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Embracing The Unknown

So many of us write “to do” lists, make 5-year plans and set expectations. We foresee career trajectories, anticipate the future of our relationships and aim to achieve every last one of our life goals. But what if what you planned isn’t nearly as good as what could be?

I’ve often said that I’m of the belief that anyone with a 5 year plan is an idiot, that I had no idea I’d be where I am 5 years ago, and that I wouldn’t venture to guess the future. But who am I kidding? I’m the most Type-A, to-do-list-writing person I know. Clearly I have a 5-year plan. And a 10-year plan. And a 20-year plan.

So does this make me the biggest hypocrite alive?!

Well, maybe in theory, but here’s what I’ve learned: it has much more to do with what you do with your plan than whether or not you have one.

Recently I’ve been planning (yup, planning) for a big move all in the hopes of my current 5-year plan accelerating to full-force. I really thought this was THE PLAN. But the fact is, I’ve thought ex-boyfriends were “the one,” that I knew exactly where I wanted to live and that I knew exactly what I wanted to do. And yet all that has repeatedly changed. And changed. And changed again.

Yet I was nevertheless surprised when a current (potentially incredible) opportunity threatened to throw me off course. Well, not even merely off course – more like into a deep dark ravine of endless possibilities. I began to mourn the destruction of my plan.

But then my Dad (who is, hands down, the greatest Dad ever) said something that brought me back on course (well, some course) – he said something to the effect that having more options was a luxury. And he was right. Sure, it might throw my previously constructed plan off course, but maybe that’s not a bad thing. In fact, maybe it’s a GREAT thing. But I’ll never know unless I’m willing to veer off course.

So, maybe I wasn’t being a hypocrite after all. Maybe it’s not that having a plan is a problem, but rather that sticking to it is.

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Alexis Wolfer is a real beauty ambassador and the founder of The Beauty Bean, an online magazine that promotes self-confidence through beauty, fashion, fitness, nutrition and more. She is also the creator of the international and viral Makeup Free Mondays movement and can be found tweeting about all things real and realistic beauty at @AlexisWolfer.