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Do You Know What Most Centers And Grounds You?

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I’ve been thinking about and savoring 2013 before we head in 2014, and distilling the absolute core of my Create A Life You Love Retreat.

These are some of the questions I’ve been asking: What are my non-negotiable practices that most ground and center me? What have I learned this year that has helped me most relax, feel connected and more easily co-create with the universe? What do I want “pack in my suitcase” for 2014?

I love threes. My brain thinks in 3’s, 7’s and 10’s. So here are my 3 non-negotiable practices that most ground and center me:

1. Gratitude

For the longest time, I dismissed gratitude as gratitude journals as being too cliché. This sounds terrible, but I had never even “practiced” gratitude until June of this year! It gets worse… I would skip over chapters about gratitude in books to get to the more “interesting” manifesting parts. (I know – crazy. BIG MISTAKE :) ).

Then, in a short but beautiful relationship this year, I had a boyfriend who actually PRACTICED gratitude. Consistently and wholeheartedly. Every night before we’d fall asleep, he would ask me, “What are 10 things you’re grateful for from today?” Or, he would start with his own… using his fingers to count them one by one… and then I’d do the same.

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I fell in LOVE with this ritual and it’s been one of my favorite things to do every night – to consistently practice gratitude right before I go to sleep.

This one thing alone has increased my happiness, helped me relax, allow and be more in the flow of life – three things I had been asking for this year. Along with how can I co-create more ease-fully with the universe / god / spirit…

How about you?

  • Do you practice gratitude intentionally and consistently?
  • Do you have and use a gratitude journal? (I just bought one!)
  • Do you share, out of the blue, what you’re grateful for every day with your partner, friends or children?
  • When you have down time – standing in the line at the bank, sitting in traffic or washing dishes – do you start listing off the things you’re grateful for?

Try this: For seven nights in a row, count out on your fingers ten things that you’re grateful for from the day. Comment below to share the magic that WILL happen in your life. 7 nights of gratitude = more of what you’re grateful for and more.

2. Purpose

This was also the year that I re-defined my purpose. I’m fascinated with this topic. My first business in Australia had a strong focus on finding your purpose. I’ve read many books throughout the years about purpose and passion, and it’s always been part of my message that we need to do more of what we love every day and center our lives around our passions.

This year, however, I felt something was missing – I felt the need to re-discover and expand my purpose. So I re-read books, looked at different ways of finding your purpose until I discovered something completely different for myself along the way. Pivotal. Life changing.

Freeing and grounding all at the same time.

I now believe we each have THREE purposes – one centered around our larger personal mission, one centered around our passions, and one Screen Shot 2013-12-18 at 9.13.36 AMcentered around who we ARE.

Discovering and re-defining my purpose (and not having it limited to 1 thing as that always felt like too much pressure!) has been one of the most centering events of 2013. I write my purpose at the top of my Create A Life You Love Day Planner every week. BEING and DOING from my purpose every day, is immensely grounding and centering.

How about you?

  • Do you know your purpose/s?
  • Have you ever felt stuck or limited trying to define just ONE purpose for yourself?

Click here and here for the past two articles that I’ve written about finding your purpose. They will get you started in FEELING what your purposes are.

3. Connection to Self and Source

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This is something that I came back to as non-negotiable this year. Somehow over the past 1.5 years of my global relocation experiment and living in beautiful (and spiritual) places like Maui and Bali, I got out of my routine of breathing and connecting to source consistently every morning. Being in gorgeous, nature-filled countries helped fill the gap. But 1.5 years later, I’ve realized that NOTHING is as good as intentionally connecting with source and self for 5-10 min every morning. In the shamanic jungle or not :)

This year, I’ve been asking the big questions – what do I want my life to be about NOW? How can I partner with spirit ease-fully instead of just pushing to create? How can I be led and inspired more easily? Of course, taking time every morning for 5-10 min to just BREATHE (or meditate) was the answer.

How about you?

  • Have you thought meditation doesn’t work for you b/c you don’t have the time, or can’t sit still for 20-30 min?
  • Is there anything you used to do, that you KNOW is centering and grounding for you, that you’re not doing right now?

Try just 5-10 min of just breathing in the morning and weave back whatever most grounds and centers you into you life. It’s crucial. And you have the time… especially when it has the power to so positively alter the vibration of your entire day. The leverage and ROT (return on time) of of 5-10 min every morning is immeasurable.

What I love about my 3 favorite ways to align is that it doesn’t matter WHAT is happening in my life – stress, uncertainty, change – when I do these 3 quick, easy things, I’m grounded. I’m connected. I’m led. I’m inspired.

And when I don’t… I’m all over the place.

How about you?

  • Do any of the above grounding and centering rituals resonate with you for 2014?
  • What are your 3 favorite ways to ground and center yourself?

As always, I love to hear from YOU.

Be Happy…Be Vibrant…

Carmen xo

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p.s. Join Carmen for her Create A Life You Love Retreat in Bali, May 2014. Please click here to learn more about it!

A true entrepreneur, lifestyle master and international wellness coach, Carmen is the founder of Create A Life You Love™ and the SexyFit™ Nutrition Challenge. Carmen also works in partnership with the Handel Group Life Coaching and writes for Glam Today Magazine as their Business and Lifestyle Expert. Visit her websiteFacebook, and Twitter for more information.

  • Teresa

    This is such a great article! I do these things and they do work!!! I do a gratitude journal in my head but I am going to invest in an actual journal I can physically write in… I want to have that time before falling asleep to actually write in my journal. That sounds so peaceful and “winding down” to me… I do meditate and stretch every morning but I want to be more self disciplined about it so I can add a little more time to my morning routine:-) Thanks again!

    • The Daily Love

      Such wonderful practices you have, Teresa! Thank you for reading!!!
      -Team TDL

  • http://www.facebook.com/niloocoaching Niloo

    This is crazy because those are the same three things I’m really wanting and I have had that same attitude of “skipping over” the parts about gratitude or not meditating because I was trying to do 30 minutes instead of 5. Great article :)

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for reading, Niloo! So happy that you enjoyed it!!!
      -Team TDL

  • Reba Charleston

    In 2013 I kept a gratitude jar – a clear jar that I filled with colored post-it notes that I added to a couple times per week. Although I show gratefulness every day in my prayers, I want to be even more intentional and consistent with identifying specific items that affect me daily. This year I’ll step it up and try your suggestion of counting 10 things I’m grateful for on my fingers before hitting the sack.

    I really connected with your suggestion that we can have more than one purpose! I think I’ve put the same type pressure on myself for the past few years to define my purpose as one sole reason for my being, but now realize it doesn’t have to be narrowed down to a single idea. Thank you Carmen for the enlightenment!

    • The Daily Love

      Glad that you like the suggestions, Reba! Thanks for reading!
      -Team TDL

  • Ellen

    Thanks for the inspiration! I love the thoughts on having more than one purpose and will have to read your other articles about it. Tapping (eft) centers me as well as writing morning pages. Thanks again for your wonderful insights!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for enjoying and sharing, Ellen!
      -Team TDL

  • Trish

    Thank you for this article!!! Love all 3 practices you’ve suggested, especially the gratitude journal. I’ll definitely be doing these daily! Thanks for your inspiration!

    • The Daily Love

      Trish, happy to hear that you enjoyed the read & suggestions!
      -Team TDL