“He cheated on me! I’ll never forgive him!”
“She lied to me, so of course I hate her!”
“They went behind my back and betrayed me. I can’t ever look them in the face again.”
The fact of the matter is that we are intuitive beings, and on some level, we’re angry at ourselves for not paying attention to the red flags and road signs that The Uni-verse offered us each and every day. We either chose to notice them or not.
Every single day, The Uni-verse supports us in getting closer and closer to our goals and desires. The Uni-verse is on our side – 100%. Rejection is protection. Instead of being upset because something didn’t turn out the way you thought it would, be thankful that The Uni-verse is setting you up for bigger and better things.
Holding a grudge against someone else takes your power away, because you’re angry for what they did TO you. Be clear that nothing happens TO you. Everything happens FOR you. If you take ownership of everything that you experience, you take your power BACK.
The real healing begins by forgiving ourselves first. If we can’t forgive ourselves there is no way we can have compassion and forgiveness for others; much in the same way we can’t fully love someone else until we love ourselves.
A couple weeks ago I wrote a blog about a friend of mine who did the unthinkable. I was angry at first, but then I got to see that I had known – all along – on some level that she was capable of something like that.
I chose to ignore my intuitions for a variety of reasons, but none of them were to support her in stepping into her greatness. I allowed her to get away with her BS because I told myself I loved her unconditionally. Deep down, I was afraid of risking our entire friendship, because I “knew” she wouldn’t be open to the feedback.
And when I finally called her out, it was too late and the damage had already been done. At that point, she was most definitely not open to the feedback. I am powerful beyond measure, and if I would’ve taken a stand for her, I would’ve given her the option to either stick around while I supported her in being the best version or herself, or not.
I have forgiven her for her wrongdoings, but that doesn’t mean that she gets to be in my life. I know that she did what she did because she is suffering on some level. It hurts my heart to know that.
People do the unthinkable sometimes, and it weighs on them even if they don’t show, emote, or say that it does. It takes away a part of their being and leads to their further suffering. By forgiving someone for “hurting you”, you aren’t letting them win. You are, in fact, setting yourself free.
Choose to love everyone around you and forgive people for their suffering. If they weren’t suffering, they wouldn’t do the unimaginable. Can you think of someone who you can CHOOSE to forgive? Tell me what it will take from you to LET GO of the anger or hurt. Life is happening NOW. Let’s clear the space!
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.