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Friends Come & Go But There's Always A Reason!

I truly believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason. We have encountered this specific person for a purpose. We have friends who remain, friends who come in our lives but soon depart and friends who just pass by our daily lives. Even if it is just running into a fellow barista at Starbucks, there is a reason sprinkled in our path that we may not even see at this moment in time.

There’s a quote that goes something like, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime,” which really resonates with my life. Maybe the simple reason of your barista encounter is the daily smile you both share that starts your morning off right. Each action has a direct impact.

Instead of dwelling on the pain of saying goodbye to a friendship, look at it as a chapter that was filled with many memories and now lessons that will forever live with you. Sometimes we are welcomed by friendships that aren’t meant to last forever, but are meant to teach us and help us grow on our beautiful journeys.

On the contrary, sometimes we have to learn when to let go and continue on our journey. It takes courage to stand up and realize that sometimes you need to move forward. This doesn’t mean things have to end nasty, it just means that you are mature enough to see that these people may be holding you back in a way that at this moment in your life is not what you want.

‘Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on out hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Flavia Weedn

Life is mysterious and relationships are just another addition to our journey. Through the ups and the downs we must appreciate it, for it’s all a part of who we are today. Not one of us goes through life experiencing perfect relationships; in fact, the only way to uncover life’s treasures is to experience them.

On Twitter The Daily Love posted an inspiring message that I felt fitting with this topic. The tweet read as, “E.N.D = Entirely New Direction.” When our friendships end, it’s really just a sign from The Uni-verse saying we need to head down a new path. Stop focusing on why, what if… these are toxic questions that create an abundance of noise in our lives. Instead, begin to take the risk down a new direction. With an open mind you will surprise yourself with the outcome.

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Joey Parker is Editor-In-Chief of The Joey Parker Movement and contributing writer for MTV Act. Passionate about ending human trafficking & creating a brighter future.

  • karen

    THanks so much! So true yet so hard to let them go… I’m not a big fan of change but starting to realize that it’s something I need to do for myself, having faith that I will meet new happy people who hopefully turn into friends!

  • karen

    THanks so much! So true yet so hard to let them go… I’m not a big fan of change but starting to realize that it’s something I need to do for myself, having faith that I will meet new happy people who hopefully turn into friends!

  • http://www.twitter.com/emabaksa Ema

    Thank you for this blog. I still think of some people that aren’t a part of my life and I miss them sometimes but I am positive that they taught me the lessons that I needed to learn and it was time to let them go. Thank you for this reminder.

  • http://www.twitter.com/emabaksa Ema

    Thank you for this blog. I still think of some people that aren’t a part of my life and I miss them sometimes but I am positive that they taught me the lessons that I needed to learn and it was time to let them go. Thank you for this reminder.

  • Dori

    I ended a friendship last week and there have been times when people have ended friendships with me.  Both endings were uncomfortable for me, but necessary.  I believe in gentle partings, whenever possible.  I appreciate what you have shared because it’s true and it’s comforting to my spirit at this time.  Thank you

  • Dori

    I ended a friendship last week and there have been times when people have ended friendships with me.  Both endings were uncomfortable for me, but necessary.  I believe in gentle partings, whenever possible.  I appreciate what you have shared because it’s true and it’s comforting to my spirit at this time.  Thank you

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/QM5UCUYQGGHADV6LRORYM5J3YI John

    I feel like this is such bullsh1t because i just ended a friendship, I didnt want to still wanted t o be friends..You make it sound like everyone you meet suddenly dissapears off of the planet. You know its called working at keeping friendships, Ive seen people do it my moms had a friendship going on for like two decades. ANyway I though this person was a really good friend I made in college, but the other person wanted to drop me. So basically I can go around and hang out with someone for like good amount of time and then all of a sudden just kick them out of my life? and then if I dont want to lose a friend Im immature and need to move on but Im the mature one obviously who does that? This is an excuse to stay content with being alone for being alone for the rest of you life.

    • http://twitter.com/anne_c_mann ~ Anne ~

      John, I am sorry this happened to u. Like the author said, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime” Instead of dwelling on the pain of saying goodbye to a friendship (wether u might not agree of their decision), look at it as a chapter that was filled with many memories and now lessons that will forever live with you. Sometimes we are welcomed by friendships that aren’t meant to last forever, but are meant to teach us and help us grow on our beautiful journeys.
      This too happened to me. I have known a dear friend since freshman (1996) in college. We cheered together and did cheer summer camps. And I basically was a big part of her family. She ended our relationship due to the guy she was dating and she thought she was going to marry. He didn’t approve of my lifestyle as he was a Pastor. Anyways, to make my story short, we didn’t speak for many years (I believe it was almost 10 years). And here we are again, reunited like we were never separated. I still consider her a dear friend despite of our history. So rather than dwelling on the loss of the friendship, cherish the memories. And life goes on.

  • rain

    Ohh! what the amaze describing about love & life.love it ,but wanna leave u some words ” In life someone can stay in our heart but not in our life” i love this line endlessly whatever the conditions is: it is hard for me to say “GOODBYE” the one we love the most and i always console myself with this line ” true love is not merely achieving or possessing the one we love but to see the one we love happy always” so just for her happiness i had to leave her, so sad, so sad but what more else can we do, the time we know; the one we love they cannot stay in our life anymore, anyhow life move on. thanks u for this blog…..

    blessing days!

  • Josah Castaneda

    now i believe there’s good in goodbyes. thank you for this post

  • Eye in the sky Tom Mc H

    I do not know where I heard or read this quote but I can resonate with the thought:
    ” People come into your life for a reason but leave for no reason” If you take this to infinity then life is full of surprises.

    • Julie Cutler

      My sister chose not to speak to me, because my husbands illness was affecting her more than it was me!! She became worried about everything in my life, my life is ok, but my husband has had a very difficult past and she cannot accept that. So its her issues and I have to let go.

  • Bill

    I know that people really do come and go. It’s really hard to let go but we must be matured enough to face it. I understand that sometimes we need to meet new friends and must not stick to just one friend. Life must go on and learn everyday with the things happening. Let’s just be thankful enough that we met those kinds of people who had a great part in our life. Hoping that one day we meet again and wishing we are still friends even for how many decades will pass.

  • Tagiko

    Thank you for this. I had just experienced this and I could really let go. Thank you this helped me let go of what I had lost. It gave me more hope to move on with my life and learn from it. Thank soooo much for writing this blog.