Here’s How To Find Your Purpose! You Might Wanna Read This!

If you think about it, there is a common structure to living our dreams, to expanding beyond what’s comfortable and to living on purpose. It’s actually pretty simple and when we start to recognize this pattern, it makes it SUPER simple (and still not that easy) to begin to live on purpose and to live your bliss.

This is what I’ve figured out over the last ten years of trying to find the answers to what makes us/me happy and how to get on track and in alignment with my gift or purpose.

First, think back about all your happy memories. Think back to your childhood and your teenage years; remember the first time you felt romantic love and remember the first time something BIG happened. Finally, think back and find your most recent happy memory.

Look for the common thread in these memories. Who was there? Why were you happy? What emotions were you feeling? Did you feel a sense of connection, joy, happiness, belonging, freedom or peace? Try to see the common emotions that span all of your happy memories. There is information in there that is vital to finding your purpose.

For me, once I looked back over my happy memories, I saw that having a sense of belonging was HUGE for me. When I feel like I BELONG and when I feel SEEN, I light up like a Christmas tree. I used this as information and saw that I am the happiest, most alive and thriving when I feel like I belong and when I feel seen.

Since living on purpose and giving your gift is not about just you being happy, but also sharing your gifts, I’ve honed my purpose over time to be: My purpose is to create circumstances, environments, businesses and communities where I am fully expressing my creative gifts with the intention to inspire other people to feel like they belong – first to themselves and then to a group that shares their common interest.

When I read that and when I see those words, my heart sings. That is the clue to know that it’s real for me.

So, what are the common threads in your past happy memories that you can tie together to find your purpose? Seek that.

Now here comes the hard part.

I’m going to break down the “Live your life on purpose” pattern that I’ve found:

1.      Find your purpose by excavating and tying together the common threads of your happy memories by focusing on the emotions you felt. Construct a sentence or two that allows you to give your gifts to yourself and  others. Remember – purpose is shared with others.

2.      Begin to take action on your new purpose, one step at a time.

3.      Know that all the limiting beliefs from your family, your friends, your fears and the world will begin to come up once you start to take action. Move through them. This part of the process is where we begin to grow as individuals into who we were meant to be by challenging all of these limiting beliefs and fears.

4.      Step into giving. Purpose is about cultivating something within YOU and then GIVING it away to other people. We don’t live abundant and happy lives in isolation or by being takers. So by giving away your purpose to others, you will find that others want to GIVE to you, too.

5.      Live by faith, not by sight. Living your purpose will require a HUGE amount of faith, courage, tenacity and perseverance. I had to couch surf for almost two years and go on very little money to get TDL started. But I was always taken care of. Trust that The Uni-verse knows your bills, knows you need to eat and knows your heart much better than even you do, so keep facing your fears and limiting beliefs daily.

6.      Hang with people who support and uplift you. I’ve always said it’s important to take advice from people who have what you want because otherwise, people are just guessing. Who you hang with is who you become, so start hanging with people who support and uplift you.

7.      Prepare for the haters and the doubters. One way to know you are REALLY on track is when people begin to doubt or “hate” on what you are doing. It’s a natural part of the process. Don’t see haters as a reason to give up; instead see them as a sign that you are starting to become successful.

8.      Repeat these steps. Your purpose will constantly get refined. Your limiting beliefs and fears will always come up. Repeat and dive deeper. This will allow you to stay on track. Living on purpose is a lifestyle, a way of being and a lifelong spiritual practice that will refine your Soul. This isn’t a 10-day or 30-day plan. This is a lifelong adventure!

This pattern that I have laid out came from my own life experiences and also through helping others discover and live their purpose. I hope that it can help give you some guidance as to where to go next. It’s not a perfect process, but it’s one that works for me. My great hope is that it works for you, too!

Let me know – comment or email: [email protected]



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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.

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  • Kibby

    Thank you!  Thank you!  You are a light of wisdom, inspiration, beauty and LOVE.  Thank you! You help keep the important aspects of life in perspective.  A heartfelt THANK YOU!

  • Oh Mastin, I am overcome by the need to tell you that this is one of your most powerful posts I’ve ever read, and I love your posts each morning. There is such an urgency and a purity today–and as usual, you’ve reached inside my heart and my gut–because I feel your words resonating there: “I am the happiest, most alive and thriving when I feel like I belong and when I feel seen.”
    And there it is: to allow ourselves the taste of seeing, and being seen. That is Love. It’s all we want.
    Creating the circumstances to share my own gifts–especially the one of kindly seeing others, helping them see they belong, and always have–for me, this boils down to my purpose, realized this weekend: Eat at Home.
    This means, cooking for others, but helping them Be part of the process: baking the birthday cake WITH that person, from scratch, showing what I know, but being open to entirely new methods, letting go of the outcomes, letting others take over the mixer or the bowl, for all of us to be transformed by the creative process TOGETHER, and, together, to light the candles (to “see”) and sit around the table in that glow and truly taste and savor the belonging, the inclusion, mysteriously sweet circle of gratitude. 
    Cakes are just circles, after all.
    Much love and deep bows, Mastin.

    • awwww thank you, so did you find your purpose?

  • Sherri-patterson

    I’ve watched you for the past three years.  Started reading your blog – A Boy’s Live after I followed you on Twitter.  You inspire by example.  I love this about you.  I’m encouraged by you and I’m thankful your found your purposed! 🙂 <3

  • Avid TDL reader

    I read this post, thought about it, cried then re-read it and felt so happy. I’ve definitely overcome something after reading this, its so amazing how these blogs reach me, especially this one – very profound. I feel like I’m looking into a kailedoscope examining, and then find the most beautiful outcomes – it’s amazing and has me puzzled as to how this happens. Thank you so much, and perfect timing – I resigned from my job 6 months ago and asked the Universe today ‘how do I find my life’s purpose?’ I have been questioning this and tonights post is a stepping stone to this. I will be coaching with you in the very near future, nearly there & can’t wait 🙂

  • Dawn

    Thank you for sharing today’s post. It has to be one the most inspiring,truthful, beautiful things I have ever read. I will sit with these words and comtemplate them carefully. I have been on the edge of purpose for too long. I hope this helps me conceive of and take whatever the next action is towards my dreams so they may become reality. I signed up today for daily inspiration.

  • Kelly

    Your post has come at such a perfect time for me and I can’t wait to sit down with my journal and explore my purpose and then begin to really take action on it!!!  You are certainly living your purpose by inspiring others to find theirs. Thank you Mastin! xxx

  • Mc1264

    Brand new subscriber and deeply moved by your words on my very first day! “…when I feel like I belong…” something I have been trying to put into words for a long time and then BAM you write it out for me. Thank you for sharing and looking forward to reading more and working on my own purposeful living journey.

  • Mastin…this is one of those posts that really is timely no matter when you happen upon it in your life. This finding your purpose-thing is hard…or perhaps nailing it down into something concrete is what’s hard. Actually, it’s a hurt. I think that I know what my  general “purpose” is because the same “common thread” circumstances/situations/moments are the ones that have been painfully happy for me, but putting that into something where I’ll, not just survive, but thrive keeps eluding me and the pedestrian parts of everyday life seem to enjoy being repetitive obstacles. But, nonetheless, I’m still here. I do believe that I truly need to expand my circle with people who are supportive and are what and where I hope to be and could learn from; that would be an affirming projection every minute spent in their company. So more one step at a time, indeed, Mastin. Thanks for that.

    PS: really enjoyed your talks at Tadasana. Thanks for those, as well. 

  • Emily Haines

    Catching up on Oprah’s Lifeclass Tour online and was struggling with finding my purpose (worried that I was mistaking “talent” for “purpose”). And then today – this post. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by PURPOSE, I am comforted by a PROCESS. What a wonderful tool to identifying one’s purpose. Thank you for sharing your gifts, your creativity, your passion and your PURPOSE with me and with us all in TDL family. Love and light, friend.

  • Tragickingdum21

    I agree, this post really struck something in me right when I needed it. Very much appreciated! You should be very proud of yourself : )


  • JulianaBrocco

    Your post made me cry, cause I needed it so badly. Im finding what Im meant to be and what I want to share to help others …thanks!!!

  • James Vincent Knowles

    bow to you. and thank you. resonating big time. 

  • Kristie Blankenship

    Oh Mastin, that was such a beautiful post! I am new here and awed the first day! I have recently found my purpose (the one that makes me cry) and am trying to find ways to share and benefit others with it. I find all this requires much soul searching and personal growth. I also need to learn more concerning this that I’ve undertaken. It is a lot of inner work. I so want to quit my day job so I can dedicate my entire self and time in this, but my income is needed to keep food on the table.  I can’t wait until the day I can quit! I know it is coming. I know what I am called to do.  I am just having problems figuring out HOW to do it.  Once again, awesome post!  Keep them coming!