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Daily Share – Stuck In Low Self-Esteem And Low Self-Confidence!

TDL_FB iconI am stuck in my life. I have never been stuck before. I am not the kind of person that gets stuck. Or at least I thought I wasn’t. I am frustrated at being stuck and I am taking it out on the world. I am alienating people. Good friends, roommates and even strangers. I am lashing out at unpredictable times. I believe I am stuck because I have low self-esteem and self-confidence. I have been able to survive life with it somewhat ok until now. I cannot take the next steps in my life because I am frozen by it. Do you have  recommendations on books about this? Or suggestions on how to overcome this?

Thank you for listening.

A TDL Reader

  • Taylor Sappington

    One simple question….”Why”… “Why I am stuck?”… you will likely get an answer… ask yourself this question 2, 3, 4, as many times as you need to.

    Sounds simple but when you are willing to ask “why” and be open enough to be honest… it’s amazing what you will find out… it could be as simple as… i dont like my job because…

  • Yvonne

    “What you think of me is none of my business. ” by Terry Cole Whittaker. Her book helped me with the same issues.

  • http://www.facebook.com/angie.byrd.75 Angie Byrd

    The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. Realize that YOU are not stuck, there is a part of you that is believing you cannot move forward. You are believing something about yourself that is not true. YOU are love. YOU are innocent. YOU are exactly where you need to be for your learning. Ask the question, “What would I have to be thinking to feel this stuck?” That speaks to the subconscious mind where that program is running. Love to you on your journey.

    • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

      Thanks for the book recommendation! Though I’m not the one who wrote the original post, I can relate. I’ve heard of Michael Singer’s book, several times, but as of yet have not actually picked it up. I’m going to now! :)
      I loved what you said about “YOU are not stuck, there is a part of you that is believing you cannot move forward.” That resonates with me. I struggle with love sometimes, and I realize (more and more…now) that it’s b/c I don’t love myself fully. I look for it from outside sources. It starts with me.
      Yeah, I really need to read that book. :)
      Thanks again!
      Sarah

  • http://www.facebook.com/stracy.mcclellan S’Tracy McClellan

    Based on your quote: “I have never been stuck before,” focus on what has recently taken place in your life.” Heave you just broken up? overspent? tons of bills? college debts? payments? the weather? many of us experience similar situations-you’re not alone. Also, recognize your age-premenopause? research vitamins to balance your hormones. Take a walk to get your blood flowing more and ease your worries. Mostly, PRAY. ASK and you shall receive-JESUS. Beginning this, your body, mind, and soul,will melt with greater warmth and confidence for even just beginning all over again. Make the time to attend Mass-its free; by the time you walk out of the church you will feel “rich” again-New Life. Although you have a scar, it is a reminder in what you have experienced and lived through and gained greater strength and wisdom from. After all, look at the scars of JESUS. He did not quit-HE kept going and taught HIS followers what to do even based on what they experienced. GOD IS WITH YOU. MY PRAYERS ARE TOO.

  • Mo

    I’ve felt that before. I feel it right now. For me, it’s because I’ve made being a mother to my children my greatest priority and accepted somethings that I did not want. Then I didn’t know how to get out of it. I realized that I was free, but I had to let go of some things that I was afraid to lose. I didn’t have low self-esteem, I just was not expressing as much love as I could. So one book that helped me was Katherine Woodward Thomas’ Calling in the One. I felt wonderful doing that course. I’m going to do it again! I helps you to open up and declutter all of the baggage. Thank you for reaching out. Sending you love.

    • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

      Love your comment and suggestion! I read that book, years ago… maybe I should read it again too.

      I could relate to what you said about accepting something that wasn’t what you really wanted. And then not knowing how to get out of it. I was in that place in my last relationship. I just got out of it a couple months ago. And while it feels great, and I’m relieved to be back on “my” path again, it’s still a challenge. It’s like I’m slipping around on “my path” and haven’t quite found solid footing. I don’t know.

      Maybe, as you shared, I’m not expressing as much love as I could. That’s certainly a good place to start and see what happens! :)

      Thanks!

      Sarah

      http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/03/dont-rush-past-this-gift.html

  • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

    I can relate to you. In fact, I just left a comment below to Angie Byrd’s comment. So it’s like part of me feels like you, and like I need the advice too…. then when I “step out of” that part, I can see you and see what *I think* you need to do, or what might help.

    Anyway, I’ve also struggled with low self-esteem as long as I can remember. Not feeling good enough. Not feeling worthy of love. I’m realizing more and more lately that I settle in love. Big time. I’m also realizing it’s b/c I don’t love myself enough. I feel that I’m not getting enough love from others… well it starts with me! I’m projecting my feelings onto others, when it’s really coming from inside myself.

    *sigh*

    It’s a long journey, I’m seeing that. I think you and I are somewhat in the same boat. Or on the same path.

    I love what Angie said, below, about YOU not being “stuck”… it’s that a part of you feels you can’t move forward for whatever reason. You’re not “stuck” in the sense that it’s outside of you, or that you can’t do anything about it. But your MIND is “stuck” in a loop of limiting beliefs about yourself and what you deserve in life.

    And you’re starting to act out b/c of it. I’ve been there.

    I think the key to remember is it all starts with you. You have to love yourself like none other. KNOW that YOU are WORTH IT! (Even as I type this advice to you, it’s like I’m telling it to myself too.)

    You asked for suggestions how to overcome it. I know I’m going to find a copy of Michael Singer’s book, The Untethered Soul, as soon as I can and read it! I haven’t read it yet, but keep hearing about it.

    I also suggest meditating. I know that helps me. When I’m feeling off, or not centered, I’ll go sit in a quiet space, for at least 20 minutes. And just sit. Let the thoughts that come to my mind just go on through. Don’t dwell with anything too long. But let whatever comes, come. Cry if you need to. Smile if you want to. But just BE with yourself. I’ve received some great answers and advice from the Universe by doing this. So that’s my suggestion. :)

    I wish you the very best!

    Sarah

    http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/03/dont-rush-past-this-gift.html

  • Creativpassion

    The Gifts of Imperfections by Brene Brown may be a great book to read. I understand your pain. I have been in that place you spoke of for a while. It has caused me to become fearful and question my worthiness for six years. Recently I decided to do whatever it took to release myself of these fears, anxieties, patterns and habits that causes me to be stuck. This book has been one monumental factor in the changes I have started to create in my life. You are worthy! You are loveable! Worthiness is my defining factor in my confidence and esteem. The more I accept myself as I am and understand that my imperfections are what makes me unique and that everyone is imperfect and this is what makes the world go around, I have begun to release some of my crazy self beliefs. I have begun to be more compassionate, patient and forgiving to myself. No one and nothing can define our worthiness or how lovable we are, we just are. Wherever you are or are not in your life, your worthy and loved. Whoever you are, want to be, was, you are worthy and loved. However and whenever things change, stay the same or has already happened, you are worthy and loved.

  • Cecilia

    I’m reading “The unmistakable touch of Grace” by Cheryl Richardson and I’ve been touched since I opened the first page… Trust that you are not alone. And the first step to the other side is to recognize you need to get out of the rut! All the best.. take the first step and you will get there in no time..

  • Janice

    I can’t believe I just found this site. It is so timely. I am in danger of losing my 2 year marriage due to my low self-confidence and low self-esteem.
    My husband, a wonderful man, says he can’t take how I always need to be reassured, need attention, take whatever he says in the worst possible way instead of the best possible way, and don’t trust in his love for me. I am jealous of his ex-wife, for no good reason, except my own fears that I am not good enough for him. Everyone tells me that he loves me and I just need to relax before I really mess it up – as I fight with him when I get scared , and he hates to fight. He just wants peace and harmony in our home , as I do , with all my heart.
    Any advice?