It’s your life.
Are you living boldly?
Or are you playing it safe?
Safe is risky. Safe is an illusion. Safe is death.
Whose life are you living? Yours or someone else’s?
It’s your life. Not your parent’s, brother’s, cousin’s, friend’s or neighbor’s.
We are constantly bombarded by the media and sold the lie: “Who you are is not enough!”
We are taught to fit in. To play it safe. To seek approval. To be realistic. This process begins from the moment we are born. We are told who we need to be in order to get love and survive. We learn to play “The Game.” But ironically, the better you play the game, the more you lose …. YOU.
The Rules of the Game:
Conform: Don’t make too many waves. Hold back your full self-expression and authentic truth so that you can be popular.
Settle: Staying in relationships that don’t light you up because it’s safe and comfortable, so that you have security and won’t be alone.
Be practical: Don’t pursue your dreams and true passions. Be realistic and responsible so that you don’t look like a fool in society’s eyes.
Don’t be too happy: If you’re too happy (especially for no tangible reason) people get irritated, so only allow the minimal amount.
Life is short and before you know it, it is over. The real question is not “When will I die?” but “How will I live?”
When you get to the end of your life will you be able to say that you lived fully and did all you dreamed to do, or will you be filled with regret?
Did you lick every ounce of bliss out of life?
We glorify saints, but they live in remote lands. We glorify the angels, but their feet do not touch the ground. We glorify superheroes, but they’re not real. It takes true courage to be in this life, with all its mess, its ups and downs, light and dark, sweetness and bitterness. It takes courage to be who you really are. Perhaps this is why so many of us turn away, and settle, opting for safe lives of soul-numbing superficial-satiation. It’s easier to stay skeptical, be jaded, live in the mind, hide behind sarcasm, and erect walls of defensiveness. Sadly, it’s easier to play small and protect ourselves from the disappointment of living full out, with all its risks.
Even to the extreme, my friend, when you display great feats, it doesn’t take real courage to firewalk, skydive, or climb a mountain. It really doesn’t. It takes courage to be honest with yourself and speak your truth to those around you.
It takes courage to face your addictions, and get help.
It takes courage to reach out and risk vulnerability in love.
It takes courage to pick yourself up off the floor after rejection or failure.
It takes courage to humble your ego, give up defensiveness, and simply say, “I’m sorry.”
It takes courage to open your heart and love after your heart has been broken or betrayed.
It takes courage to forgive, even when you know that you’re right.
I say it takes real courage to be who you REALLY are.
What is it you really want to be, do, say, live and express?
There comes a moment in your life when you just have to say the 2 magic words.
Go for it.
Say it. Loud……………..
I would love to hear what bold action you’re committing to taking today!
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Kute Blackson is a speaker and life coach. To learn more about him, check out his website.