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Don’t Believe A Word They Say

chrisassaadOne of the major rites of passage for anyone who is going to see their dreams realized in this lifetime is to overcome the barrage of voices that will tell them they can’t do it.

The choir of naysayers can include our teachers, our parents, friends, partners, colleagues, competitors, and their motives can range from well-intended concern to deep-seated fear of regretting their own half-lived lives.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who it’s coming from or what they’re saying. If you have a vision that you can see in your mind’s eye, a desire that lives deep in your heart and a calling that your soul whispers to you to follow, all that matters is that YOU believe in it and stay the course UNTIL it comes to fruition.

I’m currently on a plane from LA to Toronto heading home to spend Christmas with my family. In the last few months, I’ve had some of the most exciting experiences of my life. After a few years of sitting on the fence, I finally summoned up the courage to move to LA to be in the heart of the action in my industry and take my career to the next level.

When I think back to all the people who have in some way or another offered their opinion about what I should be doing, I realize how much resolve I’ve had to maintain to continue on this path and to be where I am now. The doctor who told me I had to live with an aggressive hereditary condition that threatened my hearing and any hopes I ever had of playing music. My first vocal teacher who told me I would never be a great singer and who likened her experience teaching me to working with a figure skater in a wheelchair. My friends, classmates and law firm associates who thought I was crazy to leave behind a promising career for a pipe dream. The hundreds of music industry professionals who have in some way or another said “No” to what I have to offer. Relatives who have questioned what I’m doing with my life and who still don’t always really seem to get it. Even my beloved mother who just wants her son to be close by and is coming from a place of love. The list goes on and on.

The point is that if I listened to any of these voices or perspectives, I wouldn’t be living MY life according to what’s in MY heart. I’ve actually come to appreciate each and every one of them because they have given me one opportunity after the next to strengthen my faith in myself and my vision, and my resolve to keep going. And the best part is, as I begin to REALLY believe fully and completely, it’s showing up in my reality. Doors are opening, the “right” people are showing up, the support is coming my way and I’m receiving more and more reflections from others that I can do it. It’s like my unwavering belief is the only real variable, and once it’s set and in alignment with what I’m creating, it acts like a big magnet pulling all that I need towards me with ease and grace. That core faith also infuses my own actions with a totally different energy and vibration that changes their impact and effectiveness.

Whatever your dream is, the thing that matters most is that YOU believe in it and live for it even when everyone around you tells you otherwise. Remember that it’s not them you need to convince, it’s you. In fact, some would say that the naysayers are just a reflection of our own doubt showing up to teach us what we need to learn.

I would also say that there is great value in surrounding ourselves with people who are up to similar things and who can encourage, uplift and inspire us on our path rather than bring us down. Over the past several years, I continue having to let go of certain unhealthy relationships to make space for ones that are more supportive and to stay in the energy of believing. You get to choose who you hang with, so choose wisely.

If you’re still on the fence and need a little something extra to really bring the message home. Please watch this short video of what I can only describe as a near tragedy…

This man has a monumental talent and kept it a secret for years. People told him not to share it because he wasn’t good enough. To those people and to any voices like them you might be facing, I say “SHHHHHHHHH. That’s enough.”

To you, I say: “Don’t listen to those voices and naysayers. And don’t believe the lies you’ve bought into any longer. You CAN do it. You ARE good enough. You are worthy and your potential is LIMITLESS. Believe it and most importantly, don’t deprive the world of your gifts and your light.”

Much love,

Chris

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Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.comTwitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here.

  • Michelle

    As usual Chris, your blogs blow me away! This particular one with the addtion of the video, had tears streaming down my face. What’s more, I am filled with an overwhelming sense of gratitude and love. Leaving our comfort zones, determination, self belief, and 100% investment in our dreams culminates into an experience like this man encountered. I am sharing this with many. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

    • Chris Assaad

      Beautiful Michelle. thanks for reading with an open heart and for your loving reflections here. And yes, please feel free to share!

      • Andrew Knight

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    • The Daily Love

      So glad that you have been touched by this post, Michelle. Sending love, and best of luck in achieving your own dreams!!
      -Team TDL

  • Cher

    Powerful Chris, Thank you!!

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks for reading Cher. Much love :)

    • The Daily Love

      Cher, we’re glad that you enjoyed the read! Happy Holidays!!
      -Team TDL

  • alsingingteacher

    I am HORRIFIED that any voice teacher would say that to a student. It is wrong on SO many levels! I feel so sorry that you had that experience, but I’m so glad you chose not to let that stop you. Very inspiring!

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks. I agree and I’m glad there are sensitive teachers out there like to you to give students constructive encouragement. And yes, there was nothing that could have stopped me and there still isn’t it!

    • The Daily Love

      SO happy that you have been inspired! Thank you for reading and commenting!!
      -Team TDL

  • Sandra

    Beautiful article Chris and very true. The same can be said for do many of us no matter what we choose to pursue or voice in our lives. Wonderfully happy you love being in LA! Use all if those “negative” voices as fuel to drive you further. Much love! Stay safe in T.O! We got a big ice storm here.

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks Sandra! Especially missing LA right now. The ice storm has been crazy. Hope you’re keeping safe too. And it’s definitely all about using those voices as fuel for the fire. Much love :)

    • The Daily Love

      Sandra, thank you for reading and enjoying! Stay safe and Happy Holidays!
      -Team TDL

  • Talya Price

    This is a very inspiring post. Thank you Chris for sharing.Everything you said is completely true. I truly believe in my dreams and I am the only one who can make them reality. Thank you and Happy Xmas! :)

    • Chris Assaad

      Yes! You go Talya! Much love and Merry Christmas to you too :)

    • The Daily Love

      Talya, so glad to hear that you have been inspired!!
      -Team TDL

  • Mistermal

    WOW! God certainly has his back. Wouldn’t it be great if we ALL had that knowledge? Job job, Chris!

    • The Daily Love

      Mistermal, thank you for reading and joining the conversation!!
      -Team TDL

  • Kathleen Chelquist

    You are singing my song, Chris! I posted this same video a week ago. The minute I began living MY life…and stood by MY heart…the naysayers came out in groves, energetically and physically. No support from biological family…and I mean…NONE! I get nothing but silence or ridicule. Did this make me want to run? Heck yah. But guess what? Running is avoidance of pain…my triggers. Taking responsibility and going head on with my fears has helped me create compassion for them. For I know who I am and what I am creating in my life, and the need for their validation is becoming less and less. This is when I do not look at what I can GET from them…this is when I am willing to GIVE to them (now that’s powerful stuff). It is only when we claim our birthright that we can serve our naysayers. This is when I distinguish the doer from the deed, see their innocence, and call upon their inner light to come hither. Now, does this mean…I pound on their door or hang with them all the time? Nope, this simply means I follow where I am called. No cookie-cutter rule. If my heart tells me to hang out EVERY DAY with my naysayer- I will (This has yet to occur…LOL). Do what serves Love. When we know we are 100% Love…we have no problem going to the ones who are suffering the most… if only they are willing to receive it.
    WIth All My Heart, Kathleen

    • The Daily Love

      Such a great thought, to GIVE to our naysayers. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Kathleen!
      -Team TDL

  • An Bourmanne

    Couldn’t agree more, Chris! This so resonates – I just love everything about this post! And that video just got me all teared up. Big hug! xo

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for reading, An! Glad to hear you enjoyed!!
      -Team TDL

    • Chris Assaad

      Glad this resonated with you An! Big hug back :)

  • Aurelio

    Your words always hit the spot, Chris!… And what a beautiful video to emphasize your message… Brought tears to my eyes and I have also reposted it… Happy Holidays!… :-)

    LOve,
    Aurelio.

    • The Daily Love

      So happy to hear that you enjoyed the post and video, Aurelio! Happy Holidays to you too!!!
      -Team TDL

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks Aurelio. Your comments always hit the spot too brother. Thanks for reposting. Wishing you a joyous holiday season my friend. Much love :)

  • http://evelinealmeida.com/ Eveline Almeida

    Thank you, Chris. That was very inspiring. Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story. Happy Holidays!

    • The Daily Love

      Eveline, we’re glad that you enjoyed! Thank you for reading!!
      -Team TDL

    • Chris Assaad

      My pleasure Eveline. Thanks for reading. Happy Holidays to you too! much love :)

  • http://www.danubelle.com/ laleh

    “In fact, some would say that the naysayers are just a reflection of our own doubt showing up to teach us what we need to learn.”

    This gave me a bit A-ha moment Christ, great note. Thank you. I was having one of those days today…Faith and Grace are our two best friends.
    Love
    Danubelle

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for reading, Danubelle! Glad that you enjoyed!
      -Team TDL

  • Susan Long

    Thank you for all of this, it was just what I needed today.

    • Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear Susan!