Faith first, mindset second, goals third, action fourth, persistence always.
I was on a call today with a client who wanted to talk about goals. She wanted to set goals to be a success and wanted me to take her through a goal setting process.
And I told her that was total BS to set goals until we actually knew what was currently blocking her from achieving her goals.
Because, quite frankly, you could set all the goals in the world, but if you don’t BELIEVE that you are worth it, or at least acting as if you are worth it, until you believe you are, there’s no way you are actually going to achieve your goal.
This about it like this… Your desire has a certain amount of energy. And you inner resistance and inner stories about why you can’t/shouldn’t have or don’t deserve to have something have a certain amount of energy. And if the energy of resistance is greater than the energy of desire, your goal won’t happen.
This is why so many people set goals and nothing happens.
This is why, when I was talking about a vision board yesterday, it’s not enough. I didn’t get the call from Oprah’s producers or get invited to speak at a Hay House event because I made a vision board alone. That came from my first act of FAITH that it was possible, followed up with a MINDSET that believed it was (even when circumstances showed otherwise) and I ADDED so much VALUE to other people’s lives that they spread the word to others.
Vision boards and GOALS aren’t enough. We must have FAITH; we must have a PURPOSE (aka a kick ass reason WHY we want to do something); we must have tenacity and a mindset that triumphs over circumstances and we must be PERSISTENT and try UNTIL it happens (and not shorter than that).
But we have an inner story that is stronger than our inner desire. The power of that story (no matter how real it may seem) is strong enough to hold us back. And when we hold ourselves back, we produce the result of the limiting story, which then backs it up.
And if we set goals without looking at why we believe they are impossible, we are not setting goals – we are hoping or wishing at best.
Goal setting starts with beginning to tell a new story about what’s possible for you and WHY it’s possible and why living this way is no longer suitable or tolerable for you.
That emotional connection to the PURPOSE of your goal setting is the ENERGY you will need to BREAK THROUGH THE RESISTENCE. And, like anything else in life, the more you apply it, the more you practice it, the better you will get at it.
And to do this, you are going to need to tell a new story and surround yourself with people who will support that story. We get side tracked in life by so many people who squash our dreams, but in reality it’s not them squashing our dreams, it’s US squashing our dreams by accepting their opinion and assessment of the situation, instead making our opinion and self-approval what matters most.
So – what goals do you want to set in your life? And I mean BIG GOALS! And what are the limiting stories that are holding you back? And who are the people in your life who are telling you it can’t be done? And what new story do you want to tell and whom can you surround yourself with to help make your dreams come true? Let me know: send an email to us at WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com or leave a comment!
Love,
Mastin
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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