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Here’s Why You Actually SHOULD Do What You Want!

Jenna Phillips headshotYes, I know. I used that profane word, “SHOULD”. I most often intentionally do not use it, and I usually cringe when I hear I someone “shoulding” all over themselves. I choose to use the words “get to” instead of “should” because I do believe that everything in life is a choice and/or a privilege. Hashtag, perspective.

But I felt like I could actually use it in a constructive way for this blog. When the word is typically used, it has a lingering effect of an undeniable heaviness. It’s debilitating and weakening and often used in the context of being right or wrong.

First of all, there is no right or wrong, just an opinion. When we say, “I should go to the gym today…” it feels like an obligation and that we are wrong for not going to the gym sooner. YUCK!

Saying, “I get to go to the gym today!” makes it feel like an opportunity and an empowered decision to be in charge of our health. YES!

When we say, “I wanna take some time off, but I should keep working…” after many weeks of hustling like a maniac to make our vision become a reality – we are coming from scarcity, as if the world around us will fall apart if we take the break that our mind, body, and soul deserve.

We keep focusing on that break we wish we could have, and then…

BAM!

The Uni-verse suddenly honors our request that we’ve been putting out there, but probably not the way we imagined it. You see, The Uni-verse HEARS all of our requests, and soon enough our requests are honored. If we don’t handle our life with urgency, The Uni-verse will handle it for us in its own way. (Tweet-worthy!) You know that saying: “Be careful what you wish for.”?

I’d been HUSTLING for many weeks (like I usually do), and people kept asking me how I have all of this energy and, specifically, “How do you do it all?”

I’d answer with a playful remark like, “Well, I’m bionic,” or, “SuperWoman takes her cape off every once in a while. Don’t worry.”

At the same time, I was hungry for a few days of no clients, classes, workshops, or social media duties. One week ago, today, I was teaching a MEGA awesome spin class at AuraCycle to a room FILLED with amazing people. I jumped off the bike mid-class to run around the room, like I always do, and landed on my foot in a not-so-supportive way. I felt a pinch in my ankle but thought it was okay. I kept teaching and finished the class with a BANG on the bike, all the while not even remembering that I landed funny.

I even perfectly walked out of the studio in heels to meet my amazingly-talented friend Rachael for some much-needed girl time. Half way through dinner, my ankle decided to let me know that it was, in fact, NOT okay by throbbing, swelling, aching, and if ankles could scream in agony – it would’ve been doing that too!

By the time I drove myself home, I was a wet blanket and hunched over my steering wheel. Brad supported me in getting upstairs and I melted into our bed with a red face, stinging from tears. “Why does this hurt so badly???” I yelled and demanded to know. It made no sense whatsoever to me, but I was in excruciating pain and I have always considered myself to be a bad ass!

After trying every position imaginable, I discovered that “happy baby” was the only way I’d be able to fall asleep.  HA! We constructed quite the pillow fort to make that happen.

Sure enough, I canceled all of my classes and clients for the next two days and slept like it was my job. I did a whole lot of RICE (rest, ice, compress, elevate) and it supported me in getting back on my feet after 4 days of taking it easy. My world continued to evolve around me, I enjoyed the downtime, and I even got to walk around with a cane that I wrapped in colorful duct tape. The coolest!

Lesson learned: if I feel like taking a break I totally get to and SHOULD take one before The Uni-verse MAKES me take one. There is NOTHING wrong with slowing your stroll in life every once in while. To be the BEST hustler, you also gotta recharge those ENERGIZER batteries.

Be gentle with yourself and, of course:

Love all that is you,
Jenna xox

P.S. Tell me about something you’ve been THINKING about doing but you haven’t made it happen for whatever reason. By when will you make it happen? Let’s GO! :) I love your comments! XO

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Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and visit I’m On A Mission and be inspired.

  • Melissa Pylsy

    This is just what I think I’m going through now. I was really stressed for about 2 weeks because I felt a lot of pressure about finding a job. I just couldnt calm my nerves down until BAM, i got really sick witch I dont do these days. Problem solved! Havent been thinking about finding a job for the whole 11 days I’w now been sick :) Learned my lesson? Yes I did!

    • Jenna Phillips

      I’m so happy you found the lesson in this! And therefore, the beauty in it as well! :)

  • Porky

    Ah, the ubiquitous “should”. I should really get out there and start training horses. I should really go fix the fence on the west side. I’m looking forward to putting your “get to” solution in place to see what wonderful changes may come from that. :)

    • Jenna Phillips

      YES! Saying “get to” is a game changer!

  • Hema

    Next article indeed…
    I’ve been overworked for sometime now and have been wanting to take a fortnight off from work, to catch up with friends, visit my hometown, learn vipassana, however was putting away this ‘me’ time. Intend to take this off in May’14. Shall make it happen

    • Jenna Phillips

      Thanks for taking the time to read my blog! I’m happy it resonated with you! xo

  • Hema

    Sorry for the typo, I meant ‘nice’ article