Daily Share – Weight Loss Dilemma!

February 2, 2013 by Anonymous TDL Reader 8 Comments

Hello.

I’m 21-years-old and my whole life as a kid I was always made fun of for my weight and called names. In the past year I have lost 25lbs and so far everyone can see the difference but, I can’t. I still feel very fat and always pick on my body when I see myself in the mirror. I am scared to gain my pounds back. And I feel very stressed out.

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Strong78

I had a similar experience. Try to look at the facts: the numbers on the scale went down, your clothes fit differently, people are giving you compliments, you are eating less calories. These are the facts which I call the “rational” brain. Your rational brain hasn’t yet connected to the “emotional” brain, or the part of you that is telling you that you are still fat, unworthy, and people don’t like you. Everyday, try to have your rational brain talk to your emotional brain, and negate all the wrong things it is saying by giving it a fact. Does that make sense?
I lost a 40 lbs in college, and didn’t know how to process the weight loss appropriately, so in turn, I developed an eating disorder which i STILL deal with to this day, YEARS later. I think back and regret not making better choices because I was so focused on the weight loss and not love for myself. I do NOT want to see you do that to yourself! I am hoping you can learn from my experience. YOu need to work on the part of you that has nothing to do with weight–self acceptance and knowing you are amazing & beautiful exactly the way you are! Good luck to you:)
Cartysgirl

First of all congratulations on the weight loss! That is a big accomplishment of which “you” should be proud. I think we all have been on that weight roller coaster. My personal experience was realizing why I was eating so much. It was emotional eating. it took me 52 years to realize my issue was not loving myself. A switch went off in my head saying I do not want to live this way anymore. I am a loving and deserving person who has control of her own life. Please know you deserve the best. You are a beautiful person inside and out who has her whole life in front of her. What happened in the past is the past. Focus on your present and rejoice in your accomplishment of 25 pounds. Sending you a high kick cheer and woo hoo girl! You have reason to celebrate.
http://www.dittymac.blogspot.com/ Virginia Llorca

Keep doing the work that is paying off so positively. Soon you will realize you are helping your self because you care about yourself.
http://www.facebook.com/MakeMeUpDiva Shannon Marsh Miles

First of all, give yourself credit and be proud of yourself. I went through a transformation myself over two years ago and I was able to keep the 70 pounds off. I’m now a completely different person. It was a lot of work, and people ask me all the time how I kept the weight off! I always say it was all about changing my Mind & Spirit and then my Body! I wasn’t always overweight–but I still struggle to this day to see the new improved me! Have talks with yourself, try meditation and do something good for YOU everyday! Look at the quotes in today TDL….self love is always hard for most of us. We are human..and nobody is perfect. But embrace the change and keep up the good work! You are loved–we all are!! Best of luck on your journey and embracing the change!
Jill H

the fact that you can admit your fear is the first step in a positive direction to coping with your personal issues with your weight. It is very easy to say love yourself, but learning how to REALLY love yourself can prove challenging. Loving myself means doing things that fill me with real and honest joy. When I am in those moments I don’t have time to think about my waistline or why my appetite changed again. The more I am doing things that fill me with joy the less I worry about it. it doesn’t mean that I don’t at all ever, but finding happiness lessens the obsession for me.
Joanj

You are not alone. We all have weight issues. We all have to watch what we eat. Find out what fruits and vegetables you like and eat more of them and less than the yummy stuff we all like that puts weight on us. Be kind to yourself; look in the mirror and thank God you can see. Thank Him for your vision. Some of us are losing it. God made you and He loves you just the way you are. You are insulting Him when you don’t love your unique self . So continue what you’re doing until you get to your ideal weight but have fun with it. Eat what you like but eat less of it. Introduce healthy foods into your diet and little by little you’ll enjoy them more and more. I love sweets so I keep them out of the house and enjoy them once in a while. Take your time. You’ll develop healthy eating habits and when you gain a little don’t give up. Do better the next day. We’re all in it together!
http://www.twitter.com/emabaksa Ema

You are so beautiful and I am so proud of you. Learn how to love yourself and how to be gentle and loveable to you, because you are UNIQUE, AMAZING, GORGEOUS, BEAUTIFUL and any other amazing thing I can think about you. If you need any help with fitness and nutrition, DM me on Twitter. I would love to help you with anything you need. We are the same age so I understand you. Much love and blessings to you.
Karen

What you speak of, you think. What you think, you believe. What you believe, you manifest. What you manifest, you speak of.
Your inner dialogue needs to shift so start with affirmations – it won’t feel true at first but trust me, you will start to change the neural pathways in your brain and will then “see” a different body and your body will respond in a positive manner.
Suggestions: I love how my body looks and feels. I look amazing. My body is healthy and beautiful. I am at the perfect weight and I completely love and accept myself.
Stand in front of a full length mirror and repeat daily. I encourage you to try it for one week and see if you notice a difference in your mindset. Your body is not your enemy, it is the vessel your soul chose to experience this life in.
Good luck on your journey to love and self acceptance!