What came up for me today was the duality and paradox of life.
A “river” is a continual change of flowing water around and over an ever-changing bed of rocks, pebbles and earth. The millisecond that milliliter of water passes over a specific point on the journey of its flow, it is never, ever the same thing again. An entirely new milliliter of water that melted from a different drop of ice on a glacier or from a completely different raindrop from a storm, now replaces it and the current may have altered its course over and around a different pebble. So naming a river a river is paradoxical because it is never the same thing, not even for a millisecond!
It’s in a “constant” state of change! — Which is in itself is paradoxical because how can change be “constant?”
The concept of the thing we call “time management” is another paradox. Time is ever-changing and is a phenomenon that is impossible to control and difficult to understand. Where does it originate from and how is it really measured in the broader Uni-verse? Our 24 hour days and 365 day years are only relevant on this tiny planet, which is one of a gazillion planets, which all have a completely different relationship to time. So to think that we can manage time is laughable! If anything it should be called “self-management” because how we manage ourselves is the only way we can effect change within the framework of what we understand as time.
For most of my life I struggled with the duality of good and bad, right and wrong, righteous and evil. My world seemed very black and white. I was either one or the other. I was either living in my power and in the light, or I was shamed into the shadows of my darkness where I needed to hide and deny my unworthiness. The paradox is that I will never reach a place of worthiness when I come from a place of unworthiness, so the resolve is to embrace my duality and realize that I am worthy in the eyes of The Uni-verse, regardless of my tendency to define myself by my feelings of unworthiness.
Most of us can easily forgive others and accept the beauty in all their paradox.
We need to flip the law “do unto others as you would do to yourself” to “do unto yourself as you would do to others” so that we can readily forgive and accept our own flaws.
So could you fully step into embracing your own duality and paradox?
Could you risk having an easy and affectionate relationship with your many flaws?
Could you accept your worthiness in the eyes of The Uni-verse, regardless of your feelings of unworthiness?
Let me know. Leave a comment below.
Much Love & Welcome Home,
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Ryf Van Rij is a coach and creator of “The Daily Way Home.” He has also been an Actor, a Commercial Pilot, a Business Co-Owner and an Events Coordinator at a Major City Art Gallery.