Have you ever stopped to consider whether “skinny” people or those that you would consider “in shape” actually love their bodies?
I will admit that before I became a personal trainer five years ago, I assumed skinny or fit = happy. Then I started working at a gym and would see fit women day in and day out punishing their bodies into shape.
Sure their bodies may have looked toned and lean, and they were clearly very disciplined. But their faces looked tired, I rarely saw them smile, and the vibe they gave off was not one of self-love, worth or appreciation.
Take for example my personal experience this year.
I moved across the country from NYC to Laguna Beach, CA. In some cases it felt like moving to another planet and took me several months to adjust. Over those several months, I shifted my priorities and actually gained about 10 lbs. At first I was okay with it, I still felt good in my body, but around the middle of July I started feeling uncomfortable and decided to address it.
I didn’t go on a crash diet or a super intense workout regimen. Instead I chose foods that felt good to me, workouts I enjoy and engaged in some self-care practices like walks on the beach, reading, meditation, and epsom salt baths. Within six weeks, I’d dropped nine pounds already.
In the past, it wouldn’t have been so easy. In the past, I wasn’t as tuned into my body.
Diet and exercise are of course important, but they are not always the driving principles for falling in love with your body at any age–they’re not the only pieces of the puzzle. If you are working out hard four or five days a week and eating really clean but you hate your job, have strained relationships with your loved ones, or a lot of stress in your life-you might not see the results you want. In fact, all of that hard work might be more harmful than helpful.
So here’s how you get a body you love at any age:
1. Tune into your body’s most powerful energy system-The Chakra System. If you’re unfamiliar with the Chakra System you can download a free crash course in the seven main Chakras here.
2. Once you’re familiar with the Chakra System, you can develop easy practices to keep your chakras balanced. Things like doing a body scan each day to feel out what’s balanced and what’s not, and protecting, grounding, and clearing your energy throughout the week. This is helpful because there are many ways to balance your chakras through energy healing, meditation, even yoga poses and crystal therapy.
It’s possible to experience dramatic healing and body transformations naturally, without having to go to all kinds of doctors for treatments, procedures or medications. (Although by no means am I saying don’t ever go to the doctor, again-always use caution and heir on the side of “better safe than sorry!”)
For example, did you know that a lot of digestive and weight loss issues don’t actually have much to do with what you’re eating, but rather, your stress levels? The digestive system is in your third chakra which is located in the Solar Plexus. Issues with the third chakra can arise when you feel stuck in a situation that you have no control over among many other things.
3. Don’t just work out, you’ve to to work “in”, too. This means taking some time to connect with your intuition and your higher self each day. Four of the most common ways to do this are through meditation, prayer, yoga, or journaling. When you do this you have the opportunity to connect with your feelings and emotions so you can use them as a guidance system rather than letting them control you. It also allows you to get out of your head and into your body. This means quieting down your ego and turning up the volume on what your heart wants-also known as your desires.
4. Figure out what you really want. Our higher self knows what we want, sometimes the message just hasn’t trickled into our consciousness yet. This leaves us working towards things that we don’t actually care about on a deeper level, which is why we don’t see the results. Intentionally exploring what you desire is really important for your body, health and happiness.
Recently when I was having a rough couple of days a great friend gave me this beautiful reminder, “My belief is that pain and stress is our higher self loving us and gently nudging us towards our potential.”
This is the truth. When you are following the steps on this list, it’s much easier to see the pain and stress in your life as a roadmap for getting what you want…including but not limited to a body you love.
Liz DiAlto is a Fitness and Lifestyle coach, on a mission to help millions of women all over the world get the bodies and lifestyles they crave. Recently named one of the Top 30 Motivators for 2013 by Shape Magazine alongside Dr.Oz, Jillian Michaels, Ellen DeGeneres, and more, Liz believes that willpower sucks and simplicity, motivation and enjoyment are the non-negotiable keys to achieving success. Connect with her via Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and her website.