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Fire, Then Aim! Ready Or Not!

Jenna012313Here I am, sitting in front of my computer screen. I have NO idea what to write about today. I’ve been blogging for The Daily Love for more than two years, and my head conversation for a second was: “I’ve run out of ideas!” It took me about five minutes to even voice that. I asked my AMAZING manager of operations, “What do I blog about today?” He responded with an awesome question, “Why not blog about not knowing what to blog about?”

BAM!

“If you just start typing, it’ll come to you…” I loved his response and I immediately started to type. Staring at the computer screen, and telling myself, “I don’t know what to share today…” will only keep me in the space of confusion. We often like to sit in that cloudiness and wait for things to clear up before we make any kind of move.

How does that serve us? It doesn’t. We’d rather be scared and sit on our asses than to TRUST The Uni-verse and take a step into the unknown.

It’s not like you never do it though. It’s no different than walking around in a pitch black room, searching for the light switch, with your hands reaching for the nearest wall or piece of furniture so you don’t stub your toes.  You don’t just sit there and HOPE that the light will magically turn on for you.

It’s up to YOU to shine light in the darkness, so you trust yourself and you GO for it. When you bang your pinky toe on the bed post, you don’t just sit on the floor and give up while you scream at yourself for not creating a clear path. You take some deep breaths and let the pain pass before you continue on your endeavor for that darned light switch. You’re determined and relentless.

The Uni-verse will not let you fail. You may bang your elbow or toes on unexpected pieces of furniture, but that does NOT mean the end of your journey. You get over it, become more aware of your surroundings, and you keep going – just like every mission in life. As I’ve been writing this blog, I’ve made some edits, had a few pauses, rearranged my thoughts, and received deeper clarity on what my purpose is in writing this blog for you today.

The path to success from one point to the other is not necessarily a straight line. If you were to draw your path toward ANY of your goals, the line would consist of detours, zig zags, circles, and pauses in front of obstacles. There would also be an indication of leaps over said obstacles, or an obvious BURST right through them. Whatever you’re questioning right now – just know that you WILL figure it out. Don’t obsess over the “how”. Instead, be clear on your “why” and the means to your goal will gracefully flow into your life. Take your first step, and the light switch you’re searching for will reveal itself on your path.

Are you pickin’ up what I’m puttin’ down?

Do you ever experience “not knowing” or “not trusting”? What would it be like for you if you just WENT FOR IT?! Tell me all about it in the comments section below, and allow yourself to solve your own question as you type it out! Feels so good! Woooo! :)

Love all that is you,
Jenna xox

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Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.

  • http://www.facebook.com/stephanie.drenth Stephanie Drenth

    Thanks for sharing Jenna For the last 6 months I have been rehearsing a song for a musical we’re performing in 2 weeks. Because of my inexperience in singing, I thought I wasn’t good enough to perform  a Sondheim song, and I have been getting it wrong (Flat!) for all these months. Then yesterday, after being really angry and crying at my singing teacher, I finally got that BECAUSE i’m looking so hard to get it right, I’m never going to get it right. Because I don’t love the song and THINK that it’s difficult, I don’t allow it in my heart.Today I decided, I’m just going to relax my brain, open my mind and my heart to anything that might happen at the rehearsal tonight, and ENJOY myself.Love Steph

  • Alicia Biggins

    I LOVE when you said that the path to success is not a straight line. It has Zigs and zags. Boy does it! Those Zigs and Zags are not necessarily failures or road blocks. We can choose to see them as bends and twists on the road to our success instead of a daunting “road closed” sign indicating an end. Thank you for this gentle reminder Jenna!! Whoo hoo! :)

  • Desi

    Your words came at the right time for me. I have an opportunity on Monday that could change my world. Funny part is, it was supposed to happen yesterday & it got rescheduled for Monday.  I felt like it was the Universe saying—’I'll give you more  time to decide if your in.”
    ~sigh~
    I’ve always stayed in the calm, safe zone.
    This new opporunity will be about my passion, yet I”m afraid I’ll get bored after awhile!
    Although, I can stay nice & cozy where I am, which is boring too.
    Where I am now, I have the ability to support myself w/extra to spare. The other side of the coin might be less than what I have now.
    I also need a minor procedure done on my foot. I can sit all day long where I am now. The flip side of the coin-I’d be on my feet all day.

    Decisions, decisions.

    • Magical Mark

      Desi, your dilemmas are clear.  The choice for you is one of commitment.  If the opportunity on Monday (thank the Uni-verse for allowing more time to think) involves your passion, what’s the worst that can happen – you’ll love it for some length of time??  If your passion changes or morphs to something else, will you cease to be? NO. 

      So get the foot procedure done, commit to a date for starting work in your area of passion, and watch the Uni-verse deliver! 

      Why do I say this? Because I had 7 successful career segments in varied lines of work.  There was one common element to them all, and it was project planning and management.

      Best wishes for over-the-top success!

      • Desi

        Thanks MM for breaking it down. Yes, it’s always the commitment that gets me in the end-but not this time!
        Fingers xxx for Monday as I am all in-I am willing to take what the Universe is giving. My partner is behind me 100% and I’m the only person 2nd guessing the situation.
        Will report back Monday afternoon.
        Either way it goes I’ll be ok with the outcome.

  • Madisonabraham

    I really liked this blog post! Whenever I get negative and am in the dark, I think: What’s the point in being positive? Everything in life is random. That person has what I want, and they don’t have to try like I do!
    But then I take a minute, refocus, and realize that if I choose to look at the darkness, I’ll only see more darkness. And if I see the light, I’ll find more light. Positive energy is contagious.  To think that I’m somehow different and that I don’t deserve love, light, and success, is purely self indulgent.  Why wouldn’t a beautiful, intelligent person find everything she’s looking for?

    After reading this, I’ve realized that it’s okay to stumble around in the dark, as long as you have faith that you’ll always find the light. 

  • li5a

    This post was so perfect for me today.  I know what I want to do but taking action is hard, and scary, sometimes.  I loved the light switch, toe stubbing analogy.  Thank you!

  • Matt

    I am struggling with this right now…I hate not being in control and now knowing what the outcome will be. That is really holding me back from starting my life. I’m 25 and hate change in general. So I put things off and don’t take any chances because I’m scared that I don’t know things will turn out. I build my wall of fear and say to myself that “that may not be for me” or “you arn’t smart enough to go into that field” “how are you going to take all of those classes when you didn’t do well before”

    All of those things go through my head and hold me back from trying. The unknown path is extremely scary to me. I need just need to dive in and make adjustments along the way, but its super hard

  • Carrie

    I really needed this message, and I love that it was born out of a lack of ideas! Right now, I am in between jobs and unsure about what to do. I was a teacher and successfully transitioned to a freelance writer for a while. I have since moved and am having a hard time finding work. I am not sure what I want to do, but I do know that I want to share my talents and abilities with the world in a positive way! I have dreams in my heart, but lack direction. I keep praying for guidance, but I also know that I can’t sit and wait for an answer! Like you said, “ You don’t just sit there and HOPE that the light will magically turn on for you. It’s up to YOU to shine light in the darkness, so you trust yourself and you GO for it.” I will try to take this message to heart and take some sort of action. I might stub my toe a time or two, but that’s the only way that I will find the light! Thank you!

  • Linuskk

    really dont like the “Fire,  Aim, ” etc. stuff. please help us make different choices when using slang terminology.  would like a kinder gentler place for us all. one where guns are minimal and rarely used or referenced. 
    love the article though!
    thanks for considering! :)