How To Get A Body You Love At Any Age!

IMG_2492-67[2]I know what you’re thinking, “Is it even possible to get a body you love at any age?” YES!! But first, a little perspective.

Have you ever stopped to consider whether “skinny” people or those that you would consider “in shape” actually love their bodies?

I will admit that before I became a personal trainer five years ago, I assumed skinny or fit = happy. Then I started working at a gym and would see fit women day in and day out punishing their bodies into shape.

Sure their bodies may have looked toned and lean, and they were clearly very disciplined. But their faces looked tired, I rarely saw them smile, and the vibe they gave off was not one of self-love, worth or appreciation.

Take for example my personal experience this year.

I moved across the country from NYC to Laguna Beach, CA.  In some cases it felt like moving to another planet and took me several months to adjust.  Over those several months, I shifted my priorities and actually gained about 10 lbs.  At first I was okay with it, I still felt good in my body, but around the middle of July I started feeling uncomfortable and decided to address it.

I didn’t go on a crash diet or a super intense workout regimen.  Instead I chose foods that felt good to me, workouts I enjoy and engaged in some self-care practices like walks on the beach, reading, meditation, and epsom salt baths.  Within six weeks, I’d dropped nine pounds already.

In the past, it wouldn’t have been so easy.  In the past, I wasn’t as tuned into my body.

Diet and exercise are of course important, but they are not always the driving principles for falling in love with your body at any age–they’re not the only pieces of the puzzle. If you are working out hard four or five days a week and eating really clean but you hate your job, have strained relationships with your loved ones, or a lot of stress in your life-you might not see the results you want. In fact, all of that hard work might be more harmful than helpful.

So here’s how you get a body you love at any age:

1. Tune into your body’s most powerful energy system-The Chakra System. If you’re unfamiliar with the Chakra System you can download a free crash course in the seven main Chakras here.

2. Once you’re familiar with the Chakra System, you can develop easy practices to keep your chakras balanced. Things like doing a body scan each day to feel out what’s balanced and what’s not, and protecting, grounding, and clearing your energy throughout the week. This is helpful because there are many ways to balance your chakras through energy healing, meditation, even yoga poses and crystal therapy.

It’s possible to experience dramatic healing and body transformations naturally, without having to go to all kinds of doctors for treatments, procedures or medications. (Although by no means am I saying don’t ever go to the doctor, again-always use caution and heir on the side of “better safe than sorry!”)

For example, did you know that a lot of digestive and weight loss issues don’t actually have much to do with what you’re eating, but rather, your stress levels? The digestive system is in your third chakra which is located in the Solar Plexus. Issues with the third chakra can arise when you feel stuck in a situation that you have no control over among many other things.

3. Don’t just work out, you’ve to to work “in”, too. This means taking some time to connect with your intuition and your higher self each day. Four of the most common ways to do this are through meditation, prayer, yoga, or journaling. When you do this you have the opportunity to connect with your feelings and emotions so you can use them as a guidance system rather than letting them control you. It also allows you to get out of your head and into your body. This means quieting down your ego and turning up the volume on what your heart wants-also known as your desires.

4. Figure out what you really want. Our higher self knows what we want, sometimes the message just hasn’t trickled into our consciousness yet. This leaves us working towards things that we don’t actually care about on a deeper level, which is why we don’t see the results. Intentionally exploring what you desire is really important for your body, health and happiness.

Recently when I was having a rough couple of days a great friend gave me this beautiful reminder, “My belief is that pain and stress is our higher self loving us and gently nudging us towards our potential.”

This is the truth. When you are following the steps on this list, it’s much easier to see the pain and stress in your life as a roadmap for getting what you want…including but not limited to a body you love.




Liz DiAlto is a Fitness and Lifestyle coach, on a mission to help millions of women all over the world get the bodies and lifestyles they crave. Recently named one of the Top 30 Motivators for 2013 by Shape Magazine alongside Dr.Oz, Jillian Michaels, Ellen DeGeneres, and more, Liz believes that willpower sucks and simplicity, motivation and enjoyment are the non-negotiable keys to achieving success. Connect with her via Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and her website.

  • Sandy

    Recently I had a mini melt down. To figure out what was happening I sat down with pen & paper allowing my truth to speak through the pages since this has proven to be enlightening in the past. I began making a list of everything I enjoyed, next a list of things that didn’t bring me peace or joy & the final list I wrote down what I wanted to incorporate into my life. On my list of what didn’t bring me peace or joy was “dieting”. This took me by surprise since I dieted since I was about thirteen, continually changing it up as new advice or evidence came about. It just became a way of life, a habit, even though I consistently had anywhere from twenty to forty pounds of extra weight to lose. The funny thing is once I agreed to stop dieting a flash of recognition appeared. It said, “eat when you are hungry & feed your body what it recognizes as often as possible.” I realized I had made this dieting thing so complicated & way too serious that simple was best along with tuning into me instead of seeking out there. I am happy to report the extra weight is simply melting away. Your article resonated with me, the kindness aspect along with tuning into self. It is beautiful synchronicity! Thank you!

    • Liz DiAlto

      Sandy, thank you so much for sharing and showing PROOF of what I’m talking about and CONGRATS TO YOU!!!

      What’s familiar is not always best 🙂

  • Sharon H.

    Thank you. Love the Chakra download offer, I was wanting to find out more about them so this is perfect for me. Xx:-)

    • Liz DiAlto

      Enjoy, Sharon!!

  • Melissa Burkheimer

    I can’t wait to dive into your free offer. I’m happier now even though I’ve put on some pounds. I’ve been working on getting more in tune with listening to my body and just breathing more.

    Thanks for sharing your story.


    • Liz DiAlto

      so simple, listening to your body and breathing more-but those two things will open up SO MUCH for you!

  • Jill Therese

    I totally love this Liz. I had something super similar happen recently!
    I’ve gained about 10 pounds over the past six months because life has been jammin’ (after a very intense time when I was supah sad and SUPAH skinny).
    And JUST the other day, I was standing in front of the mirror and it REALLY hit me how MUCH my body had changed and how much weight I’d gained (I have a small frame, so 10lbs is kinda significant).
    First thought was: WOW! I’ve gained weight! I should lose it!
    Second thought: Effing WHY? Says WHO? You were too skinny before. You weren’t healthy. You were listening to OTHER people’s ideas of what hot was (which inevitably makes you cra-cra cause everyone has a completely different idea).
    Third thought: What do I, Jill, want to look like? Feel like? Whats MY definition of sexy?
    I left the mirror that day with total acceptance. For the first time (in over a year, after the sad times lol) I thought that I looked great. Beautiful. Healthy. Full. Feminine. I decided that if I wanted to eat better to nourish my body, that was one thing.
    But there is no “fire” here, nothing “wrong”.
    So yeah, 150 million times agree, its all about creating and being true to your vision of what’s right for your body. (Which can be hard to find sometimes).
    Thank you for sharing:)

    • Liz DiAlto

      Amen, Jill. Appreciate your story 🙂

  • Yes!!! A few years ago, when I graduated and entered the working world, I was miserable. I had no life, no real friends, and no hobbies. I gained a ton of weight. Then I decided to “punish” myself through working out. I tracked every calorie I ate and burned. Mathematically, I should have been losing weight! Sure, there was a little fat-to-muscle transitioning, but not much. I basically lost NOTHING, and at times even GAINED weight. For MONTHS.

    So about 5 months later, I gave up. I had some other “symptoms”, and I went to the doctor, confused, but they didn’t have much to say. My thyroid at the time was… almost bad, but not, and then they checked later and it was fine.

    A few months later I got back into dance. Dance has always been my passion. I finally found a studio and was going 3-4 times a week. Just for an hour. The pounds MELTED away! And why? Because I was getting HAPPIER… in addition to working out! I wasn’t even working out as much, it’s just that it was fun and life-affirming instead of punishment that just added to my misery!

    Thank you for this article, it is SO TRUE!

    Much love,

    • Liz DiAlto

      I love this story Nina and to tie it into the chakras-dance is a form of creative expression which is part of what chakra 5, your throat chakra (where the thyroid is located) is all about …the connections are mind blowing sometimes! Congrats on your success 🙂

  • Ellen Ercolini

    OOOO I LOVE THAT. Figuring out what you REALLY want, and the WHY behind it has been so key for me. I always tell my clients that, but I haven’t totally made the connection to health and fittness yet too. Amazing. Thanks for sharing with us Liz! xx

    • Liz DiAlto

      so crazy how we apply all of our “thought processes, tools and philosophies” to certain things and don’t see how it relates to EVERYTHING until someone else points it out sometimes, right? Glad you love it!!

  • As a fellow personal trainer I know exactly the look you’re talking about when it seems like someone is punishing themselves at the gym rather than nourishing themselves. Mindset is such a major, major part of the workout. This is an awesome post, thanks for the insight!
    xx Alixandrea

    • Liz DiAlto

      thank you Alixandrea 🙂

  • Rita Susan Stafford

    Wow . . . I have never thought to work with my Chakras on a weight-loss program. I will start there. Thank you for this great message!

    • Liz DiAlto

      let me know how it goes 🙂

  • VeegMama

    Thank you for this post. I found it very healing. It really resonated with me.