Do you or someone you know absolutely LOVE reading what’s in the stars for the future? Do you like getting confirmation of your values and belief systems by studies like zodiac signs, numerology, tarot, etc? Though these are AWESOME studies, I think that WE have the ability to shape our future and improve on who we are, and not just rely on these alone to map out our lives. What do you think?
I was working with a client last week, and we were discussing some of the “blocks” in her life. She mentioned to me that because of her astrological sign, and where her North and South “nodes” were located on her chart, is the way she is, and that it was in her “blueprint.” I found myself discussing with her, how WE should be able to shape our destinies, and how I once gave a little more attention to what MY sign is and its traits. So:
I’m a Taurus. According to the astrological Taurean charts, I’m loyal, dedicated, patient, passionate, Loving, determined, and earthy. It says I’m also bull-headed, stubborn, brooding, selfish, materialistic, resistant to change, and should be a lawyer, accountant, chef, politician, singer, or biologist. (Really, do any of those sound like me? Well chef maybe. I’m SUCH a foodie.
There was a time, many years ago, where I oddly thought, “Hey, this is what I am; I guess I should act accordingly, right?” I was a Taurus bound to Taurus traits – and boy let me tell you- I LOVED that!
I enjoyed behaving in certain ways and acting like I had an excuse because I’m a Taurus!
But years ago, I started to realize that I had NO interest in wanting ANYTHING to do with money (except to have LOTS of it), nor did I want to spend any time in a court room debating and litigating on a case. Let’s leave that to the true professionals who really have a passion for that! I also disliked the way I was behaving because honestly, it was getting me NOWHERE. It also gave me an excuse to stay sad for long periods of time because “that is what a Taurus does. Brood.”
So just because it’s written in the stars does not mean we have to follow these determined traits. But do we use these “blueprints” determined by years of astrological scholars to determine our futures, or to give us excuses for our bad behavior?
Are some of you using the horoscopes for things like “Well I’m a Scorpio; I have a passionate temper tantrum now and then, so deal with it!” Or who does this: But it’s in my ‘chart’, I can’t help it!”
I personally feel that it is a bulls*** excuse for people to treat others poorly, act inappropriately or not go after your dreams and follow your heart just because you were born on a certain day or in a certain year with the planets lined up the way they were.
Where does behaving like your assigned traits get you? Does it make you happy? Does it help fulfill your dreams, wishes, and desires? Are you exactly where you want to be or successful as you want to be according to your numerology or sun sign? Are you living the dreams of your sign as written or do you even want to? This is what got me thinking.
Do you feel like you have the tendency to do this? Sort of lean into the new age books, readings, and “blueprints” to help guide your way?
What about this: if these studies didn’t exist, what would be calling you? What would be your purpose or passion that you would do anything for? Have you found out how much of YOUR dreams you may be leaving behind because you have relied a little too much on the stars? Is your purpose in life really because of the alignment of the planets and stars say you were born?
(I know, I know. LOTS of questions! But this is a such a complex topic. Let’s keep going, I promise I have a point to share!)
For me, there is not much in my charts that say anything about being a writer, a group leader or a Personal Growth Mentor. There are, however, a few mentions about being a teacher but not so much about the LOVE I have for working with people with disabilities or coaching individuals to help them break through fear, take action, and witness them being SUPER successful.
I am not saying, even in the slightest, that these charts are not true. Au contraire! But should you really be listening to what type of relationship you should have, what type of business you should be in, or what negative traits you should have simply because that’s what the charts say?
NO CHART, SITUATION, NUMBER, ZODIAC SIGN OR PERSON CAN DEFINE WHO YOU ARE (or what your heart wants) BETTER THAN YOU! You are not bound to the qualities, traits and past pain in your life to determine what your future will hold!
My point is that even though there is a lot to Astrology, Numerology, Pendulums, Tarot etc, and even the past traumatic events in our lives that have possibly shaped our behavioral patterns of what we do today. They do not have to be the blueprint upon which we make our decisions, how we measure success, or how we should treat people.
The footprints you leave in the world and in the hearts of others should be measured by how much you Loved, how much you gave, and your passion for living out your dreams. You will be remembered by how well you treated others. Not by your sun sign, Chinese sign, or Number in life…
When you leave your destiny in the hands of pre-determined setting/charts, or in the past events that have hurt you, you have partially given up the power and control over the great and AMAZING and successful choices and actions you were meant to make in this life. You leave out all the gravity defying challenges you are meant to face to make incredible life changes!
Health, abundance, Love, purpose and success are given when you gracefully (and with effort) choose to walk the path YOU have chosen and where your heart leads you to. That is where true soul decisions are made.
Studies like Astrology are true, and such amazing studies look into how our personalities could be the way they are, but for me, they are only gauges of why. But they don’t show you where and they will not open up the doors to your future! That my friend is YOUR job, and only you will get to bask in the rewards of your effort and Love!
If you believe in the charts, what is your sign and how much of it REALLY is a match of who you really are? Where in your life have you left too much of your life and future up to the predetermined studies and past events? How much courage do you have to truly map out your path to success? Let me know in the comments!
With GREAT Love,
Andrew “Drew” Parales is a vocational rehab educator for students with disabilities in transition & employment, a school site program & events coordinator/trainer. He is also the creator and personal growth mentor of “i LOVE Liberation” Connect with Drew at: