I know the Uni-verse has my back and I want to make sure I’m not resisting the good It has to offer me. Right now I’m in a romantic relationship that has been quite the roller coaster. We have had so many amazing ups and so many difficult downs. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and care about him very much. We have so much fun together and I can’t imagine my life without him. When things are good and he holds me in his arms, I truly feel the meaning it “feels like home” with someone. But we also have had so many bad times that it’s exhausting us both and tearing us apart. We fight every other week and end up breaking up all the time. I seem to bring up little things that bother me and he reacts in such anger and doesn’t want to deal with it. I’m not sure if it’s my own insecurities that he just doesn’t love me the way I want to be loved, if it’s his own personal issues or all of the above. The fighting has gotten to the point of making our relationship unhealthy for both of us. Our last fight got so bad, he told me he wanted to end the relationship for good and I haven’t heard from him in days. Part of me thinks being apart may be the best thing in order to stop the fighting. However, there is another big part of me that knows the love between us is strong and rare to find, and that there must be someway or somehow we can end the fighting and maintain just the good parts all the time. I want so badly to try and work things out, but there have been so many times we tried only to find ourselves in the same bad position. Is the Uni-verse telling us that we are not meant to be? I want so badly to find a solution to stop the fighting and try to have a healthy relationship with him. But is trying again just going against what the Uni-verse has showed us isn’t working? Staying together and fighting isn’t right, but being apart feels so wrong. How do you know if a relationship has the capability of improving or when enough is enough and it may be time to give up? What would the Uni-verse say?
A TDL Reader