Drop judgment & pick up LOVE!

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If we have no self-Love – we have no Love at all.

We must Love ourselves – and part of Loving ourselves is to realize that the myth of separation isn’t true and that we are all one Soul inhabiting many bodies. Therefore, part of Loving ourselves is also Loving others. It’s a two way street.

To Love others, we must Love ourselves – to Love ourselves we must Love others. It’s a balance. Too much self-Love and we get narcissism; too much Loving others and we get co-dependency. And there is the game of Love and life.

The first way we can start to Love ourselves and others is to stop judging ourselves.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Well, it’s SIMPLE, but simple things are not always easy – that is for sure. So, how do we stop judging ourselves? We accept ourselves right where we are. You can think of this post as an extension or follow up to yesterday’s post because in this post we are stepping into action.

Name 5-10 things you don’t like about yourself. Your age, your weight, your attitude, your past, your bank account, your family, your thoughts – whatever they are – just list them out. Good. Got it? If you’re like me and most people, making this list should be pretty easy. We can sometimes be experts at what we don’t like about ourselves.

So, look at that list.

Now – say out loud: “I accept _____ about myself.” Whatever is on the list. Go down the list until you are done.

“I accept that I don’t like my weight”. “I accept that I don’t like my age.”  “I accept that I don’t like the size of my bank account.” Etc.

Now, what’s cool about this is that we are no longer BSing ourselves. If there are things we don’t like about ourselves, the first thing we get to do is tell ourselves the truth about how we feel.

Now – ask yourself the following questions: “Do I want to use the frustration I feel to create healthy or unhealthy habits?” “Do I want to use this as fuel for growth or fuel for more of what I don’t want?”

And then repeat after me: “Even though I _______, I completely Love and accept myself”. Fill in the blank.

Do this for a week and let me know how it goes. When we acknowledge ourselves in this way, we start telling the truth, we let it out and we STILL Love ourselves because of it. Doing this will allow us to Love ourselves and others more. Try it.

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Mastin Kipp is the founder and CEO of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.


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  • MsNewsommess

    I love this approach to loving yourself and others! Even though I love myself and others, there may be situations that may put me in an uneasy state of mind and attitude, but with this approach Ifeel like Ican let the negativity go. Can’t wait to try it!

  • Linda Burke

    Incredible timing — I have been dealing with my judgment of one person in my environment, and realized that she has been judging me too.  A true reflection of my environment in my own life.  I am going to use this exercise to move my own life forward!  Thank you so much Mastin for another great message.

  • Kim

    I love what TDL puts out there! You have inspired me in so many ways so I want to say THANK YOU! Thank you for being vulnerable and real. Reading TDL and hearing from you through the en*theos Academy changed my life. I am now stepping out of my comfort zone more and taking risks. I actually started a blog (www.fitchickseatcheese.com) with a good friend  to get our own “stuff” out there. It’s pretty new but we’re really enjoying it. Who knows what the future holds for any of us… What I do know, is it is brighter and more joyful than living as a victim of fear. Keep it up!


  • Beth

    great mastin….i need to work on this for sure….there are so many things about me that i don’t like. i am going to try this. thanks for TDL. xo

  • Kathleen Chelquist

    I really enjoyed this entry because just yesterday I was explaining to a friend how affirmations DON”T WORK if you are “BS-ing” yourself. Our minds love to doubt and argue…don’t give anything for it to pull on. It is about accepting ourselves JUST THE WAY WE ARE and saying, “YES.” It is then that we can be wiser to not eating junk food, and etc. Taming our illusory mind is key. Shhh-ing it. Being observer of it. Not buying into our thoughts…is what it takes. Thanks Mastin for keeping it real. Oh, and being brought up by a Narcissist…please hear me when I say, they do NOT love themselves. (They puff themselves up so much and are masters at pretending. They even fool themselves into THINKING that they are perfect humans.) We can never love ourselves too much. Thinking that we can love ourselves too much can actually prevent us from aligning ourselves with our soul (The EGO IS VERY TRICKY.)
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  • Kristen M Whitney

    Talk about living in synchrodestiny! Last night I wrote a reminder on my hand “today I judge nothing” (https://twitter.com/hurrzkristen/status/294673835674988544) and today this is the blog? I love it! Great tips to become more accepting of myself. Thank you!! Xox

  • I love these tips. Maybe even implement a little EFT (tapping solution) and find a release from these negative beliefs.
    As always, you rock Mastin! xo

  • This was a great exercise  for me after this week’s earlier post on body image. I had a hard time finding love by just accepting things (ex: weight, job). But reflections on how I want to turn these frustrations into healthy or unhealthy habits brought a new perspective. I am trying to accept myself but now with an  actionable plan about creating healthy thoughts & habits, I feel empowered to love.

  • Jenniferwri

    So I have a question: By telling myself that I accept and love an attribute that I dislike and possibly hate about myself, aren’t I lying? Because as I say these awesome affirmations, my brain is telling me, “Oh no, uhh uh. Honey, you know that’s not true. Stop wasting your time telling yourself things that have no grounding.” It’s not by saying these things will make my problems go away, but it’s really hard to have that shift in perspective I desire, that you’re talking about, when I have that contradicting voice in my head all the time. That’s one to write down, yah? But dont you see the iorny?

  • pb

    Hi, everyone-I can try this one,Yeah! + I will.

  • Jennifer

    THANK YOU for providing the AUDIO Blog again! I LOVE IT and APPRECIATE IT ! ! ! !

  • Totally in tune with Nick Ortner’s EFT affirmative tapping work…so uplifting!

  • Monika Morales

    Thank you, Mastin! You’ve inspired me for years now. I am following in your footsteps by blogging. It has been an amazing week. Check out my blog at http://www.thepositivityblog.org! Let me know what you think! I’d love to meet you some day! You’re an inspiration! The quote I always remember that you wrote once is “Wisdom tells me I am nothing. Love tells me I am everything. Between the two my life flows.” Hope to hear your feedback whenever you get a chance! God bless!

  • Great advice and I will use it!

  • Renee

    This is amazing advice, i could not thank you enough 🙂