Don’t Prove Your Worth, Own It! (Here’s How)

There is a major difference between trying to prove your love and simply sharing your love.

I can’t tell you how many times I have in the past tried to prove my love. I’ve tried to show women and other people how worthy I am, how loving I am, how rad I am.

I realized that I kept doing this because I had yet to truly realize how worthy, loving and rad I was. If I had really known this, I wouldn’t have been trying to prove it to other people.

A lot of my mentoring clients suffer from trying to prove themselves to unavailable people. A lot of folks who are writing in to [email protected] suffer from this, too.

Here’s an exercise:

Make a list of all the things you wish other people would see about you. Make a list. You wish what? They would see how rad, awesome, loving, supporting, caring, faithful, etc you are? Make the list…

Now, ask yourself if you are demonstrating these qualities towards yourself? The answer is probably no for some or all of the qualities you listed.

So, how would you act if you were actually demonstrating these qualities? That version of you is who will attract people who see you. When you see you, other people will too.

Then, you can SHARE your gifts, your love and your worth with them and receive their worth, gifts and love. This is massively different than trying to prove yourself to someone else.

When we try to prove ourselves to others, it is because we do not see our great qualities and are not giving these qualities to ourselves. Once we do, we step into a new paradigm and walk away from trying to prove ourselves and step into just being ourselves.

Then love, authenticity and all the raddness can emerge.

How can you step out of proving yourself and into being yourself? Let me know [email protected]



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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Take what resonates with you from the blog and leave the rest. Follow him on Twitter here.


  • I think it has more to do with “proving themselves to unavailable people”. Going after unavailable people is to play it seemingly safe – expressing, flirting and dreaming at a distance – which tell us that we don’t feel available or ready. This was true for me earlier, until the day a married man got a divorce and wanted to date me a year later… It actually happens that unavailable men make themselves available, the question then arises again if the other party really is emotionally ready. Many times, it is also about finding a reason to break up, which has little to do with the person being the catalyst for it. Proving our love to another can be a way for us to find our worthiness, as long as we are aware of it. To me, the love is constant, like a wave flowing through me, sometimes with full force and high tide, sometimes barely moving on the surface, yet the objects always varies depending on who I put my attention to, and who I feel reciprocate with attention towards me. I think it would be so much easier if people in general could focus more on relating than creating, defining and counting number of relationships.

  • SYMontgomery

    Love this!

  • My girlfriend and I had a conversation over drinks last night, among the topics: Mastin Kipp and his spot on posts.((((((( Clinking glass)))))))) thanks for another spot on reminder. I like the phrase “owning your worth” rather than proving.

    I might not always like that self reflective mirror, but I am grateful for that nudge from you to pick it up…and so I will. ..pen in hand xo

    • Much love Patty :o) Thanks for the awesome comment! Cheers to you and your girlfriend!! :o)

  • This post could not have come at a better time. Just yesterday I was talking about how I could not forgive an ex boyfriend because I was waiting for him to validate me. The truth was I did not believe all the wonderful things I was waiting for him to notice about me. So I had to step back and realize that the person I needed to forgive was myself – for waiting for someone else to acknowledge my worth instead of “owning it”. Thanks! 🙂

  • Viv

    I like this post a lot, thank you Mastin!

  • Monique

    Great post

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