Don’t give up on love, read this instead!

April 30, 2011 by Mastin Kipp 199 Comments

Many times we wish and wish for the right person to come into our lives. We don’t seem to understand why it’s not working out with others. We end up in toxic, unloving relationships, and deep down know something better is out there.

The challenge is, when something better does come along, to not run away.

After years of disappointment, heart break and unhappy endings, it can be very easy to close down on real love. No matter what, don’t’ let that happen!

Remember, strength in the muscles of your body is created by your muscles being ripped apart, and then rebuilt. Your heart and your emotional intelligence and fitness operate the same way. It is easy to close down after you’ve been hurt. It’s easy to throw a wrench into real love when it comes. I understand it’s scary, but WHO CARES

Move forward in spite of your fear. Move forward INTO the scariness of it all. Be courageous. Don’t let fear win. OPEN UP anyway. The risk of not opening, in the end, is far worse than the risk of opening.

Don’t let love pass you by. Don’t let fear win.

NO! Instead, let love win. Open up, even when, you are afraid. Open up, even when you are scared of getting hurt. Open up, even when you don’t know what’s going to happen.

Listen to me: LOVE WILL PASS YOU BY if you always choose the safe path.

I am not suggesting that you open up to the first person who comes along. No. I am not suggesting that at all. I am suggesting that when you have a connection with someone, when you feel it, when you are so scared of how much you feel it, go in the opposite direction of your fear. Do not be afraid of the love you feel.

KNOW THIS: The right person will meet you. The right person will show up. But they can’t if you don’t open.

Learn to value openness and rebuilding your heart more than safety. Don’t let the wounds of the past create a wounded future. No. It can be different. Love can be yours. But first you must be open to it. Learn how to be more loving from your past pain, not how to be more closed.

Don’t give up on love, no, give IN TO love!

Love,

Mastin

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Brooke

I needed to read this so bad – the really bad guys treat u just as good as the really good guys you want to run cause u think everyone is trying to hurt u but don’t be like them believe in others dive rt in if there one of the bad guys it’s better to live in love then not life at all good luck <3 he is out there
nancy

Wow this blog is really inspiring .. My bf is coming 2 meet my mum 4 the first time in June .. I always feel lyk giving up on my love whenever I feel down n see there’s no chance 4 my love .. I’m worried my mum won’t lyk my bf … However I’m so blessed my bf always keeps me strong when I almost give up my love .. N I found the key on the blog: don’t let fear win .. I wil fight my fear n give in2 my love xx
Dee Cairo

Mastin, what a blessing and a gift it has been to “read” your growth over these last couple of years since you began The Daily Love. It will continue to be a journey we are all on together…all at different places along the path…yet still all walking in LOVE. Thank you for “opening” your heart so that many could walk towards the healing that only LOVE can provide. I also, Thank You for what The Daily Love has meant to me personally and as a gift to share with others. It’s hard to wrap my head around the possible number of souls this is touching …but it’s oh so much fun & encouraging to imagine the ripple effect that The Daily Love is having globally. Wishing you all that LOVE has to offer ~ Dee Cairo, Newark, Delaware ~ USA
http://www.facebook.com/pages/DKT-Photography/127546717257153 Katie

I really needed this… It is amazing, I have been struggling with my boyfriend of 2 years if hes really interested or just draggin’ me along.. Its hard to tell. This blog really gave me hope, especially for me when I struggle with self confidence and hard to let things go.. I give it my all and sometimes I think its not enough. Like its a ONE way street.
Jeff

I tried this very thing. After she said goodbye, I tried to move on. It was one trouncing after another. I kept bouncing back, but eventually it became too much. I finally gave myself permission to not keep going in that direction, and immediately felt a great spiritual weight lift from me. Maybe I just need to catch my breath and get my feet under me again. Until then, I am at peace with the knowledge that I tried, and tried hard.
- David
  
  Breakups are really hard man I feel you on that.
Jessica

Thank you.
http://balletbalm.tk Sam

This is really amazing. I love this blogpost Quote: “Right now, someone you haven’t met is out there wondering what it’d be like to meet someone like you.”
Candy

I love this!

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Jan

Hi,

Thanks for this inspiring message. I am traveling to meet this guy that I met, and we have been talking on the phone and email, etc. since May. Now we will be spending a week together, we do not live in the same city. I am scared to death, and yet I totally trust him. Part of me wants to run away and part of me wants to run to him. My friends are telling me to go for it, and now I googled giving up on love, and here was your message. I will not give up, but instead run towards it. Thank you.
KC Girl

I found my way to your site through The Garter Brides Facebook page. You have summed up in your post today how I have been feeling for quite some time. I feel as if I always find a reason to shun those with whom I might find true love and, instead, embrace those with whom having a real, emotionally healthy relationship may be impossible. I have signed up to receive your daily e-mails. Thank you.
Da_clinic1977

This is the stupidest drivel I have ever read.
Guest

Some people find it, some don’t. Just the way it is.
truthhurts!

Love is just nature’s way of ensuring that we will procreate. Marriage is just to ensure that the woman has a man to help her with raising children. And love is the exception not the rule. So don’t waste your time waiting for love, cause most people die alone. That’s the reality. So stop it with the romantic bullshit. Your probably one of those people who is in love with someone who actually loves you. Good for you. But can you stop rubbing it in a bit? Cause it’s getting old.
- Whyteler
  
  I agree with you. It always seem to be the people who have had wonderful experiences
  with “love” that tell others to not give up. How interesting. People talk about they know based on their on experience.
  
  Love IS nature’s way of ensuring that we will procreate. After all, who the heck wants to procreate with someone they have no romantic feelings for? It just amazes me, how few people realized this. love is an illusion. Always has been, and it always will be.
John

It’s not only the heart that gets broken apart, it’s the mind. And when you’re so used to being hurt over and over, its hard to not just to want to shut down and pray and wish you could be one of those people that don’t care about finding a relationship. But it doesn’t happen and its not helped if you’re gay and religious looking for something meaningful, because it’s not there.
- hootiemomma
  
  That’s what’s wrong with gay “culture”. I have a gay friend and he is very promiscuous as is everyone he associates with. Frankly, it’s disgusting. However, I know that not all gay people are like that. You just have to look for them in a moral atmosphere. It’s not immoral to be gay, in my humble opinion. But it is immoral to be promiscuous and consider sex a recreational activity to be had wtih anyone you meet who is willing to do it with you.
- non-believer
  
  It is easy when your mind heart and spirt is broken!
Vivianally

I am crying….

I have not given up love but my boyfriend gave up love and left to work overseas, knowing we will never marry each other. Because his mom has been objecting against our r/s alth she never know who i am. A painful breakup just because of his mom’s objection. He ignored all the arguements and continued seeing me till earlier July, it had been changed… he really gave in to all pressure and told me to look for a better man. He knows i do a lot for him and stood by him. Suddenly he quietly left country and informed me he was on plane and asked me to forget him. he knew he chose to give up love than my wanting to work together with him… My reply was “pls come home. I will be waiting for u. I believe we truly love each other. Pls come home. “
Sondra_lynne

Try being a male to female transgender who’s waited their entire life to find that one in a zillion chance to have that one person who will love them unconditionally, much less give a rip about you. When you’re in the situation I’m in, being a pre-op transgender, even family turns their backs and changes their feelings from “love” to loathing…that’s if love even existed to begin with. I’ve tried, I’ve waited, I gave up.
- hootiemomma
  
  I know this may sound crazy, but Jesus loves you. He understands what you are going through and even if he can’t physically be there for you, he knows your heart and He does love you!
  - Brendan
    
    How about the Native American god Coyote, does he love me too? Because he’s just as imaginary, as your Jew god is.
    - http://profile.yahoo.com/5FGTUKJVSUP7KXYKMUBXTC4WXM leftoverbot
      
      Jews don’t worship Christ…. lol
  - Guest
    
    Jesus doesn’t exist. Get over it.
    - Mrfluent4fun
      
      He exist in those who beleive in him just like love exists in those who beleive in love. Personal experiences asside, they both exist regardless if we choose to accept that or not.
Petewb71

you’re so full of crap your eyes are brown! Love is a curse, not a blessing. All love leads to is pain! heartbreak rejection loneliness…some of us are better off not knowing what it is. To long for love is a waste of time and energy! Been on this earth for a while now, and I’ve tried to be positive but, alas at my age if love has not found me it never will, I’ve tried to love, don’t get me wrong, but it is never returned. So here I am telling the world ….If you have found love…bully for you. However if you are like me and Are ready to give up and just be alone.
- nikki
  
  damn i feel sorry for you…
  - Mercy343
    
    I can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About a
    year ago I my partner split up, we had both made BIG mistakes in our
    relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I
    knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was
    relieved when I found your email on a site about what you have done. I
    requested 1 to 2 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within
    3days mark company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still
    lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other. Our
    wedding date is set for Summer 2012. Expect to see your invite in the
    mail thanks to upesaspelltemple@gmail.com
- Loganatx83
  
  You need a hug.
  - Zedbromfield
    
    Think non-believer down below needs one too
  - http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
    
    i need a hug too..but no thanks i dont even know you ^^
- BIGGERTHANMILKWAY
  
  lamest post on the planet… y0u have to GIVE TO RECEIVE LOVE ALWAYS.. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOV ELOVE AND TELL THE PERSON EVERYDAY HOW MUCH THEY ARE LOVED EVERY SINGLE DAY AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE FOR THEM.. THAT IS THE SIGN OF A STRONG PERSON:) YOU MY FRIEND SOUND WEAK.. BUT I LOVE YOU:) HAA
  - http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
    
    i always give..but never get..so.. youre..wrong
- Jayman117
  
  My thoughts exactly man … This guy is a windbag hiding from the truth … Love is nothing but a humane pigment of imagination .. A sense of hope when all is lost …. Fuck love … To love in a cruel world is ridiculously irrational
- Teresa Angeles1979
  
  Ha. We almost sound like soulmates. I’ve been giving up on the idea. It’s been 8 years since I’ve been with someone. I got burned pretty good.
- Xsoulx
  
  gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
  - fckyouscm
    
    We dont care about your sexual orientation asshole XD
    - http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
      
      you mean.. butthole? XD too funny hahaha lmao
- ifeltthesamestilldobutcanhelp
  
  love is what you want to become of it. you have the power to feel how you want, so make love into what you want. whats the point of giving up, the way i see it, love is like a marathon where evry particpant gets a medal. dont stop, your gonna get it.
- Bjc133brn
  
  finely someone who gets it love is a pice of shit and deserves to rot in hell i may be 16 but i have to honestly say for the very first time in my life true love aint shit i have givein up on it years ago and beleave i aint werth the time of day of any girl but you know what niether is findeing love its a waste of time and it leaves alot of good ppl hurt all i have to say is..FUCK LOVE
  - zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
    
    Agree with you pal, as i replied to the other smart guy above you, its because damn love my life went to hell and i realized the kind of shithole is the wold and most people and i can hardly enjoy the stuff i used to love; damn love, i want my life back before meeting that bitch.
  - jioioioi
    
    your two young to know
    - xoxo
      
      you’re**
    - David Jeffrey Barnum
      
      too**
  - Flyingmonkeyman
    
    Dude. You’re 16. And you’ve obviously haven’t heard of spelling or grammar. I don’t think love’s the problem- I think you’re a sixteen-year-old angst machine.
  - SilenceandRuin
    
    English, emo motherfucker. Do you speak it?
- zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
  
  Because of love im all fucked up now, i wish i was as prepared as you… i hate not being completely cold or numb to this crap called love; i wish i could recover my life before falling in love.
  - zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
    
    The worst part, i fall in love easily, at least i feel kinda numb, at least it protect me from that, too bad it cant repair the damage i alreday have :S
    
    BTW im no emo, in fact i think some of the stuff those guys do or say are stupid, and i hate their way of thinking and their need for approval from others.
- Janzandann
  
  easy man.. God always has a purpose.
  - http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
    
    I dont think there is a purpose (or a reason) its all just random..
- Berlydreamer
  
  Petewb71………How are you! I am very sorry about your experience with love….but lashing out at Mastin,for passionatelly trying to encourage us……..will not change your situation. Do you think that your the only one,that has “been rejected,heartbroken,and gone through it! Everbody has a story to tell,all of us. I have been very broken,rejected,hurt in my lifetime………but I have also known beauty,and sunshine to!And…….that is the time to never give up……..your darkest day,your hardest hit…….never give up………..the sun will rise,in early morn,up over the dark barren city….it will rise again.Thankyou,though for being honest in how you feel..that takes alot.Your in my thoughts,and prayers…….I wish you well!
- http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
  
  i sooooo agree with you
- Asiasong_707
  
  What’s the whole point of trying when all you want is to receive? Love isn’t all about giving n returning. It the connection between two people. Maybe you just been looking for love at all the wrong place. Let them come to you
- HellAndHighTide
  
  Completely agree with you. More hassle than it’s worth. Maybe I’m just not good enough to meet someone else’s expectations but I always end up getting hurt around the 2 year mark. I can’t take it anymore. I’m completely against the concept of relationships or this fallacy we call ‘love’. It’s just something the media has fed us. I genuinely believe it’s very possible for us to live and die without ever finding someone to love us. Just find someone to fulfil your primal needs and leave it at that. Save yourselves the pain.
Non-believer

There is no such thing as love! I’ve always wanted love but it has never wanted me!
- Asiasong_707
  
  Maybe your just looking at all the wrong place and those that you want never really wanted you.
Beautifulsoulmate

after a bad divorce, a long term relationship, and now losing someone because he is moving , i am done. There is no love in this world anymore……because everyone screwed it up. Its too easy to give up today.No one really works for it.
Depressed22

…..honestly I think I’m done trying… Love is all I wanted and no matter how hard I try I always fail….people push me around as I was a toy, they mess with my feelings and thoughts, one day its “I love you too” the next day ” Lets just be friends” and this has happened a matter of times, and now I have met someone in which I never loved more in my intire life but she said she loved me but won’t be with me…everyone says move on…I can’t….I simply can’t my feelings are so strong that i turned down two other girls of the summer, I just want……I just want to be happy and shes the only person who can do it…..I wish sometimes I had no emotions and felt nothing…..maybe die….I give up, my feelings will never change, and I won’t show any pain, all the pain is in the inside….I just want to die…
Myth 78

If you have never gotten close to even getting a date with a girl you’ll understand where I come from so here’s what I have to say Love and Happiness is OVERRATED! And there’s no way IN hell I am bring myself up just to spiral back down again, so I’ve made a new strategy every time I see a girl that is pretty I immedeatly give up and let the depression sink in, believe me its always faster and easier to give up than to try and fail. Basically Love is just a myth and TRUE LOVE is NON-EXISTENT
- Ninkin
  
  Haha ”every time I see a girl that is pretty I immedeatly give up….” keyword – “PRETTY” -) You only want a pretty girl, of course -) The rest just don’t exist -)
- Guest
  
  Haha ”every time I see a girl that is pretty I immedeatly give up….” keyword – “PRETTY” -) You only want a pretty girl, of course -) The rest just don’t exist -)
Insight856

Im in love wit a married woman. I was afraid to open up.. But 1 month ago,
I was forced to open up b/c she was upset wit my childish humor.. she ignored me for 2 wks and it hurt
Me deeply that I couldn’t sleep well for 3 days.. For the first time I was afraid of losing her.. I took her for granted
Before b/c she was married and I couldn’t express..
But we made peace and since then, I no longer take her for granted and begin to
Open up.. Im not afraid of getting hurt.. Just want to b there when she needs me.. But would not
Kimberly Walker

i give up on it. fuck it. i dont wanna be in a relationship anymore..no one is faithful and honest anymore.
Ninkin

Very nicely written article, very wise and encouraging… for those who still have the strength and the will to fight, I suppose -) I myself have given up – a 34-year old woman, never married, never even had a real relationship, always rejected, left and right, rejected, rejected, rejected – well, I’ve had enough. My only fault is being 6 feet tall and big-boned (yes, you read that right – big-boned, not obese), but I do look like a giant and men are intimidated by that. My personality? Doesn’t count. Nobody gives a damn. So I’ve just accepted that alas, I am not attractive, and that’s that. I’m not even bitter about it anymore. That’s the way things are, that’s how the world works. So let it be, I’ll accept my lot as a spinster and move on. Call me weak, call me a coward, call me whatever you want – I don’t care, I’m done.
- http://profile.yahoo.com/5FGTUKJVSUP7KXYKMUBXTC4WXM leftoverbot
  
  believing that bullshit will leave you lonely. you just described (yourself) the only woman I ever fell in love with. she let her size drive her to meth and lost her brain (and me/family) along the way. fro 16 years of my life I loved her for her personality and it made her 6′ foot tall big boned body seem like the most beautiful person I ever saw. don’t give up on love. sure, you don’t really need it – God is in and around you at all times – but is sure is a much better life when you have love
  - Guest
    
    Wrong. Life is unpredictable, and it could very well be that this woman is more likely to find love not giving a damn about it than looking for it. Sometimes people aren’t given a break no matter how hard they try, and others are fortunate enough to keep getting lucky. Sometimes life’s just unfair that way, and unless you’ve gone through similar experiences you really can’t legitimately judge her reasoning; especially, since people are the ones that have caused her to have this mindset. So if you’re going to blame anyone, blame those who have done this to her. We all have our breaking points, and it’s clear the indifference from people have resulted in this woman reaching hers.
  - Bjc133brn
    
    i gave up on love a while ago fuck it and frankly who gives a damn i shure as hell dont haha i would rather live my life alone and happily i might add just to minimize this things that dont have to do with love like money big houses are ok but love u will have to catch me drunk to say i love sombody haha i hate the world no doubt but what i hate more is that stupidass word love its just a word the fact that people perfer relationships even tho they know most of them are gonna get hurt in the process is funny as hell fuck love its nasty i fricken hate it and i hope i never love again bc i give up so what better than loveing mushy shit eww cnt stand how ppl think love is so important when really it suck big time
  - Bjc133brn
    
    if theres any advice i could give its if ur gonna love and thats what u want dats ight but remember if u do allways go for the looks personality is allways second best looks are the key to gettin whatevea girl u want
    - http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
      
      what if..the girl doesnt have personality? O.O think about it..perfect girl..could be.. A CLONE the ..technology is there . ..but ..unreachable to *us* -_- nvm..whatever
Czarina

Love pass me by? Thank you! Who needs an effing heart when a heart can be broken.
Guest

the one thing im afraid of is losing him. this past weekend i had a miscarrage and its been tough dealing with it and all of a sudden random exs started calling and txting me out of the blue. my boyfriend doesn’t know how to deal with pressure so whenever a guy calls he pushes me away and doesn’t talk to me for hours at a time or even look at me. i love him to death but after all the hurt and betral i have dealt with b4 him and now he wants to act like a child i just mite end up giving up on love completely
- James
  
  chin up roll with the punches as they say.
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_7ZXT7XFNGK36O23DY7X3ZRFUIE First L

i show my true nature: sweet. all that happens is i get taken advantage of. even my ex said the reason he became mean was because i was “too sweet”…same thing happened with the guy i liked…im short and petite so unlike Ninkin my personality is to blame. Too nice…that’s what people say. I’m too nice
Cabingirl

youre so full of shit your eyes are brown
James

I’m only 24 but I’ve been in love a few times. the last girl I loved I was with for nearly 2 years and we were like soulmates, at least I thought so at the time. She said I made her happier than she’d ever been.

We broke up a year ago and a day ago, I sent her a msg asking how she was. She replied today and in her last message she wrote: “Don’t worry Ive realised a lot of things when we broke up and I met someone else. Ive realise what it is like to be truly in love and loved, and how unhappy I actually was in our relationship. And now I would never go back to what we had or eve nbecome frinds with you. I have enough friends, you give me nothing I give you nothing , no point.”

I should mention that the person she met just a week after we broke up dumped her after a few months and she then sent me an e-mail saying she thought I would be happy now I’d got my ‘revenge’ so what she says about realising what true love is like may be taken with a pinch of salt – maybe I’m just bitter.

My point is, love can be great when you love someone and they love you (or at least you think they do) but if it doesn’t last and it probably won’t, at least one of you will get hurt and it’ll be like having your skin peeled off: slow, barbaric and really painful and the scars will probably always be there.

Before I had my heart broken so to speak I was all positive about love and I didn’t understand why girls I met were so scared of getting attached but now I understand it.

I wish I’d always been blissfully ignorant.
Poupeecerise

Lmao, you clearly have never experienced heartache
- Guest
  
  Fuck comments like you.
  
  I’ve experienced more heartache than you can imagine. I’ve had a horrible childhood surgery and then disability. In much of my life I didn’t have friends and was always rejected by women. When I wasn’t rejected, the relationships were destructive.
  
  But you know what? I got back up. I got better. I found ways to improve my life with my disability. I went out, and created friendships. I kept them going and I worked on myself. Then I met a girl.
  
  Now, we’ve been happily together for a while, and things are looking very good. It’s a very different relationship than my past ones.
  
  But I would have never found it if I had given up.
  
  So don’t wallow in self pity just because you think you’ve experienced a lot of pain. Frankly, you don’t know pain. People suffer much more and achieve a lot more. The difference between you and them? They keep trying, and you give up.
Angiesmaup

I have decided I am gonna give up on love. I am gonna make my soul cold.. I am married,been married for 15 yrs now and been together for 18.. thinks were good at the begining and started fading away. I am affectionate,he isnt. I always cry for him to show me and open up more but he never does. I decided I am done trying.
- Ladystaley
  
  Good. love yourself. get rid of him. do what you have to, to accomplish this. i, am ending a marriage where i found out he never did love me but chose to drag it out for 10 yrs then say …..im not happy, goodbye. it IS better to be in your own home without him than in the same house with someone who doesnt love you as you should be.
A cup of self love

i’ve gone through horrible break-ups and also got with men that didn’t love me and just wanted me for one thing. However, life is too short to wallow in self pity. Mourn and cry and throw tantrums but at some point make sure to get up, brush yourself off and move on. You do not have to rush into another relationship but just let it go, smile and be happy. Live your life and do all the things you want to do. Romantic love isn’t the answer to all life’s problems. It doesn’t pay bills and it definitely doesn’t replace self love. I’m working towards my inner happiness. As a christian, im also working on my relationship with christ.

Sure unrequited love hurts but don’t ever close yourself off from love if you truly deep down want it. Do not let others deter you from your desires.

Never give them that satisfaction. You deserve love. You deserve to be loved and to love. You deserve it all. Know your worth. =)
- Derp
  
  News flash: Jesus doesn’t exist.
  - Jabari16
    
    Newsflash: Read any books on ancient history, you must come across the name Jesus smh, this world is a sad place.
Guest

Look at all of you! “Oh, love bring pain, poor me”. You experience pain then hide in a shell. Does the self pity always work out for you?

NEWSFLASH! To get happiness at ANYTHING, you need to try. Try hard. That means failing. A lot. ALL successful people (at anything) have failed many times before being great. Same goes for “love”. Are you surprised that real effort is required for something great? Every time something remotely challenging comes up, do you always give up?

Cowards.
- http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
  
  And therefor.. DO NOT TRY ! just DO IT.. -_- i hate when people use : TRY .. And Faill..and get back at it.. -_- the first misstake is.. trying.. you try.. you faill.. you do it.. you succeed got it?
:/

this didn’t motivate me at all. In fact, i think it made me a little more pissed off.
to me love does not have to be romantic. It is deep compassion to one another. If my partner seemed upset, i would do everything i could to make them smile. If he cried, i would fight to hold back my own tears from seeing him like that.
But then again that could be the same relationship as best friends so what separates it from a relationship is the intimacy also involved.
and it all seems to drain out quick after a few years until you are left with an apathetic room mate.
For this i probably will live alone.
Josh19852011

I am 27 and I have been to war twice. For the first time ever in my life I say I QUIT. Women are getting worse and so are men. Divorce will likely rocket to 70% in 2-4 years. The only thing that makes me laugh anymore is people that tell me I have it wrong yet they have been divorced twice with 4 kids. I have never been married and have none! Nice try!
- Stefd_2000
  
  I agree with you to a point. I believe people give up too easily on someone long before they can get married these days. If anyone can make it past their battle scars and down the aisle with someone these days, it may actually last.
Ifsa121

i am sorry but i loved someone n he broke my heart n it hurt like hell then i met another guy who was such an asshole who just wanted to use me for a visa n almost raped me coz he knew i didnt believe in sex beofre marrage to me there is no such thing as love n never will be i am sorry but i have tried n all i seem to get in return is heartace n eyes full of tears i am better off lonley n rather die alone than ever marry or be wiv a guy again they use you for their own needs n fuck off when they know trust me its better beign alone i do not have the strength to go through all the heart break again its not worth it love is poison if i saw cupid i would shoot it wiv an arrow ma self

peace x
- http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko
  
  hmm… i think..we all ..need an *reset life* button.. because.. i know..there is love..(what love is_i believe_ the attraction to one another..based _on non sexuality 1st..and second..sexually.. and thirth.. just the tought..alone..just deppressing enough.. :/ any typo? fk it..aint gonaa rewritte it
Anonymous

Mastin, I’m about ready to give up. I need more of this and Deida.

Trying to work through it and understand it.

Can I?
Mme_tres_belle

Thank you for this post.

All I have to say to everyone is:

When deep inside, you know you found the one, believe and don’t give up. Do not rush, everything comes in patience. Do not demand, be kind and graceful. You have to understand and respect one another. Its okay to tell them how you feel. But remember never to give up. In order for us to love, you must risk and you must work hard. When you know deep inside, you truly know.

I love all of you, and as a person you do not know, I really do. We are all humans, and we are all part of humanity. xoxo
- Zyledame
  
  i want to rest na…my life is pointless:(
- Daviddennis1
  
  Man, this is so true. It is always very sad to read and know about people giving up on one of the most precious things of life – finding a personal that you absolutely connect with and, having an instinctive deep seated feeling love. What is most important is self worth and fulfilment. Once you are whole as a person – being pretty content with your life, you are then fully equipt to seek out what compliments you. It has taken me 46 years to realise this. I will help my children and those I know to realise this.
  - Ladystaley
    
    Hi. I am glad you found someone. For many out there, I’m sure it is a great feeling to connect. But for those of us who have repeatedly remained open only with negative results. It is VERY easy to give up. Our focus need to shift to those things and others who have integrity and show us love in other ways. I am 45 years old and have had nothing but liars and actors who have portrayed themselves as upstanding people only to be revealed for their true selves later. For all who have trusted again and found love….happiness, I am truly happy for you. But please stop trying to convince those of us who have not been so blessed. We obviously are not meant to be in loving married relationships. So we have chosen to be single forever.
Mme_tres_belle

To love = you have felt the fullest beauty of humanity.
Borealis

I wish she read this, I wish she read this, I wish she could read this. And… I wish I read this before.
Jhundley16

I’ve had more than my share of rejection and pain in my life, mostly by females. Even in grade school girls rejected and laughed at me. I’ve only known real love once and she treated me like dirt after 3 years of living together. It took me another 3 years to get over losing her when she walked out on me without so much as a goodbye.
This article says that love will find you but I don’t think love is guaranteed by any means. I don’t think each of us is destined to find someone. I think some of us will be lucky enough to find a wonderful person that loves and understands us, is willing to stay with us through thick and thin while the rest of us are just going to experience a life of loneliness and struggle.
I’ve been unattached for 5 years now and, honestly, I don’t feel like I deserve to have love. I’m kind, generous, caring, attentive, loving, sweet, etc. but that never seemed to matter. Somehow, I just don’t think I deserve to have someone love me at this point in my life. Maybe someday…maybe.
Happyme

This advise…hmmm is complete bull!!! Are people mentally retarded nowadays??? In this modern world there is not someone for everyone so many people will be on their own instead. I mean hello who is there to say that the purpose of life is to be with someone??? This is such a load of bull I think some people are just not meant for those things and are much better on their own doing what ever feels best for them instead of trying to find that non existing Mr. Right!

-the world is my oyster and I will not let anyone to come between my happiness and me
Tonybd231

Please remember love is not just a feeling,its a commitment.

So anyone who is not willing to take the rough with the smooth is doomed to fail.There has never been a partnership throughout the evolution of humankind that has not been a roller-coaster ride. All humans are individual which means that we are going to disagree,love,hate different things. The challenge of love is finding that middle ground (COMPROMISE) to ensure the love continues.
Zyledame

i think theres really no such thing as LOVE??..its just an illusion??
Crazycutie2007

Cliché passage. This is a load of crap! Everyone doesn’t get a “happily ever after.” I’m not being bitter, but I’ve been down that road before…opening up & letting my guard down despite my previous pain and failed relationships only to come out more hurt & humiliated than before. Too often we wear our heart on our sleeve. My advice is to guard your heart & don’t put it in the hands of another to be dropped and shattered. No one can/will appreciate you more than YOU.
Guest

What a crock of bullshit. Love doesn’t exist. It never has, NEVER WILL. I’ve had TWO bad relationships so far this year and I am fucking done. Love should NEVER exist. EVER. Love is nothing more than a big fat fucking lie.

Hatred is better than love.
- Bowkeopho
  
  I’m sorry you went through that! I know how you feel because I was with druggies, men who abused me physically and mentally, to top it all liers and alcoholics…after all that I still believe in true love! I’d hope you wouldn’t give up! I’m taking the time to be myself and love myself after all I did go through hell the past couple years!!! But I wish you luck! …
  - Guest
    
    Why would you wish that person luck? He/she said that he/she is done with love. Bowkeopho, all love leads to heartbreak, rejection, depression and so on. There are NO positives to love. True love does NOT exist and guess what? IT NEVER FUCKING WILL. Get over it.
    - Dsafd
      
      HA… now i can see why love never will work for you. yes, you are indeed better off alone. go die in a ditch and leave love to the rest of us. end your genetic chain so the world won’t have to put up with your kind. peace immature kid.
      - Derp
        
        Wow, and you call that person immature? Look at your grammar.
      - deanmarie
        
        Seriously, who cares about his/her grammar? Are they being tested on it here? No. They were simply making a point; one of which, I agree with.
        We’ve all been burned at least once in our lives, some worse than others. We can sit here & waddle in our misery, or we can pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off, & go back out there & try again. It all comes down to one’s personal choice in the matter. It’s definitely much easier to say “screw love” bc it means not having to put oneself back out there again & potentially getting hurt/rejected again…but, damn, it is a lonely existence, & I know this bc I have lived it after 2 painful heartbreaks…and I have to say, it was almost worse being so guarded and lonely, not ever letting any love in bc I was scared of being hurt again. l have since done a lot of work on the inside of me, and have been putting myself slowly back out there-dipping my feet in, so to speak… But, at least I’m trying, bc one of these times, I’m going to feel more secure in opening up again & I will have found something, or someone rather, who I will truly appreciate.
        Btw, Love is not about procreation. Pheromones associated with instant attraction/chemistry is the primitive instinct for a suitable “genetic match” for procreation. Marriage isn’t about a man staying to help a woman raise her kids, it was originated as a contract to bind families for monetary/status purposes. Caring for someone deeply (w the good & bad) and appreciating the companionship the other person offers is what love is about-and this could be with family, friends, &/or that special someone.
        No one should ever give up entirely on love…just give yourself plenty of time to heal and recover from the recent (or not so recent) burn you last encountered and allow your heart to mend. BUT, you have to at least do the work and try to get back on the horse, otherwise, you’re just being a poor sport pouting on the sidelines. Generally, it’s our ego that has been bruised & gets in the way of us from wanting to try again. We have to be strong enough to recognize that and to recognize that we deserve more than a half ass, solitary existence. It doesn’t have to be sappy “true love,” but it could be real love. Now it’s up to us to be open to the possibilities and ready & willing to recognize it when we feel it.
      - Whogivesafuck
        
        TL;DR, look at all the fucks I give.
  - Annie On
    
    @1b15ee0cd80aeecd34c0c1e820563508:disqus - You deserve better.
http://profile.yahoo.com/TBIAUKYCB7MFZEQKFMKJDNGO2I J

Im willing to go for it, but my “friends” just absolutely ridicule the shit out of me whenever I am anything but alone.
BrokenHearted

Love sucks sometimes… but I’m not giving up.
Guest

Are you ready to commit to love? how much money you got? whats the goal/motive of loving this person? you’re going to make it work in the long run? I think for Love you look deeply what involves love than just the feelings, we all have feelings and desire intimacy, but once that is fulfilled you gotta live life and you still have to piece the over all longevity. Who’s wearing the pants in this relationship? and who really wants this directive in their agenda (who is this guy) well… thats reality, get yourself in check before getting involved into something that your heart is eventually going to break in the long run, or take it for what it is worth, love and be broken, that brokenness will eventually help someone out, perhaps you’ll write a book, or a blog, and then fall in love truly, that you would have inherited a treasure for things to come, but will you handle the fall when it comes? Will you allow your heart to heal and believe in yourself to be refortified, that ultimately all along you were getting prepared for a love through that broken-ness yes… IN that I wouldn’t give up on yourself, we’re not defined by our feelings… we’re defined by something greater that is being molded in us, Believe in what you have been made to still be standing, your pain is your strength my friend, and self pity is not detriment but another teacher on the sideline providing an alternate opening, a graceful fire? whatever way you want to look at it its your heart, and your sitting here reading this wondering whats next to walk to, to think of to say, have you asked your own heart why you have delayed? or out there to see.. pass and wonder, hey couch will you throw me a bottle of water while your observing the pity in my soul, and perhaps then my friend you’ll be quenched and score the next goal.
Mcparland_mike

Who can I go to about this?
Ryan

block all of it out its a wast of time
Guest

After having two bad relationships this current year (first relationship was in 2010, second one was in March of this year and only lasted for a month), I think it’s time for me to give up. I’m 17 and it just seems like I’m never going to find the right person. I’ve been hurt and lied to, even cheated on. It seems that all love wants to do is hurt me instead of benefit me.
Guest

I came here with the attitude you guys all have. I fell in love with a girl and I know she will NEVER feel the same way back, we’re just ‘best friends’. I have had bad past relationships involving cheating on my partners side and I came here thinking that love was non-existent. But now, reading all of the comments I have to think how wrong I was. If I truly believed that love wasn’t around, then why the hell do I wake up everyday? And I ask everyone here the exact same question… If we all truly felt all hope was lost in love then why the hell are we still pushing on through our lives? Truth is, everyone here has had a bad past with love, but you cant change that so why let the future be ruined too? When love comes I’ll be ready, because I believe out there somewhere is the right girl for me. Maybe my friend will change her mind, or maybe I’ll find another. All I know is I’ll wait forever and a day for it if I have to, because I believe it to be there and Im not giving up hope, not now, not ever.

Call me naive if you wish, maybe I am. I am only 16 after all. But I’d much rather be naive and hopeful, than bitter and alone.
- nikki
  
  Thats right sweetie..even though you are 16…lol…but it just shows…at the age of 16..with a mind set like yours…You will always accomplish anything you want out of life..because you dont give up…wish you the best of luck….
- Mrfluent4fun
  
  I for sure wouldnt give up at your age, im 33 and havent given up yet, but cant promise i wont one day as in life there is a begining a middle and an end and we change.
Ana

Thank you so much for this post! This is exactly what I’m going through right now. I got out of a relationship with a guy who was simply not ready for what I was ready for and did a lot of work on myself. However, I chose to spend my time dating guys that looked good on the outside but didn’t really allow me to be ME. I finally met this guy in graduate school who is incredible. However, the feelings I have for him (after only dating for a month) are intense. I literally flip back and forth from being insanely happy to being scared to death to feeling like my heart is gonna leap out of my chest. I am working hard on being grateful and not being so afraid. He makes me want to worry less about the future and worry less in general. I can be completely vulnerable with him and also totally silly. Thanks for the reminder to dive in where it most scares you. Committed to getting over this fear and not wanting to lose him. Thanks again for this!
Ggsrgs

Thank you, it really helped! I think I found my first true love for the first time, I hope with all my heart she will be mine!!!!!!
Ayla

I use to have this idea stated in the article but I don’t anymore. I’m 27 and I fell in love with someone who honestly doesn’t see the point of being in love…I mean she could go her whole life being single and be totally happy. We’ve been besties for over a year and I fell so hard for her at one point. She thinks I’m attractive and she loves being my friend, but that is all. She has been nice about it. She’s said kind things. But at the end of the day, we won’t be together. I’ve had my heart punted multiple times, but this one kicks the field goal. I give up on love. At least for a long time I don’t want anything to do with it.
Pokerface22

Love is like the lottery, or cancer… IT DOESN’T HAPPEN TO EVERYBODY. I have come to realize that it will not happen for me. I am 37 years old and its been pretty crappy all my life. I’ve come to realize that I will be alone for the rest of my life so I just warmed up to the idea. I travel alone, eat alone, go to movies alone and its not that bad. Also, when you are by yourself, you are more productive… In work, at other things, etc. The only trick is to realize that when you feel something for somebody, do not fall into it. Let it go. Because if you do, it will be the kind of thing you didn’t need in your life. Nobody deserves the hurt that “love” causes. Rhonda Byrne (author of The Secret) wrote another booked full of crock called “The Magic”. Her secret is, give love and receive love. I have given nothing but love and receive crap in return. So that formula does not work. Love your family, love your pets. But a significant other, there is no such thing.
Jherring71

I married when I was 18 and divorced when I was 26. After a bitter marraige and relieving divorce, I swore I would not remarry until I finished raising my 3 children who, at the time, were 3, 5, and 7. This summer, my youngest daughter turned 18 and I turned 41. I’ve spent the last 15 years playing the field in half-hearted relationships. With each passing relationship, I looked back and knew in my heart of hearts, it was never meant to be. My first love was raising my children. But loneliness can make you desperate. Once I learned how to be alone, my life got easier but the hope for a future husband was still tucked away deep down inside ready to blossom when the children were grown. Right after my middle child moved out on her own and before my youngest daughter turned 18, fear and depression set in that I may have missed my opportunity for true love. To calm my soul, I convinced myself that I was supposed to spend the rest of my life single. And then…out of no where.. it just happened….just the way everyone always says it does. The man of my dreams showed up. And we both knew it was meant to be. The struggle isn’t over though. Everything in that article spoke to me. It’s so easy to run away from true love when you’ve been playing it safe for so long. Buf if there is one thing I know for sure, I will fight for us even when the easy road is staring me in the face. And it feels SO good to know I’ve met someone I am willing to fight for.
Stonert95

I suree wish my life was as simple as this.
Newman

wow, lots of interesting comments here. i’m here because I am going for it, yet again…

Years ago, I loved a woman who was only a friend and I let her slip away. She even wanted me to open up about my feelings, but I was too afraid. Of what, I don’t really know. The relationship never progressed and we “broke up.”

That haunted me for years. After a very long time, we got back in touch and I had a chance to talk to her about it. She played dumb at first, but then admitted she was sad how things ended. She’s married now. I’m single, got a divorce. I decided if that was meant to be, it would and that I’m not going to wait for her. Fast forward three years later and I met someone. I’ve never had this kind of connection with a woman before. We are very much in synch in many ways, but very much our own people. This kind of chemistry is something I had no idea could really exist. But it is happening now. Not a “I can’t love withut you” kind of love, but one that grew out of friendship and commonalities. It is pretty amazing to feel this much. Of course, we’re both afraid of it. But I learned my lesson from the past. I’m not giving up so easily this time.

And if my heart gets broken, I’ll be a mess for a while, but I’d rather go down trying than to always wonder what might have been.

By the way, I’m also transgendered, female-to-male, and have had relationships with women for years, even gotten married, all without a penis. I don’t let that “disability” prevent me from giving love and being loved in return.
- Newman
  
  typos, “I can’t live without you” kind of love
babyFace

I believe in love but love doesn’t last. People who are saying good things about it is just experiencing the first months, first years of a relationship. But when that person had a bad break up he/she turns bitter and sad. Nothing lasts FOREVER, sad to say Even LOVE. There may be some but not for all people.
Travis

So basically what is saying is when you go out with someone, be open about your real name, address, past life or whatever the females asks you? Like Areosmith would say “DREAM ON!” Finding the “right one” shouldn’t mean to give your life story or personal identity to just anyone you go on a first date with.

A girl can’t respect your privacy, the funk with her. A person shouldn’t go through a lot of bad dates or breakups in order to find the one. One of my brother’s friends found “the one” after not having to date a lot of females at all.
Sirenbliss

I’m tired too. I’ve been single for 11 years since my ex-husband left me for my best friend. Ever since that lie of a marriage and so called friendship, I have been unable to find a decent guy. I dated ALOT. EVERY man I dated said they werent ready for a committment and yet THAT SAME MAN turned around 6 months or a year later and got married TO SOMEONE ELSE. After that’s happened to you for about 1o years you start to realize you are the one getting rejected and not asked and so that CLEARLY means youre just not marriage material for some reason. I’m not a total loser — 4 classes shy of a BA, attractive face, I’m not rich but I own my own car, and have an income. I dont smoke, drink or use drugs. I’m overweight– but I’m tall. And still — NO ONE. NOT ONE DECENT MAN has ever returned my love. At 46, I’m done. Tired of the lies and the rejection. If I do date again hes gonna have to go through a crap load of hoops to get through me. Signed tired of being burned. Melanie
Adarose 06

what if, if the love is the one who’s giving you up…
Doesn’t matter.

I’m 25 years old. I’m a United States Army Afghanistan war veteran. I have a six-pack and a lot of girls think I am handsome, or so I’m told. I’m also a a virgin. I have absolutely no idea why, I’m half black / half white and was skinny in high school so not a lot of girls liked me and laughed at me when I asked them out. I even made one from college fly out to see me who treated me like shit but now all of a sudden when I’m 5’11” and 175lbs NOW you want me? I didn’t even meet her in the airport, I just made her feel as invisible and unwanted like how she did, anyone that shallow doesn’t deserve to be with me. But I believe the secret to love is simply the fact that making love is special and even more special when you know it was reserved for just you… (starting to think otherwise) I’m about to give up on love also, and just be an ass hole. You dumb-ass ladies think there are no good men out there because you don’t approach the good looking ones because you think we’re all assholes. FUCK YOU. Oh and not everyone who looks like they do now did look like that months or even years ago. From what every friend I know has told me… fucking random girls is what I should be doing. I don’t know… anyone have any advice? I don’t really know what its like to be in a real relationship, the one girl I went out with cheated on me with my friend. But then she decides she likes me later after the Army makes me ripped.
- Guest
  
  Tl;dr, cry some more.
guest

Weird l read this today l for one has given up. l am by far one of the nicest people l know and l treat people the way l want to be treated and alas lam the one to be meeting aone doucebag after the other doucebag. l do ot expect anything from anyone besides the pure fact of companionship and what it has to offer.
Goofygirl

This is total crap. Keep entering into relationships because hey, maybe this one will be better? No. It won’t. I have to give up to survive, because in all honestly the last relationship broke me so much I came close to ending it. And you tell me to do it again? There is no such thing as love.
- Guest
  
  I feel bad for you. You need a hug.
Guest

Here’s an idea: Why not just make love, relationships and marriage illegal? It’ll solve everyone’s problems, since all relationships are bad, marriage is a chain and ball and love causes problems.
Lifeless

fuck love..love is some bullshit..ill never love again! LOVE HAS NEVER LOVED ME

I TRIED TO LOVE … BUT ALL IT WAS WAS UNREQUITED LOVE
Hatred

Love, friendship, all those happy emotions…they’re all just a myth. Hate, discrimination, and other negative emotions, they are real.

My advice: Do NOT embrace positive emotions. Instead, go to negative emotions. Negativity is better than positivity emotions.
yuik

The problem is that everyone wants to equate love with a partner , a couple of romantic affiliation when in reality love comes from yourself and everything around you, why the hell wait for another person? go volunteer the fuck up and see how people live in another parts of this planet without any of this hollywood perfect love crap…
Brian

Hello, my name is brian sluk, I recently had a relation trouble that almose made me commit sucide, because the only one true woan i love was laft me because she travelled to finish her education in foreign country. she was no longer returning my calls or emails, till she clearly told me she is now dating someone else that life has to move on that i should do the same.
It hurt me so badly like my whole life is about to end, then i went online to know if there was anything i can do to change things then i saw people talking about a great spell caster whose email is templeofancientancestors@gmail.com, i did the same by contacting him because i needed her desperately and the spell caster did brought her back after 2days, we were now so much inlove all of a sudden, she started calling apologising, she calls morning, afternoon, and evening, just to make sure am okay.
The spell caster really changed everything to good if not i would have done something harmful to my self.
All thanks to the great spell caster, contact him on issues.

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Dylan Grieve

This is really good, and inspiring. Normally I get irritated when people say “it will happen to you”, because it really is an arrogant smug statement, but you add something extra that makes it more valid. You say, “you have to be open to it”, and that makes it more, even if not completely, true.
Iwillbejudge

yeah but if your muscles get ripped all the time your left damaged and may never heal from that i know i have 3 relationships in my whole 20 years of living and none last longer than 3 days and it sucks because they keep getting shorter now i’m one of those “good guys” girls say they’re looking for but when we offer they go back to dating jerks so no love has no point unless girls and guys g for the person rather than just the looks if you want a long lasting relationship then forget if they aren’t really fit or pretty and settle for slightly less if someone likes you and you can bear them go for it as for me no girl goes out there way to talk to me or look at me in THAT way but when i talk to my female friends who have bfs and gfs they go aaawwwww and how sweet and yet still single so i’m just not gonna do love so girls ask the guys because some of us aren’t confident in ourselves enough to ask you out
like it matters

huh…you say never to give up, meanwhile people have good reasons to sometimes. i for one got lied to, cheated on, apparently i cheated on a person when she broke up with me first, i have depression and the bitches who broke my heart 3 times in 3 years replaced me. if thats not reason enough for me i want to know what a good reason is. love doesnt exist but im stupid enough to keep trying im just dumb i guess.
- Mayank
  
  why r u feeling dumb ? ur self ?
  
  brodr u hv a lot of strength and power ..
  that u tried 3 times
  
  feel u r the best man ??
  
  u r ryt its a waste of time i agree but u r nt a dumb guy
  that grl is a dumb coz she didn’t saw ur love towards her
Dspurlock78

i wanna give up on love because, its a waste of my time. i do and do, but dont get anything in return. its fucked up. im scared ill be alone forever..its seriously scary…
Leonard

When the woman I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results after losing alot of money. I found oldreligoin@gmail.com on a newspaper and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with her. I’m so glad I did and trusted him. he performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. After 4 days, the woman I missed dearly came back home and told me few days ago that she still loves me more than ever and wants to live the rest of her life with me. I will forever publish good things about this temple because the temple restored my relationship.

Leonard
Mrfluent4fun

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” Isnt this worth fighting for? Take what you can and move on. Just because your not in a reciprocate relationship doesnt mean you cant love or be loved. Open your mind, open your heart & expect nothing and then see what comes your way? It is better to of lived a life being rejected then to live a life of regret. Beside you get used to rejection after a while, dont take it too personaly it just wasnt ment to be.
GivingUp

I’ve had three terrible long distance relationships so far, not one person has shown interest in me yet I’m a kindred person in real life. But they won’t give a fuck about me until I look beautiful. Moment I do, they go on and on about how beautiful I am, how much they love me, etc. What bullshit. Fucking superficial hypocrites. I’m 17 and I know what you guys are thinking: “Oh, you’ll eventually find love”, “You’re young, just wait for it”, “You haven’t met the right type of person yet”, “You don’t know what love is”, “Rejection hurts, but move on”, etc. I get used, treated like shit, have depression, nobody gives a fuck about me until I look beautiful and you tell me to not give up on love? I’d rather become a spinster who locks herself up in a house in complete isolation from the world and society than deal with a significant other who is abusive. I don’t even believe love exists anymore. Prove to me that it DOES.
Luvsux

BOOO! I give up! Seems like everytime I find someone I’m attracted too, here comes someone or something else getting in the way! I never get what I want. I done with settling. I just rather be alone!
- Mayank
  
  brodr ask those people who live in the slums …
  u have so many thing see ur happiness in ur self ..
  
  u will always happy then
Hvnleigh

I too believed in all that before….now I think at least for me its love that makes my blood burn and long for every single second and makes me feel so alive, or its safety, security, someone who wont let you down….I have my babies and I cant drag them along through the instability, the whirlwind…..so I chose safe….I used to believe you could have both now I guess you cant or maybe only very few can so Im here, raising my kids with a guy who is good and safe and stable and doesnt even give me the smallest spark of that wild, crazy, all consuming thing I have in the past thought was love and maybe….maybe this is it….maybe the movie and storybook love really arent meant for happily ever after
Trevor

Well, women never give me a chance so not really possible because it takes two to tango. Therefore, I’ve given up because women have spoken loud and clear that they’re not interested. It’s not my looks either, I’m 6’2″ fit and women tell me I’m handsome, it’s my emotional damage from a horrible childhood and lousy marriage that ended in betrayal. Women can smell that I’m damaged goods from a mile away and run. 4 years with barely a date never beyond the first date and that was including one women who thought I was hot and left her number with my hair dresser lol. I can pretty much look forward to the second half of my life alone. I guess I’ll be looking for an animal companion, at least they love unconditionally without judgement. I need something to love, so better than nothing.
emofox41

Love is bullshit especially when you decide you are not going to fuck up anybody’s life ever again. My first girlfriend just broke up with me because I was always negative and put myself down and I told her that no one deserves a piece of shit like me, especially her. I ‘m better off alone anyway because I’m going to join the Air Force one day to become a fighter pilot. Then no one will give a damn about what happens to me. I still have deep, intense feelings for her, and I will live alone with those feelings buried deep in my aching heart until my dying day. No one else will ever replace her. I hope she finds happiness with someone that isn’t a piece of shit like me. Even though we still talk as friends, I will always long for her deep inside, and I will respect that she never wants to be with me again, but in my heart we will always be together.
- Mayank
  
  brother yu r nt a piece of shit
  dnt give up …
  
  u r the best
  - Mayank
    
    u r the best u know why m sayn this thing to yu
    
    after knowing that she is with another boy …
    u r still toking to her as a friend n u r still want her happiness
    
    that is ur love i can understand but brodr
    
    u hv a good strength be a man n make ur future …
    
    there r so many grls left in this world
    there r so many grls who cn give yu love more then her
    
    dnt give up dude
Danielle

This website is the only one I’ve ever found that deals with people pleasantly, openly, and promptly. I really have to hand it to you – you taught me how to deal with my impatient nature when it comes to love matters – and that’s no easy task for anyone! Dr. Lee is one of the most gifted best-kept secrets I have ever known. I can think of several well known so-called psychics or whatever that he could easily eclipse with his knowledge and wisdom. I truly believe he is a treasure, and I will never put my love life on the line again or do the stupid things I used to do because he taught me the importance of truth and total love, and what that really means. You are the best Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com
stare

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Mike was the love of my life and walked out on me after I cheated on him twice with his best friend. I don’t know why I did it and going back to it, it wasn’t even all that great (lol). His best friend was an asshole and really screwed us. I was the horrible person and the weak person however and gave in to him. It was not fair to Mike and I cannot even imagine how it feels. Except…I imagine SORT OF IT BEING…similar…to the situation of him walking out on me. I know what I did was wrong but it was not planned. I wanted another chance. I knew we were meant to be. With ayelala shrine spell and ultimate psychics…I did finally get my second chance. They are great, worked with me through it all and the results I could clearly tell were nearly instantly working for me. It wasn’t long or horrible like the other casters I have tried. These people are for real! Give them a shot. You may post this on your new site, ou have my blessing” ayelalashrine@gmail.com is the answer
stare

STARE
Mike was the love of my life and walked out on me after I cheated on him twice with his best friend. I don’t know why I did it and going back to it, it wasn’t even all that great (lol). His best friend was an asshole and really screwed us. I was the horrible person and the weak person however and gave in to him. It was not fair to Mike and I cannot even imagine how it feels. Except…I imagine SORT OF IT BEING…similar…to the situation of him walking out on me. I know what I did was wrong but it was not planned. I wanted another chance. I knew we were meant to be. With ayelala shrine spell and ultimate psychics…I did finally get my second chance. They are great, worked with me through it all and the results I could clearly tell were nearly instantly working for me. It wasn’t long or horrible like the other casters I have tried. These people are for real! Give them a shot. You may post this on your new site, ou have my blessing” ayelalashrine@gmail.com is the answer
Mlmvc323

Hello,everyone my name is Lilian from USA i never ever believed in spell until i meet a man called Dr upesa, who help me cast a spell that bring back my ex-lover who left me for one years before our marriage,His spells works beyond my imaginations and today i am happily married two kids and me and my [ex-lover] now husband are very happy more than ever before,what more can i say rather than to say thank you Dr upesa for been there for me,contact him today and your life will never ever remain the same his email is upesaspelltemple@gmail.com
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Lucy

Dr. Lee helped my marriage. The problem was not between my husband
and I, but from jealousy brought on by his family. Ever since we met,
they have tried to sabotage our relationship. It felt to me as if I
wasnt just married to him, but also his family, which was slowly
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find out if he could help save our marriage. I’m happy to say that he
did and I can’t thank him enough. Meet him so he can solve your problem
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http://www.facebook.com/brana.sandra Brana Sandra

i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost?then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster?so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things? then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address greatzuba@gmail.com, his spells is for a better life. again his email is greatzuba@gmail.com
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Bjc133brn

love is the one thing i hate about the world i dnt need no shawty to make me happy i would rather live alone all i need to make me happy is money and the best part is i wont be spending it on a girl bc there would be no point buying things for someone i dont love..at all money dnt tlk to u it dnt bitch to u and it most definitly dnt act needy and say i love u its an object and a good one i might add matterfact love is just a word used to describe feelings i dnt have fuck it man money and richness all da way
- Guest
  
  Oh look, it’s a YOLO Swagfag.
Qball454

I have recently lost the love of my life of over 10 years. And let me tell you it is devastating. I think about her every single breath I take and it is literally driving me crazy. When you know you had someone who is so special that nothing else matters to you. But what makes it worse is that I was to afraid to tell her my feelings because I felt stupid. That was the dumbest shit I have ever done in my life. And I have no one to blame but me it is hard to lose the one you love even worse to lose you soul mate I hope that anyone who is reading this will tell the woman in your life just how important she is to you and show her and to make her feel secure in your arms and to protect her and to always be honest with her and your self other wise you will end up like me just a lost soul a shell of the person you once were I used to ylthink love was stupid but it was me 2ho is stupid because I could never get out my feelings about her I will have this on my heart for the rest of my days im sure of it so please if you are out there listening if you love her or him whatever please take the time to let them know just how much they truly mean to you otherwise if she is the one you will be in my shoes losing everything in your life because you can’t find a reason to even try if I could take it all back I would not have been so prideful and would have showered her with all my love and affection regardless of how stupid I would feel better that than alone wondering if she will ever forgive me for being a fool and not telling her just how much she means to me so please if you are reading this take the time out to tell her how special she really is and marry her for god sake Seana Rei I am so sorry for being stupid please come back to me my heart is weak and there is a such thing as dying of a broken beart it is a slow and painful experience I hope no one has to go through you are probably laughing at me I dont give a damn love hurts and if you dont take the time to show her you’ll see to for yourself I pray that not a single soul goes through what I have been going through torment of the heart and soul is not the way you want to go so if you have a special someone that nothing could ever replace im begging you to do the right thing to make sure she know without a doubt that she is the center of your universe
osas jonah

He will not call nor come and visit me,and when i see him i will continue to complain and don’t have my time and when i ask him if i offend him,he will say no and i don’t know why he keep on doing this to me. I love him so much that i cant let him go or lose him for another girl, i always cry both day and night.I will still go to him and apologize,the problem i was having with him over some month ago is that he don’t pick my calls and don’t want to see me,he will go around telling people that i am pest to his life,and also tell them to tell me that he don’t love me again.And this is a man that we have have been dating for over three years and now he thorn me down,but i give glory to ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com who find in this forum and he was faithful and able to solve my problem for me.Now i am happy he his back to me and he treated me like a baby.
Kendaly

Dr. Lee, Thank you! It happened just like you told to me. To be honest after 3 days of having casted the break-up spell, love spell and marry me spell I was losing faith. All of the sudden Veronica and Michael separated. Michael was calling me on the phone nonstop telling me that he was sorry. Last week we went out and a during a romantic dinner he confessed his love for me and propose to me. For a moment I was in shock. I said YES!!!! We are getting marry at the end of next month. I am in debt with you for a lifetime. Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com
Jacobsss

Thank you for always being there for me dr.okudu (okudutemple@gmail.com). I had spells cast before without success and successful ones, but I never felt so taken care of before. You really care of me and my problems. All problems and wishes are solved now thanks to you!! Pls tell me how I can repay you for this.

Your friend forever

Danielle, germany
Yo

There are some real negative people here.
- Likelytoneverfindlove
  
  Why does it concern you?
Vanessa age 26

Wait how about this one? hold on to your sides: “it will find you when you are not looking”
HAHAHAHAHAHA! Please.
Been sinlge for six years not one single date. Not even been approached and i havent been looking all that time. Havent had many dates in my lifetime neither, and the Wastes Of Spaces i had dated either dumped me or cheated on me, and the guys i tried to persue (i heard guys like to be approached too) took the p*ss out of me and i became the joke of the town. I get extremely jealous when i see people i know have longterm relationships or getting married whilst i cant get past 2 months with a guy. SO EMBARRASSING! :’(
And it doesnt help that i was bullied throughout my childhood, didnt have many friends and was always isolated and rediculed by teachers. Clearly ive been deprived of experiencing connections with people. So how can i, on Gods green earth can i beleive love will come my way?
- 17yearoldgivinguponlove
  
  I know how you feel. I’m seventeen, female also, about to graduate HS in May and I feel awful. My ex-gf constantly goes back to her boyfriend after they break up, the guys IRL that I show interest in me take the piss out of me also, I get treated like shit, I get hurt, and so on. I have almost no self-esteem (despite the fact I have family and an ex-gf who care for me and love me), I view myself as hideous and worthless IRL, and I have very little friends, and I TRY to be nice to people. People tell me I need to wait, it’ll arrive when I’m not looking, etc. and guess what? NOTHING so far. I give up on love. When I want something to do with love, it wants nothing to do with me. By the time I’m done with HS, I’m gonna become a nun, get a hysterectomy and avoid love at all costs.
johnathan

I think I give up on love to…..I mean every time I try to get up and try again it always fails so I give up
FD

Hi,
My love is going away from me. what should I do? fight hard or give up. because I know , fight hard and if i fail then it will hurt more.. I cant imagine what to do
Tiabrits1

Wtf people!! Ffs this guy/woman didn’t ask for your insults and cruelness! Ok, this was kinda sweet what he/she said, it means his strong enough not to give up even if he fails he/she always gets back up, and that is a brave heart, I mean all u people that says fuck love get a life, its just like he said, YOU TOOK THE WRONG DAMN motherfucking! ROAD,,,,,
F Thetranslator

i cannot afford to think that way like many men do men are different from women its easy for a woman to forget the pain though its not easy for a man to do the same they love by their mind and then their heart whereas we love by our everything i do not agree that this would be easy at the same time i do not agree with giving up on it but to have a number of scars from meeting the wrong men again and again and to be a toy of love for many years that really hurts i think many of us after all this b4 opening up we need therapy heavy therapy lucky you men and women in the western part of the world we in the east have used our religion in the wrong way many women are spinsters or will be it soon enough, the woman who was appreciated in the past is wronged in the future and no one is to blame but our stupid minds believe me u are lucky to feel free to do whatever u like no obligations and no questions asked and no damned society putting their eyes on u and saying freak if u feel like doing something to make u a bit free. love its only a dream in our part of the world believe me ur so lucky that u can find the freedom to love and we not. we are to marry what our parents agree upon we are not free to choose out of love if ladies make a mistake they are condemned to hell for it they would be shunned and called names and treated the worst treatment any one could treat someone and if men make mistakes the same ones bravo they are men they have nothing to lose and ladies would go to hell if that mistakes are known and playing with the heart all men in our world are players using ladies as you use sex toys so appreciate what u have for u are lucky to have it
- F Thetranslator
  
  i don’t mean that they are used 4 sex alone i mean they are used 4 love and sex as a toy
Cougervegas

True love its just in fairy tales in disney movies,i dont beleive in love thx to this girl who destroy me,mentally hurt me broke my hearts made me look other people diffrent,brought me pain still to this day i suffer and thx to her! Relationships are juat all lies they tell you they love but they DONT mean it! Im better of beign single and alone,less stress more money for me . While shes beign use just for sex and having diffrent babies daddy lol. But i still wish her the best at the end and good luck,becuase shes gonna need it.
Berlydreamer

Wow….that is really passionately spoken,and very good wisdom! Easier,said,than done,but possible!Thankyou for inspiring,and caring enough for other’s to want the best for them! God Bless you,Mastin
Jashes85

yes… love is a total waste of time and effort. been through 4 relationships and that is enough for me and I’m only 28. OY. Its tedius. Putting yourself out there only to get ”no thanks, no more!” In fact, from being rejected, I found a way to cope with the pain. Writing music or fantasy adventure stories, playing video games or my guitar, listening to music (no sappy lovey-dovey songs because they are SUCH a downer!) I’m more into intense sounds like… Hollywood Undead, BFMV, or My Darkest Days just to name a few…but now that I am so focused and drawn to it, I don’t fancy giving it up! It puts me at such ease, that I feel at a loss if I am not doing any of those things. Going out and socializing? Boring! So sorry to love, I’ve found a greater passion, thanks and I guess I should add, I’m a girl.
http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko

ow wait..i already gave up on love ..why did i readed it?
http://www.facebook.com/filip.hecko Filip Hecko

The First misstake is in relationship IS… (drums) the boys and girls think about love differently.. RESEARCH IT !
Ducthuong208

that’s right
http://twitter.com/ahollander314 Aaron Hollander

I too have been scorned by Love – however, I just read this article and it set me on a new path – http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mystery-happiness/201112/love-others-you-love-yourself

“Accept (or reject) others on the basis of their spirituality, ethics, and morality. Those who are spiritual will extend their love to you the same way that you do to them, without expectation of reciprocation. They love and they are loving people, period.”
Guest

Too late. I gave up on romantic love and I feel better already knowing that I’ll never have to deal with anyone’s bullshit again.
Stevechallon

There is an amazing amount of opinions on this subject, much of it ill thought out. Sure love is a condition many would like to experience but it is so difficult to find someone totally aligned with your feelings it is nigh impossible. At my age and with what I have experienced I believe the love industry, literature, valentines day, chick flicks, mills and boom conditions us from an early age to persue this poisoned chalice. My advice is to love your family and friends, for romantic love if you are fortunate or not to find it usually fades into indifference or worse.
riling

I want to use this opportunity to thank Therapist Oniha for helping me get my lover back after she left me few months ago. i have sent friends and my brothers to beg her for me but she refused that it is all over between both of us but when i met this Therapist Oniha he told me to relaxed that every thing will be fine and really after just 4 days i got my woman back. so thank him so much. Here is the email winexbackspell@gmail.com i don’t know what will i have done if not for Therapist Oniha. Please everyone on this blog should please help me thank him with happiness.
Sggilby

Mastin is full of BS on the topic of llllluuuuuuvvvvee!, you should try looking outside! Beautiful flowers die, because that is the nature of life, love grow then die. Next time you do a section on stuff we can really believe in, please let me know. I dont believe in the tooth fairy, dinner with the easter bunny, Santa Claus and the beautiful princess who suddenly appears in your life to love you, what a crock of crap. Even worse than religion!

LOVE the one true ideal to which man quite happily sacrifices himself, his friends, his interests, his job, his whole being just to please someone else!!

You people need to get real there is more i can do with my life, than listening or reading other peoples bullsh#t. Because at the end of the day we are all flawed and the sooner you reaslise that the happy you can be by yourself.
Darkshadow

friends have turned to strangers, what am I doing wrongly ? is loving someone that much of a sin ? i have been a slave to love for a long time and now not anymore…
TheCatMan

I think love is shallow now. There isn’t any point in waiting for someone to come into your life because other people are broken and they are unreliable. I am 23 now and never had a girlfriend and that just goes to show that this article is providing false hope. I do not expect anything romantic this year or the next.
SAMIR

BECAUSE WOMEN ARE SO LAME.STUPID,PLAYFUL,LOW-GRADE PERSONALITY, THEY GIVE BAD NAME TO LOVE. I REJECTED NICE GIRLS BECAUSE THEY PRESSED MY NERVE IN THE PAST. WHAT IF I DIDNT REJECT THEM. THEY WOULD BRING LOVE TO ME OR PAIN? I DONT KNOW THIS QUESTION ITSELF GIVES ME PAIN.
James

Dude… ignore all these haters.
Just know that even if nobody else ever takes a thing from this… i did.
you changed a life today when i read this and you gave me the strength and hope i need to continue looking for love.
im glad i read this article cuz i was about to give up just now but saw this and decided it might be worth a shot to keep trying.
Heck, what do i know. love may be crap, but if it is, id rather have crap then be alone. and to all u people bashing, know that haters make you famous, and the more YOU hate, the more people that are gonna see this and completely agree. so good job. if you hate something, the best idea is to say nothing.
Stay sane, America.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004623372727 Edwina Lorres

Life can be very displeasing especially when we loose the ones we love and cherish so much. in this kind of situation where one loses his/her soul mate there are several dangers engage in it. one may no longer be able to do the things he was doing before then success will be very scarce and happiness will be rare. that person was created to be with you for without him things may fall apart.
That was my experience late last year. but thank god today i am happy with him again. all thanks to DR AKPAKPA, i was nearly loosing hope until i saw an article on how DR AKPAKPA could cast a love spell to make lovers come back. There is no harm in trying, i said to my self. i contacted him via email: afiamensolutionshrine@yahoo.com. words will not be enough to appreciate what he has done for me. i have promised to share the good news as long as i live.

BESTY ADAMS
evenly

I ordered a spell on a Friday night and on Monday the place I applied for a job called
for me to come by their office. They gave me the job I applied for and made me an offer
of more per hour than I have ever made in my life! I am so happy! The government jobs sometimes are a slow process. You somehow managed to speed up that process, and I start in just a few days! dr,kokotemple i will be forever grateful thank onces again okyou can call on him for help on his email address dr,kokotemple@gmail.com
evenly

Mr.williams lee

No one could have ever made me believe that the letter I’m about to write would actually come up one day . I was the world’s biggest skeptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like that, but I was told by a reliable source (a very close co-worker) that Dr. dodogods is a very dedicated, gifted, and talented person, and after much “cajoling,” he (my co-worker) got me to visit this
It was one of the best things I have ever done. My lovelife was in shambles; I had been through two divorces and was on the brink of a third. I just couldn’t face another divorce, and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn’t seem to care. So, with nothing but my pride to lose, I checked it out. I was flabbergasted. This man is for REAL. He did whatever magic he does, and lo and behold – no more than TWO DAYS later, I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage counseling, and we’re doing very, very well, on the road to recovery! Love and Many Blessings Back to You if you need help today you can contact him in his email address. dodogodssolution@yahoo.com ! pst /Mr.williams lee
Sendy

Hi everyone… This is my very first time looking up stuff in internet for helps. I been in 3 serious relationship but everytime i got dumped. I realised tat i been to clingy, needy and nagging a lot. This is my third times, n i really wanna keep the relationship. We been together for 2 years and we havent officially breaks up. We still contacting everyday and put for movies every saturday. Things is, he doent think tat we gonna work out because we did fights a lot. And he is planning to go abroad for works and study… Any idea? What to do? Thhis is the very first times tat i wanna try better and love someone with his imperfection. I just cant lose him please help. Thank you
Sendy

Hi everyone… This is my very first time looking up stuff in internet for helps. I been in 3 serious relationship but everytime i got dumped. I realised tat i been to clingy, needy and nagging a lot. This is my third times, n i really wanna keep the relationship. We been together for 2 years and we havent officially breaks up. We still contacting everyday and put for movies every saturday. Things is, he doent think tat we gonna work out because we did fights a lot. And he is planning to go abroad for works and study… Any idea? What to do? Thhis is the very first times tat i wanna try better and love someone with his imperfection. I just cant lose him please help. Thank you
Catherine

I finally got the one i love to break up with the woman that took her from me. She is my friend but she betrayed me and took him away from me and she stole him from me, every time i saw them together it hurt me so bad inside i wanted to cry, but finally after using your service to cast a spell upon them 2 to break them up, so i get what rightfully deserves to be mine, i cant believe this actually worked thank you so much for giving me a chance thank you Ancientspiritualtemple@gmail.com
butlerbulldogfan

I have never read or heard so many negative people posting comments in my life. Maybe you all have one thing in common, you screwed love up. Because theres millions and tens of millions and hundreds of millions that are happy and in loving relationships. I suggest you look in the mirror and ask yourself where you went wrong, or why did you choose the person that you chose, and blame yourself for screwing everything up or being with the wrong person altogether which you have to take some responsability for.