Experiencing lack? Here’s a key to creating abundance!

January 29, 2013 by Mastin Kipp 32 Comments

The other day I finally got to meet a guy I really look up to: Brendon Burchard. Brendon is an expert at helping experts make money online.

In my field he is legendary – and also young.

So, naturally I wanted to connect with him.

He has done major business online, like 8 figures. It’s impressive. And it’s all above board, no scams, no cheesy selling or anything like that – he’s done it by adding real value.

So, as I got on the phone with Brendon, just to say hello – he started offering all this help. For free. No strings attached. He genuinely wanted to help me.

It’s amazing. You would think that this is normal in the space of “thought leaders” and people who teach “spirituality” – but it’s not. It’s actually really rare.

And what’s so cool is in that moment, Brendon was demonstrating the real key to abundance – the willingness to be of service.

This is the bottom line – just helping out.

I saw so much of myself in Brendon, as he offered to help me, in small ways. It wasn’t the amount of help that he offered, as much as it was the sentiment that he cared enough to offer some help. And I wasn’t even asking for any. I just wanted to get to know him.

We spoke for some time and I feel like I’ve found another brother on the path.

You see, there is a difference between RICH and WEALTHY. You can have a lot of money and not be wealthy. You can have almost no money and be wealthy.

Wealthy is how you experience life. It’s where you come from. And I’ve found in my own life that the lack I experienced came from not wanting to help others, but only living a self-seeking life.

The change in my life came when I stopped asking, “What can I get?” and started asking “What can I give?” Just changing this one question is a simple and quick way to shift your consciousness from lack to abundance.

I am always truly blown away and overjoyed when I feel a genuine desire from someone to give with NO expectations. This is different than giving with some kind of hook or ulterior motive.

It is so rare to find people who do not have ulterior motives.

We get emails almost daily about how people think The Daily Love can help them. Rarely, we get PURE emails that say, “How can we help The Daily Love?”

Anytime I want to create a relationship with someone, especially someone who I look up to, I focus ONLY on giving. Not receiving. And if I have nothing that the other person wants, then I let go and give in other ways to people who do need what I have.

This is how we step into abundance – through giving.

Brendon is a shining example and has become a role model for who I want to become more of in my own life.

Thank you, Brendon, for being such an amazing example of Love and abundance!

How can YOU show up from this place today?

As always, the action happens in the comments below. Leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Love,

Mastin

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http://twitter.com/johngarcia John Garcia

This is a great post, Mastin! I’ve always come from a place of giving. My problem was, I would give and give and give, but I wouldn’t receive anything in return. A lot of this had to do with my self worth and how much I valued myself, so I’ve been working on that and I’m in a whole new space.

When does value proposition/alignment come into play when just giving openly? Do I give to those who I feel can provide value to me in return? Is there a strategy that you use to craft your help and giving efforts?

Would love your thoughts!
- Tal
  
  This is also a question that came to my mind when reading this post! How do you define that line between giving like this and being taken advantage of? Is it just a matter of trusting your gut? Looking at if the other person appreciates it genuinely?
  - http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist
    
    When you are looking to see if the person appreciates it…you are looking to GET, RECEIVE, and you will become bitter as a result. Give from your heart and from the pleasure of GIVING without a hook. It is none of your business what they do with your gift. If you are looking for ANYTHING in return, do not give the gift! And, do not create guilt for NOT giving it. I have a blog on it “Give…and let go!” Hope this helps!
    Kathleen
    are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/
    - Tal
      
      Thanks for your reply Kathleen! I now see how waiting for appreciation is like waiting to receive something in return after giving to someone. I need to change the way I think about this!
- http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist
  
  Love this question because it was mine (At one point) as well. I gave with a hook for years (Without recognizing it). I used to say, “You have to water a tree to make it grow.” So, this is how you do it. Ready? Every time you give ANYTHING…even if it is a penny…give it from all your heart. Ask yourself, “Is it a gift I can afford to give? Will I resent it if I do not get anything back?” If you say to yourself that you would irritate yourself if you even did not receive a thank you…then DO NOT GIVE IT. It is then a gift you cannot afford to give. And, do not judge yourself for NOT giving it. Guilt, Judgement, Shame, and etc…do not belong to God. For instance, I went out with a group of people recently that purchased a $100 bottle of wine and I was not drinking. The people pleaser in me wanted to chip in…and, I knew if I did…I would be bitter. So, I didn’t. I told myself that they were surprised. I then said to myself that it was none of my business what they think of me. Anyway, since I have been doing this…my life has changed rapidly and I am creating Heaven On Earth. And guess what? I want to give more! Funny how that happens. Hope this helped!
  TDC,
  Kathleen
- sandra
  
  Dear John:
  I, like u and many others, have wondered about giving in a very HONEST, SELFLESS way but found people taking advantage of me and the like. I asked God for guidance for a few years and when i would talk to friends the answer would be the same: “JUST GIVE WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS” and i would agree but it left me a bit empty because it did not solve the problem I was having: “ppl taking advantage of me” so one day the answer came and i will share it with you and the rest, this came from the author of CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD, Neale Donald Walsch
  
  My dear friends… The most amazing message I ever received in the Conversations with God dialogue consisted of six words. In just a half dozen sounds I was given everything I needed to know about the experience I was having on the earth. I was in a deep place of wondering why, up to that point, my life was not bringing me the happiness I was seeking, even though I was almost always doing work that I loved to do, being with significant others that I loved to be with, and enjoying a family that I loved to enjoy. “What is wrong with me?” I asked God. “Why can’t I be happy???” “It’s all very simple,” God said. “You think your life is about you.” I wanted to know what God meant. What was God saying? Then I heard the six words that changed my life, “Your life is not about you.” Then who, pray tell, is it about? I wanted to know. “Your life is about everyone whose life you touch,” God told me. “And it is about how you touch them. How you touch them determines how you experience your Self–and how you experience your Self determines how happy you are.” In this sense, my life was about me…but in a “reverse English” kind of way. I was to pay attention to myself by paying attention to others. I was to help myself evolve by helping others evolve. The fastest way for me to be happy was for me to make other people happy. Now before I go any further, a caveat, please. This does not mean that you must focus on making other people happy to the exclusion of yourself. When making another happy is at the cost of you being unhappy, you are defeating your own purpose. So we are not talking here about rolling over and playing dead, or turning yourself into a carpet to be walked all over. If another person will simply not receive the gifts you find joy in giving–or worse yet, receives them and takes advantage of them, then treats you without respect or kindness–you may wish to continue giving to that person, but in another way. Such as, for instance, giving them their freedom to pursue a close-knit relationship with another. There are nearly 7 billion people in the world, and you are not required to continue endless giving to a person who does not value, appreciate, or honor your gift. Of course, you are not offering your gifts in order to be honored. You are offering your gifts in order to experience and express a part of yourself that speaks of who you are. Yet if who you are is not valued, but ignored or abused, then you actually hurt, rather than help, the person to whom you are giving your gift–for you have taught them that the way to continue receiving the best from others is to return their worst. And this is not something that you want to teach anybody. It is actually unkind to teach someone this. But do not worry. As I said, the world is filled with people, and my life experience has shown me that the vast, vast majority of human beings receive gifts with gratitude, and act as wonderful mirrors for those who offer them. There is a reason that taking the focus off of myself and placing on others has worked so effectively in changing my life.
Rhea

Thanks Pal. Exactly the reminder I needed to hear this morning.. On to a day of giving unconditional love and compassion..
Susan

Your blog today was an “A-ha” moment for me! I have been struggling with choices made for work recently and I just realized why. My job focus before was about the customer and their needs-customer “service”- but lately it has become a numbers game. The economy is encouraging employers to push for more effient ways of saving and making money and the this means pushing to sell products. I have been focusing on meeting those numbers instead of the person. Actually by changing back to the person I think the goals will still be met.
Thank for your blog. I just recently found-thanks Oprah!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000392107784 Anita Richards

This is really making me think today. I give. I give a LOT. I don’t expect anything in return. Yet I am still stuck in a treadmill. Something to meditate upon.
Thank you ~ brightest blessings.
Phil Garcia

Thanks Mastin, as always your Blogs offer either a validation of my spiritual principles or teach me something new.

Interesting how we both define wealth. Money is not wealth, although, they can coexist. As a physician, I am often perceived as being rich. It does not upset me, it simply amazes me how people perceive professions.

As a solo practitioner and practicing functional medicine physician, I have encountered so many challenges, especially financial challenges.
So an opportunity from the universe happened to me this morning I receive and email from an actor friend of mine to apply for a stand in as a Physician on the television program Dallas. She was so nice to have recommended me. The pay is $165.00 for a 12 hour day. As you can see, I am seizing upon a wealthy opportunity, and I surround myself around wealthy people, ie. my actor friend. My dream has always been to be an actor. I will always remember you when opportunities to be wealthy come my way. ” I am starting before I am ready”. Thank you again Mastin.Felipe.
Tiffany

Today I will focus on what I can give from heart, with no expectations…thanks for the article
http://twitter.com/NicoleMooreLove Nicole Moore

Great article! I had a moment of PURE service yesterday and I almost started crying because it feels so good to just be of service. The prayer “help me to be truly helpful” has been really helping me a lot lately with shifting into the service mindset. Thanks Mastin!
Altersewn

This concept/practice (give to receive) is ancient and yet it has been obliterated by the version of success perpetuated by the engineers of the modern system of monetary gain. I use the term modern loosely and harken back to to the days before human owned or claimed rights to anything. You wanted a piece of fruit off a tree, you took it, a fish from a stream, you caught it..no permissions required. Then the Ownership Model was established.
Once this system was in place…the “I own this and you can’t have any of it/get your own” came into being and we, as a species, were off to the races so to speak. Not only did people strive to have the most of whatever was deemed valuable at the time, they also glorified the struggle that each person endured to gain it. Then, even more troubling came the time when the ‘need’ to protect what was yours came into being. Ugh! The Starvation/Lack Model was born and people became convinced and bought into the system that there was only a certain amount of everything and that had better act fast or risk LACK!
Well, here we are today. Unlearning the failed and painful system that has been in place for centuries+ and not a moment too soon.
If I give with strings attached, I get tangled up in my own desires.
When I give for the pure, unadulterated experience of sharing
then I am tuning into the Universal Love that is limitless.
I am not going to tell you how giving I am or am not, because that
changes the intention and vibration of the experience.
Simply stating what I know to be a Deep Truth- Love ,in it’s pure form
resonates and circles uninterrupted as directed by emotional state.
Restated- Emotions are the Energy of the Universe; CHOOSE yours wisely.

Cheers, Lance
Debbie

I am a new member and am already feeling the LOVE! Today I will focus on giving with no expectations in return and I already know if will feel the LOVE!
<3

Yes, Mastin! That’s where the balance is. I find that when I give and the other person does not participate not by giving me anything other than mutual respect, I let go and move towards others who are in alignment with my own energy. I don’t ask anyone for anything, which I’m working on, but mutual consideration is just an expression of love through our humanity towards others. I do believe this is what gets people stuck in dysfunctional interactions. They think of they keep giving eventually a certain persons will recognize it and then they feel chosen. Nope! That’s giving your power away. It’s sad that we can only recognize love if it’s romantic in nature otherwise we believe someone being “nice” must want something from us. Someone once asked me why I smile all the time. I answered, “Because I can.” Also, the smile of others has healed me in a moment.
Just that act alone can heal. What you said about wealth and being rich is so profound. That’s the other misconception…someone who appears financially wealthy doesn’t need charity/love. Well, that’s not the truth. You never know what someone’s heart is holding. Be kind to all without judgment of what’s on the outside.
http://twitter.com/thereikicoach Monick Halm

This is a great article Mastin and a lovely reminder. So my question is, how can I give to YOU and the Daily Love?
Onenirvana

Great article…. I’m sure you and many others are aware of 12 step principles and the original one that started them all… in the “basic text” it talks about that movement being useful and good for all kinds of people, not just ones afflicted with the disease… the entire movement is about moving out of a self-seeking perspective to one of unconditional love and service. An altruistic movement out of genuine concern for another human being. As one grows, hopefully this way of being continues to grow as well, outside of that community to be the way that one interacts with ALL people. As we give to each other we give to ourselves – we are all one and connected. Love TDL!
http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

WOW…THIS IS IT. This is my FAVORITE entry so far Mastin. Why? Because this is what I have been talking about all along. It is RARE to find a person to help for FREE. The skeptical mind comes in and says, “What’s the hook?” Can you imagine someone scooping you up in your depths of despair (Like me) and helping you remember who you really are (Love) through their example? Through their mirror? Someone who puts their phone number in their book (Here, Now) for ANYONE in the world to call them? I know…sounds crazy. It isn’t. It is LOVE. Because I know such a person (Cinnamon Lofton), I know it is my responsibility to pay it forward. I remember when my husband and I first went for council. I said, “How much do I owe you?” She replied, “I was guided long ago to not charge and you cannot pay me for what I am worth.” I only knew Cinnamon for about a month…and my gut knew she was right. Now, 2.5 years later, my life will NEVER be the same. I began dedicating my life to LOVE and guess what? IT WORKS! LOL. Cinnamon is the WEALTHIEST woman I know. She may not have a mansion overlooking the ocean, but that is not her focus. I also loved when you wrote, “How can we help TDL?” Since I am willing to see my innocence, look at my EGO, and know it is the illusion…I can say that I wanted to GET something out of TDL. Afterall, one of my addictions has been…recognition and validation. All because, I do not love myself completely. All because, I have told myself a LIE that I am not enough. And, in this HERE, NOW moment, I will ask you from my heart, “Please let me know if there is ANYTHING I can do for TDL because I know that the information I have is…PRICELESS!
The Daily Commenter,
Kathleen
are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/
- Zoraya R.
  
  WOW!!! Kathleen, you are so RIGHT!!! Thanks for your reply to Mastins post.
- Tanja
  
  I just knew the minute I started reading what Mastin wrote today, that your response would be about Cinnamon!! Isn’t it amazing that we have met such a woman!? She truly is all about serving, without any expectations and I couldn’t agree more that what we are learning is PRICELESS! There is no amount of money that ANYONE could pay her for what she is worth How blessed we are!!! You wrote so eloquently about her! Thanks Kathleen!!!
  - http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist
    
    Yes sister, “how blessed we are!!!!” Now, how to bless the world before she leaves this earth is the question….
Vickiscarborosli

Thank you Mastin for continued insight on Love. Your words today spoke to me and offered an abundance of perspective. Blessings
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=614084539 Amy Rorke

I’m not sure that we can peacefully live in this space around others who don’t share the same consciousness. Yes you found this wonderful experience with a man who understood you and understood himself… but that’s rare.
It’s very difficult to be PURE as you say, because time and time and time again you get used to your limit. People who can see that you are caring and capable will jump on you with their agendas and there’s no protection from it. They come in all shapes and sizes, all lifestyles and always with a smile.
While it is of the utmost importance to care for yourself before others and that could be enough to keep you within your limits, it is also almost impossible to really know what agendas are lurking beneath surfaces of other people.
It’s not that I disagree with your post – I just think it is far too simplistic a view in this world filled with greed, desire – even situations such as poverty will skew people’s agendas.
cruisewithjess

Love this concept and am new to this blog. You are totally right, it is rare for “thought leaders” as you say to give without any guile or expectation. I do question the person you say you look up to. Look a little deeper at Burchard. In the circles of success coaching he is a bit of a pariah. Check out the lawsuit between James Malinchak and Brendan Burchard. It makes me a bit sqeamish that this is one of your heroes. I don’t really trust that he is above board so to speak . And he might have offered you a lot of free help, but didn’t you just promote him on your website?
http://everlutional.com/ David Hamilton | Everlution

Great to hear that Brendan is the real deal, because I trust your stuff and where you’re coming from. We def. need more of this abundance “go-giver” instead of “go-getter” attitude all across the globe.

What about a 30-day giving challenge to really step up the game. I work on giving all the time in terms of networking but wonder what’s possible if I take it up another level or two in all areas of my life? Anyone interested?
http://twitter.com/LivingUrBliss Bliss Magazine

Mastin,
This really resonates with me because i have been in that very same place. Where the focus was on me, me, me, me, did i mention me? yay! me. It was always on whats in it for me. How much am i going to get out of it? That was basically what my thought process was all through my 20′s. Then when i started to do some serious work on myself and read books and surround myself with people who are abundant in all areas of their life i found out that in order to be abundant in any area of life (financially, emotionally, psychologically etc) you must first give and to give you must have that within you because you can not give what you don’t have. You see when you give you are actually saying thank you and what you are thankful for and grateful for you receive more of. So Master Kipp, continue to give through the good work that you do and you will continue to receive more of this good work.
Soma

Funny how everything in life can point you in a direction. Even funnier when the universe conspires and whirls the compass to point you in one singular direction. I’m not sure if I’m subscribing to different blogs, or if my eyes and ears are finally open to looking for more from/in life. But I can say that I am more ready than ever to answer the call to action.

I notice that I am much happier when I am helping people, regardless of whether it was holding open a door, or setting them up with their future spouses. It really changes everything to get out of your own brain and problems and jump into solving someone else’s.
Zoraya R.

I don’t even have words Mastin. But, all you said is so REAL!! It’s like DUH Zoraya! That is why you lack. So, today I am going to give any chance I get, even if it’s a seat on the bus or to let someone know they have a booger in their nose. Gotta start somewhere.

Thanks again Mastin!
Andrea

Wow Mastin, this is synchronicity for sure. I am just beginning to step into my place and the gifts I have to offer on this planet. One of my mentors, whom I just discovered this past week is none other than Brendon Burchard. I am taking one of his Experts Academy courses and you are right on. The guy is amazing and an incredible example of sharing the love, giving full out and helping empower others to give what they came for. I highly recommend checking out what he has to offer. Thanks for highlighting him Mastin. We are certainly in this together for the betterment of all. All for love, love for all! That’s my motto.
http://www.worldsbiggestgym.com/ Carl Massy

Mastin. I have to agree with you on Brendan – he is just a great guy. I was telling Brian Johnson the other day that the three people that have positively influenced me in the greatest ways over the last few years are Brian, Brendon Burchard and my partner. All are great givers and big supporters of others plus they do it is such a genuine way. Keep up the great work and let me put some thought into how I can help get more of The Daily Love happening. Cheers, Carl
Ashley

Great post and great comments! I have been reading the daily love for a year and a half now and have always felt I didn’t need to leave a comment. Or that I didnt have anything great to add. I have been following Mastin, and Marie forleo, and Gabrielle B, anf many more for 3 years now and have not felt like I have made much progress until recently. I do believe that in uour service to others you are empowered to get things done for yourself. (Like working out, cleaning, prayer time, and steps towards your dreams. I am finally starting to see that the true love for others is what really drives me anyway. Since I was a little kid I juat alwas wanted to love and help people and I lost thqt around age 23 because I let it go too far and let people step on me. I now know the balance and feel that I can equally help others while living a life I love! !
Juliet Dunn

Hi Mastin I did not know you or your blog until i saw you at Opra or OWN on SUPER SOUL SUNDAY. You guys are amazing!!! Anyway thank you for all your perspective that you all shared to us. It helps me a lot.