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Self-esteem is one of those things that’s talked about a lot. It’s like a catch phrase that everyone seems to throw around, but how do we actually get it?
That’s the question.
I thought I knew, but I didn’t until I met my life coach, Laurie Gerber.
And Laurie laid it out to me in such a SIMPLE way. I LOVE simplicity. Everything that is sophisticated should be simple. And the way that Laurie laid it out was the most sophisticated description of self-esteem I have EVER heard.
She said that self-esteem comes from keeping PROMISES to yourself. That is – make your ACTIONS in alignment with your nature. That is to say – DO what you SAY you are going to do. It’s simple, but not easy.
ESPECIALLY for someone who has addictive tendencies like me. My nature is health. My desire is a six pack and SOMETIMES I don’t always eat in a way that is in alignment with my true nature or desire. And so… what happens? I don’t respect myself; I take myself further away from my true desire.
And with this action – I LOSE esteem for myself. And my self-esteem lowers. I’m learning that when I do this, it’s important to not go into guilt and shame mode, that is for sure. But even so, when I don’t act in alignment with my true nature and my desires, my self-respect goes down and so does my self-esteem.
On the flip side, when I act in alignment with my nature and my goals – my self-esteem goes UP!
It’s a simple equation, really, which is why I love it.
I’m still learning how to do this, but I’m doing my best to keep my promises to myself every day. And as I do, my self-esteem goes up and as that goes up my productivity and creativity increase, and life just gets better!
So, where in YOUR life are you not keeping promises to yourself? Where in your life are your actions not in alignment with your true nature and desires? Can you see that when you aren’t acting in alignment with your true nature and desires your self-esteem goes down? What actions are you willing to take NOW to reverse this and can you stop feeling guilty and shameful? As always, the action happens in the comments below. Let me know and also give the TDL Community a chance to SUPPORT YOU!
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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