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Don’t Give Up! You’re Sooooo Close!

“The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.” ~ Chinese Proverb

One of the greatest challenges we will face on the path to success and mastery in any worthwhile endeavor is the temptation to quit when the going gets tough. We’ve all been in that place where the obstacles seem insurmountable, when all odds are against us, when we hit the wall and our confidence and determination begin to crack.

Enter the negative voice in our heads that thrives in such times of difficulty. “Maybe it’s not meant to happen. Maybe I should focus my energy on something else. Maybe I don’t have what it takes. Maybe I should just walk away. Maybe it’s time to give up.”

Sound familiar?

I know that voice well, too, and in my case, it can be a crafty little bugger. Sometimes it comes up with the most rational and sensible reasons for me to call it a day and walk. It happens to me often when I’m writing and I get stumped. Even when it’s in the wake of abundant creative flow, if the dry spell lasts long enough to frustrate me, I find myself wanting to give up. But I’ve seen it enough times to know when to call B.S.! And I also know that when I push through, it’s often in those instances that the real good stuff comes through.

Here’s the thing. It’s not always going to be easy to reach your goal or to complete something you’re working on.  The loftier the goal, the more challenging the path towards reaching it will be, which means patience, persistence and determination. Sometimes it’s going to seem impossible.  Especially when you’re taking on something that requires consistent, sustained effort, it can be a battle of will to endure to the end. Sometimes, everything in front of you is going to point you to the door and you’re going to be tried, tested and tempted to give up.

In those moments, it is of paramount importance that you remind yourself of why you set out to do what you’re doing in the first place. That moment when you’re on your last legs is the exact moment when you CAN’T quit. And here’s why. Because that’s when the breakthrough is about to happen, that’s when your goal is just around the corner, that’s where the growth happens, and that’s the stuff that success and mastery are made of! You feel me?!

It’s always before that final stretch that we tend to lose focus, when we are at our weakest and we are most vulnerable to that dubious little voice.

Don’t listen. And don’t you dare give up. Not today. You’re so close. And on the other side of that hurdle, on the other side of that wall is the result you’ve been working towards, is the feeling of fulfillment you’ve been yearning for, is the beautiful song that you were meant to bring forth.

Are you thinking of quitting? Think about what amazing outcome you might deprive yourself and the world of if you do.

You’re almost there. Just a little further. You can do it. You have everything you need.

Don’t give up! You’ve got this!

Much love,

Chris

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Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.com, Twitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here .
  • Samantha Murphy

    Chris this came to me at the perfect time from the right person. I have my first solo vocal performance today and I was getting really nervous and thinking I didn’t have to do it if I really didn’t want to. Thank you for this and giving me the extra little push I need! 

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       Good stuff Samantha! Have a great performance! Most of all, have fun and make sure you FEEL good doing it. Those nervous feelings could just as easily be seen as excitement. It’s up to you! Let us know how it goes!

      • Samantha M

        Thanks Chris. I think the nervousness definitely was excitement. I felt truly alive with my heart beating so fast! :) The performance went great & I got lots of compliments, thank yous for sharing my voice and people wanting me to do more and continue with my music. This all pushes me to keep going with something I truly love and makes me so happy :D . I truly respect what you do Chris and hope to someday do similar things with music! Thanks for your response. xoxo

        • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

          That’s amazing Samantha! So glad to hear it went well and that you’re feeling inspired to follow your love. Keep it up!

  • Mara

    Chris, this hit home today, I am feeling so tired of the whole pursuit, but there is no way I can quit getting back into the performance and recording of my music. Thank you for this gift of hope.
    Mara

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       Yes! This makes me happy Mara :)

  • Nora

    Great blog, you should make more of these. And the painting behind you is amazing. :)

    Much love as always!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       Thanks Nora! Glad you like the vlog (and the painting)! Happy Sunday :)

  • Sandoradesu

    Great idea putting a video to your blog! Keep them coming.

    I totally get what you are saying about quitting. I am in a situation that has been challenging and tough on my ego. The thought of quitting didn’t necessarily come up but it could have and has in past situations that are similar to this one. That being said, I am pushing through this (and things have gotten better) and can see an opportunity that is really exciting coming my way! Your words ring true.

    I have run half-marathons before and there is always that point (about 19 km) where you feel like stopping. But you gotta push through to finish those last 2km so you can enjoy the feeling of crossing the finish line.

    Just a question– how would you then know the difference between when it is time to stop/quit because you need to recharge, or quit because the situation you are in is just not good for you vs. quitting when you really should keep going because magic is on the other side? Just wanna get your opinion because I, as do others, struggle sometimes with thinking that quitting is a bad thing. Which I don’t think it is always.

    Thanks. Looking forward to what you gotta say.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Thanks for your insight Sando! Your question is a great one. It’s all in the feeling of it. Often the voice that makes us want to quit is in our heads and if we look more closely within there is a deeper knowing that the thing we are doing is good for us and that its completion will serve us and others. On the other side, when something is truly not good for us or in alignment, this occurs as a feeling, again an inner knowing and is less about what we think or what the voice in our head is saying which will often consist of reasons why we SHOULD keep doing the thing that isn’t serving us, causing us to doubt our intuition.

      Make sense?

  • Meagan

    I have been toying all weekend about quitting grad school because I am borderline failing a class right now. My clever logic is telling me “if this is my gift to express to world, I wouldn’t be failing. This should come naturally to me.” Just like you I needed somebody to push me today. So thank you, *sigh*…. im going to get back to the books.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       That a girl Meagan! Get back at it! All the best my friend :)

  • Suzee

    Thank you! Great inspiration for a project I’ve nearly completed – it’s feeling like it’s taking too long. I know the message I have to share is important – no quitting allowed! Peace.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       You said it Suzee! What you have to share is important, get it out there!

  • http://www.thedevalife.com/ Jasmin Fiore

    Awesome Chris. Thanks.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       Thanks Jasmin! Much love :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/jane.derosa Jane DeRosa

    Love it!  And just what I need to hear today!  Thanks!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

       Glad to hear it Jane!

  • palomaIreland

    I really enjoyed listening to your video blog because you were just talking from the heart and from experience in a lovely natural way. 

    For that reason, I really got what you were saying.Five minutes ago, I was writing my PhD proposal which has to be in for tomorrow;  I decided it was crap, I couldn’t do it, and was not going to submit it ! OK, hope to see you on here again, back to work for now ! Love,Paloma 

  • palomaIreland

    PS    I am an artist, and a terrible snob about painting,  but I think that’s a lovely painting behind you :)

  • Damascus Girl

    Chris,
    I am an attractive female in her mid-40s, great job, sporty, well travelled, but my true to the heart dream has always been to have a baby, a family, and have love and companionship in my life. Yes I’ve nurtured nephews and nieces, friends’ kids, been a Big Sister, etc.

    Problem: I’ve never had a boyfriend, and at the moment I’m not close to finding one either.

    Give up? Accept that my dreams are not meant to come true? Put my yearnings behind me and embrace being alone?

    It’s a tough one, I know. You can guess where I am at, emotionally….if it hasn’t happened all these years, it’s not going to.

  • Meredith

    Thank you. I needed this today! Beautiful! Lots of love back!

  • Karina

    I always love your blogs Chris. But this Vlog really spoke to me. I think you should do more of these! 

    Cheers :)  

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Thanks Karina! Glad to hear the vlog spoke to you. I will do more! Much love :)

  • Anita Richards

    Thanks for this encouragement to keep going. I’ve been sitting on a folio with the info I need to get accreditation as a meditation teacher for over a week. No more excuses now. :)
    Many thanks again & brightest blessings.

  • Angljane

    I so needed to hear this message today.  You are right I just came across this perfecting time for this girl.  Keep me in your prayers on my way to a wonderful life full of miracles.  Jane

  • Michelle McKibbon

    Wow. This was just what I need to hear today.  Thank you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/roxana.nunez Roxana Nunez

    I just stumbled into your blog and I hope you do more videos.  Sometimes the simplest lessons come without all the flash and fanfare of an expertly produced video.  You look down to earth and that resonates with me.

    As far as your lesson, I have been hearing different versions on that same theme all weekend long.  In my case, I believe in God and when this happens, I am sure that He is sending me a message.  I guess you are the hammer that is pushing that last nail to seal my destiny so thank you for reminding me.

  • http://www.managingthemagic.com Bryan R

    Love you, bro. 

  • http://ownyourlifecoaching.com/ An

    So love this, Chris!  And it sounds so familiar – I have definitely been there many times too :)  I read this beautiful quote by Karen Salmonsohn a while ago that really spoke to me and visualizes it so beautifully:  ”If a goal or dream is slow in coming, envision it on a delivery truck, just a wee bit stuck in traffic, but still headed toward you.”
    Her quote inspired me to write this blog post about the times when our hard work doesn’t seem to get the results we want ( http://ownyourlifecoaching.com/2013/when-your-hard-work-doesnt-get-results/ ).
    Thanks for your beautiful post (and video :) )!  
    And much love right back at you, 
    An

  • Nelsi

    I’ve been living in another country for 2 weeks and trying to find a job but no result yet. I feel really scared because I step out of my comfort zone and I feel fear, fear of failure and think that I am not good enough. It’s always been one of my dream to live and work in another country, to know their culture, to explore, to meet new people, and now I’m here, I don’t want to give up, and if I meant to be here then it will be.

  • Yu

    OMG love it, i have been feelling just that way sctuck …listeningto that voice, it was super mega inspiring, so true all your words, amazing way to see things and to expressed them to us, just what i need it to go and get that extra mile! From dominican republic, thank you so much for sharing and for the love! Blessings for u!

  • Robin

    Chris, Thanks so much for this message! Just what I need to hear! I am a single mother of two teenage daughters, work fulltime as an LPN, and in an online program to obtain my RN degree. That voice is always whispering in my ear, giving me doubts, maybe this is too hard, maybe where I’m at is okay, why put yourself through this? Your message is right on time! I actually will listen to it often through this process of obtaining my heart’s desire. Thanks again for your inspiration, and keep the blogs coming. :)