. Any insight would be helpful! Thanks

A TDL Reader

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Stageleft613

Dear tdl reader. Breakups are super hard. I recently went thru one. I believed we should be together and he did not – or at least not on the same way. We parted and it was the hardest time in my life but also the best. It became empowering to be “just me”. And to finally learn my own worth. There was anger to get thru and frustration and sadness of course and finally forgiveness. every day had endless possibilities. Maybe this is the time to meditate and exercise and work thru lots of old issues. First rule in relationships is you cannot change anyone. Only yourself. I would suggest not talking At all to him. A clean break for six months and then you will see. Longing for someone – that neediness- is not attractive and it is not empowering. You want always to come from love and strength. It is apparently time to work on yourself and to explore new possibilities. When you can send a text saying I forgive you with no expectations of a reply then you have yourself
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Holding on to your past is like being in a self-made prison – you’re the only one not moving forward and LIVING your life. Allow yourself to embrace the reality of what once WAS (there was a reason for the break up?) and focus on YOU and your future.
Jeannalaurent

Hey! I am new to this site as well. But what stood out to me in your post is that despite what you’re going through at the moment, you still have hope. That’s awesome!! The first thing some people lose is hope. So I just wanted to let you know that you shouldn’t lose that hope. Wish you all the best!
http://www.billnewgent.com/ Bill Newgent

Dear TDL Reader. You are so much more than your current circumstances. The problem for you is that you are not seeing it. You are unaware of it but you have chosen your results. You are avoiding yourself because you think that’s safer and easier. Think of it this way. What you are experiencing in your life is what you continue to empower in every moment. Waiting for boyfriend, no job, no money etc etc. The process of shifting toward who you authentically are begins with you being open to embracing and empowering you. For sure be gentle and be loving with yourself. Awaken to all that you are and the potential you represent.
However, at some point you must put action behind you and make choices that empower what you want. Currently you are not doing that. Wake up! Love You! Take Action!
Love and empowerment to you!!!
Guest

I’m currently going through a very similar situation — and although I don’t know the exact terms of your breakup, I can tell one thing. Everyday is a challenge, but you need to focus on yourself. Put yourself first, find your own individual priorities, and get your life together first. For me, and it sounds like it’s the same situation with you, that main focus should be your career (that will help you move out, get money, etc.). Focus all of your energy into this (or whatever you decide is your first priority for bettering yourself). It’s one day at a time, one step at a time, but if you’re not happy with your current situation you need to work really hard at changing that. As for your relationship — again, I don’t know what your circumstances are. It’s great that you are hopeful, but I noticed that you broke up 2 years ago and it sounds like you might be holding on to something that is now quite some distance away. I understand how it is when you truly believe in a relationship and don’t want to give up on it, but you need to be realistic with yourself. If you focus on yourself and all the great things you have going for you, you will realize that there is so much more to life than your circumstances you are stuck in. Finding that inner strength and confidence will set the impetus to rise above and I promise you, once you actively utilize this mentality, great things will happen for you… maybe even goals and dreams you never even thought possible!
Nanrowe

Focus on what you do have. A safe place to live with a roof over your head and all kinds of opportunity ahead. Gratitude changes everything.

Please don’t waste time chasing a hope and a dream of being together. When someone says they do not think you should be together, as hard as it is, LISTEN TO HIM! Take baby steps forward and focus on the future rather than the “what was”. Every positive baby step forward renews hope. Breathe in the good, and breathe out the bad. Listen to the wise people on these posts. You never know what kind of challenges each person has battled. Learn through experience. Your mind is like an open window, let the fresh air in!!
http://twitter.com/heatherwaxman Heather Waxman

TDL reader,

I think that this post would be super helpful for you! <3

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xoxo,
Heather
http://www.michellegriswold.com/ Michelle

I (IMHO) think that it’s inappropriate for you to describe a relationship with your ex’s family as “close”. It’s a good way to torture yourself over someone who isn’t interested in being in a relationship with you. The best way to grow and move past your past is to move and grow. Maintaining relationships that no longer serve you, your life or your growth only inhibit it. I wasted four years of my life holding onto relationships with the friends and family of my past boyfriend (he was killed in a car accident) and rather than move forward and grow- I held on so tight to what was and it stunted my growth and life for years.

My hope for you is to realize that momentum follows action. Once you are moving forward, everything will feel better.