Here’s how to learn to TRUST YOURSELF!

February 26, 2013 by Mastin Kipp 27 Comments

If you don’t know by now, we are all about ACTION at The Daily Love. ACTION!

ACTION is where the juice of life is. That means – DOING SOMETHING. Saying “I love you”, or committing to saying no, or exercising and eating right, adding more value to the world, getting off your butt and actually doing SOMETHING!

ACTION is the bridge between dreams and reality. I have talked about change happening slowly. It does.

The key is in the action.

The crazy thing is that sometimes the only action we can take is the choice to not take action. Sometimes we have a waiting period. A time where we are supposed to be confused, we are supposed to incubate. And other times when we are supposed to work our butts off. The clue is to tune in and listen to The Uni-verse. What’s being whispered to you in your meditations and what are you intuitively feeling about what is next?

So many seekers block their own natural intuition because they are afraid. And they don’t take action. They don’t leave the job, or the relationship or start their own business. They don’t leap into the arms of The Divine with the trust that they will be caught or learn how to fly. They block their intuition and then life shuts down.

Other times, we take too much action and run around like a chicken with our head cut off. And this is because we are not listening.

The key is to learn how to trust yourself. And whatever you are being told what to do, whatever you are being guided to do, to have the courage to do it. OR if you are being guided to rest, to stop and to wait – to have the willingness and humility to LISTEN and trust what you hear.

If we don’t trust ourselves, we will never create the life of our dreams. We will never self-actualize and we will always live a life that is in service to the opinions and beliefs of OTHER PEOPLE. This is NOT our destiny. Our destiny is to live a Self-Approved life in harmony with The Uni-verse where we claim our Divine birthright and ACT on our faith – every day. And as we do, expect and allow miracles and synchronicities to show up in the most amazing way!

I’m curious – what is your intuition telling you?

As always, the action happens in the comments below. Leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Love,

Mastin

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dee

I really loved this post, and feel really in sync with what you are saying here, great that you added that sometimes the best action to take is the decision to not take action, or words to that effect. I have been incubating, that is what my intuition has said. I believe your body reflects your mind so I have been so pro active with my health this past year so that I can be the best I can be. I believe that collaboration is also one of the best things to open up to in your life. Ultimately it’s gona be you who makes the final decision for your life but there are many ppl you will meet along the way that have the skills / services to help you. It’s all about the journey, knowing that you are powerful in your own right, but no man is an island. I think it’s great when we utilize (not exploit) one another to achieve our desired outcomes, nobody made it anywhere on their own. I used to make the mistake of doing everything by myself and for myself then I learnt to trust others more & let them in & it’s added so much more richness to my life. It’s a give & take. Sure, I’ve met some nasty ppl along the way that just look after their own needs & stupidly exploit, but I have learnt that once learnt to walk away from those situations as your energy always comes back to you and it’s not something we need to fix. Loved this post Mastin
- http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel
  
  “Walk awawy from those situations” and “it’s not something we need to fix.”
  
  That’s something I’ve been working on and learning especially the past year or 2.
  It’s true that we’ll encounter people who bring us down or seem to radiate stress and drama. And we can choose to stay in their stress bubble, or not. It’s our choice to STAY or GO. I chose to stay, several times, when I was faced with stressful situations. I put myself through so much stress and agony by “putting on a good face” and trying to prove that I wouldn’t let “that” person get to me. What I should have done, I see now, is just let her be and walk away. Don’t allow her into my experience. Or at least, don’t allow her to affect me. I’m making much healthier and happier choices now… so much less stressed!
  
  I also have a tendency to want to “fix” situations and people. I see how things could be “so much better,” so why, on earth, wouldn’t that other person want things to be better? What an ego-minded way of thinking. I get that now. Still, it does trip me up from time to time. I just need to learn to relax and live in MY love and MY life. And accept that everyone is on their own path of love. And it’s not up to ME to “fix” them or tell anyone else how to show their love.
  
  Sarah
  http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/this-is-your-life.html
Reina

Hi Mastin,

Just received the e-mail from the ‘Daily Dose of Love” and read your article. Thus, here’s my feedback.

The sentence that really touched me is this one:
“They don’t leap into the arms of The Divine with the trust that they will be caught or learn how to fly. ”

NOW that is scary but I did “leap into the arms of The Divine” and have left my job and am now moving from the province of Québec to British Columbia and (I have to admit) that I’m REALLY praying to either “be caught or learn how to fly”.

All “good vibrations” from all reading this would be greatly appreciated (and this I “dare” to add after reading dee’s post. (need to learn to ask for a helping hand too).

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Namaste
- http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel
  
  Reina,
  
  I think that’s so cool that you took the leap!!!!! Seriously, I applaud you. Most people don’t have that kind of courage.
  I completely believe that you WILL be caught and/or learn to fly! It’s happened for me time and time again. Like you, I’ve quit jobs with no back-up plan or other job in place. I just knew I needed to get out of THAT situation and THAT job was NOT what I wanted to be doing. I needed to leave in order to gain clarity and find my new path. And I always did.
  
  The Universe takes care of us. At all times. You WILL be provided for, one way or another!
  Congrats to you for following your heart and listening to your spirit!!
  
  Sarah
  http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/this-is-your-life.html
- Anita
  
  Welcome to BC! You are going to love it here!
Michelle Densmore

Mastin

Thank you for such an uplifting and thought-provoking post. i am a true Daily Lover and enjoy reading your email as part of my morning routine… today’s was especially great and I believe you are absolutely correct when you say that “action is the bridge between dreams and reality”. SO true!

I recently stepped out onto my own and opened my own personal training studio- Lucky13Fitness- where I use both my training certification and my education as a therapist to help people get their dreams to become their reality. This ALWAYS comes through action and behavior change.

Thank you for reflecting back a topic that i believe is CRUCIAL for all people that want success.

Best,
Michelle
- http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel
  
  Michelle,
  That’s so great! I think your studio, Lucky13Fitness sounds really cool! I’m sure you’re helping lots of people by using all your skills — not just personal training and exercise, but the mental/emotional/spiritual side of it as well. How cool!
  
  Sarah
http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

This post felt like a relaxing deep breath to me. So true. And just what I needed. Ahhhh.

On Sunday my (ex)boyfriend and I “officially” broke up. For good, this time, it seems. While I had initiated the separation (which started a month and a half ago), it still stung. We’d been together over 2 years and I thought he was “the one” for me.

On Monday I needed a day in my shell. I didn’t do much of anything besides write in my journal, write an email to a good friend, and “meditation”/nap on my bed. I needed a day to just SIT with my feelings and my new world. Regroup.

Today I’m feeling alive and excited again!

So I totally agree that we need all periods in our lives. Sometimes we need to get out there and DO things. Other times we need to sit at home, in our pjs, and do next to nothing. It’s all about listening to what YOU need, right now.

I’m very much an “action” person. I like to feel productive. So when I have the days of not wanting to do anything, and not feeling very productive with my writing, I struggle with that at times. But I agree that sometimes inaction IS the action we need. Sitting at home IS an action, after all. Meditating and thinking ARE actions…. just not ones you see outright right away.

I published 3 novels within about a 4 month time frame, and was liking the high production phase of my life at that time. I felt like I was DOING something. What I sort of forgot is the year and a half leading up to that 4-month publication period, in which I spent writing, thinking, editing, rewriting, reading. I’m not at the starting point again. Starting a new book from square one. So I’m feeling a little like I’m not “doing” anything when I’m taking notes and thinking about the direction I want this book to go. But I AM doing something… and this phase is just as important as the more obvious publication phase. Something I’m constantly reminding myself of.

Sarah
http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/this-is-your-life.html
JD

Reading that sometimes “no action” is okay was nice to read. In the past, I have been willing to lose “sight of the shore” by opening my own business (very successful) and running for political office twice (not successful). I am in the process of starting another new business and am wondering if it is the right choice. Yesterday, my wife and talked about letting the business idea rest for awhile. Take time to find out if I am doing it for the right reasons or because I’ve already started the process and need to see it thru.
Brendylynn

”Action is the bridge between dreams and reality”….this statement is brilliant. I recently realized how much I don’t trust my intuition. Something as simple as picking out what to wear can create such chaos in my mind and at the end of it all I end up wearing the 1st outfit I picked out. I now find myself recognizing almost immediately when I’m not following my intuition and if possible I quickly go back to that first initial whisper. More and more I’m realizing that trusting myself and taking action based on that trust will truly help me turn my dreams into reality. Thank you Mastin for your words of wisdom.
Tiffany

Action includes being honest…Letting people know how you feel…Sometimes people have this fixed opinion about you…Action, letting them know…your boundaries or any unacceptable behavior they contribute to…and it is not easy doing it, but it is a very liberating experience…Thank you for the blog…

Kindly,
Tiffany
- Rose
  
  Well said, thank you so much, I needed to hear that in those words!!!
Deedee

I read your post this morning staring at a resignation letter that I have been putting off sending. I know in my heart it is that quitting my job is the right thing to do as I want to” take the leap” into my own business> I think I will work on getting that sent today. Thanks for the inspiration.
rickie

This morning’s entry really resonates with me! I’ve been making a stronger effort at thinking critically about my daily ACTION plan, which in turn, has given me the TRUST within myself that I need to progress and move through obstacles and the future unknowns. I have become way more self aware in the process… and continue to have a flexible approach to working with changes as they come and go. Thank you, Mastin!
Guest

Hey Mastin,

I’ve really been enjoying the daily love emails as I check in with myself at work. What strikes me about listening to intuition and/or self-trust is that as I get older (a whopping 23 ) it seems to be getting harder for me to do. I tend to remember times when what I thought was my intuition led me astray, or when my fears dictated my thoughts. I know that I have, in some way, lost touch with my inner guide. I’m not entirely sure what the next steps are to finding it again. I have thoughts about change, but I wonder how much if it is fear talking vs. intuition.
Dr Tracey Wright

Learning to trust ourselves, is really about learning to trust life. I am so glad that you mentioned about the waiting period. We are so programed to “do, do do” that a pause, or redirect can seem uncomfortable and our to sync with our rhythm. I am in a waiting period right now and truthfully it has been uncomfortable. But it is in these moments of pause that allow me to tune into my deeper knowing, my deeper trust, that I will be led to the right people, places, experiences and opportunities in Divine timing. Taking leaps and trusting can be just as difficult as taking a moment or pause. Trusting that these are the times to listen to what my heart is desiring, my Spirit is asking for, and what allows me to know when a YES is a YES are what build momentum and opportunity for the next moments of celebration along the journey! Thanks Mastin! Love!
GMC

How can I tell if it’s intuition or fear talking…I sometimes think it’s intuition and then I end up realizing it was fear and vice versa… any tips people can provide would be helpful
http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

My intuition keeps whispering, “BE PATIENT WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL PROCESS.” My mind replies, “But, you have A lOT of catching up to do. You are 43 years old and time is running out!” One thing I have not mentioned on TDL is my… husky voice. I receive compliments on it quite often and have heard, “So sexy, you sound like Lauren Bacall.” The problem? The more impatient I am with my process, the WORSE it gets. I intellectually know this “So-called” issue is a gift from the Universe reminding me to relax and breathe. I am sure Louise Hay would have a few instructions as well. My mentor told me that I am paying way too much attention to it in fear which does NOT help. This I know is true. So, thank you for the reminder Mastin. Patience is what I need more than anything right now. Ahhhh…surrendering into that one. What I want and what I need for my growth do not always abide.
The Daily Commenter,
Kathleen
are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/
Grace

I also have troubles distinguishing intuition from fear. I am known in my relationship as the one with impeccable intuition, it is sort of uncanny the situations we have avoided because my intuition has practically yelled at me. But when it comes to deeper, more personal decisions about my life, career, etc I feel torn, indecisive and jumbled.
I think getting back into a regular meditation practice will be helpful.
guest

I have taken a lot of action in certain ways: I have quit a normal job and moved to another continent, where I just barely get by financially but have a richer life. This was absolutely the right thing to do, but sometimes this kind of action is not as important as the kind of action required to daily change my outlook on life. I always knew that these big outward actions wouldn’t magically change anything and now that is in my face. It is the actions like doing EFT every day (read that yesterday and realise this is the way to genuine change – years of personal trial and error has taught me that nothing changes at all until you accept yourself the way you are, and then it just changes without any effort). Anyways, thanks a million for the encouragement, the big struggle is to leave behind the constant fear and worry of the expectations, real or imagined, of others, which is debilitating whether back there in a normal life or here in my new “dream” life, which isn’t all that dreamy if I don’t do these small things every day.
Moanikealaona

It’s telling me to leave my husband and move to Palm Springs. But I’m staying because he is injured and I think I owe him to stay, because I made a sacred commitment 20 years ago. Doesn’tthat count for anything? Shouldn’t I make an effort to improve the relationship because.of this commitment? But I’m not sure how long I can tolerate his negativity.
http://twitter.com/shanamattheis Shana Mattheis

This post is very potent for me right now. I am an action taker, but fell into the not listening action where I am either running around with no direction, or butting my head against a wall without any progress.

I have had some amazing experiences connecting to my intuition in the past, but got distracted by life and am now just finding my way back again. My previous experiences were life changing and certainly gave me reason to trust. I have been feeling called to re-connect and have started a daily meditation again.

In the past couple of weeks, my meditation and intuition have told me to slow down despite my feeling the need to be working and producing visible results. It has been telling me to take a different direction, that despite my hard work my energy needs to be elsewhere, and to let the anxiety of what is pulling at me slip away. It can be hard to do that when we are so used to clinging to things so tightly that we think are serving us when they are actually inhibiting us and cutting us off from our intuition and living and serving in the best possible way.
Sarasvati

Surrender fully to the Divine
sharon moore

since the death of my mother on december 17th i have been frozen in time. i can’t think can’t move. My sisters no longer talk to me because of items they wanted that my mom gave to me.I lost my whole family that day.Now i’m empty,lonely and broken. All that keeps me going is my faith in god and my daughter.how do i become whole again.for many years i took care of my mom and now i don’t know who i am or what i’m suppose to do. Everyday i cry and pray and ask god for the answers. how can i move on and fine peace.
Hi_DEF

Hi Martin-

The title is “Here’s how to learn to trust yourself”…. where’s the info about learning to trust yourself? This article only tells you TO trust yourself, not how.
Mora

I love all the articles on here, but this one has really touched me, as i always find it difficult to trust myself.

I liked the phrase “ACTION is the bridge between dreams and reality. I have talked about change happening slowly.It does.” because my dreams are the reason why i love my life and taking actions hopefully will make them come true My intuition is telling me i have to show my feelings to the person i love, so i can leave this “waiting period” and finally take action.

THANK YOU SO MUCH Mastin for sharing all this words, they are very important for us!
Cindi

My intuition is telling me to leave my dead end job and loveless, life sucking, emotionally draining, marriage. But I would have no money. Money or lack there of colors all my choices. I have one minor child and feel obligated to hang around until she starts college. I so want to start a new life, new business, but just have no direction. I’m not getting any younger.