“Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative – self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it’s a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.” ~Jennifer James
The Single Woman Says:
Jealousy is its own worst enemy. Jealousy replaces life and happiness and self esteem and contentment with an insatiable, never-ending, black hole of bitterness – of always wanting what everyone else has and never valuing what you have. The biggest problem with jealousy is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you gaze upon someone else’s life with resentment, wishing and longing for what they have – the smaller your own life becomes.
You’ve heard the phrase “green with envy,” right? So is it any wonder that the grass is greener on the other side when you’re staring at the other side through the lens of jealousy? You’ll never reach your destination by envying someone else’s path. If you don’t have what they have, it’s because you don’t NEED what they have. Decide today to be grateful and not hateful. The way to multiply the blessings in your life is to start giving praise for the blessings that you already HAVE!
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Mandy Hale is the Founder of @TheSingleWoman.