How I found True Love!

Okay, I am a little nervous, but at the same time, REALLY excited to begin this new adventure. Anyone who knows me, KNOWS that I love a challenge.

So, here I go! One may ask how did this all come about and why NOW? Well, one of my favorite tweeters, Mastin Kipp, creator of ‘The Daily Love’, approached me, without knowing that this was something I have been longing to do for years but have been too afraid and unknowledgeable to start, and asked me if I would like to blog for his website. I immediately saw this as a sign and responded, with an “Ummmm YEA!”, not knowing that once all the excitement died down, I would have no clue where to begin.

When all else fails, I always go with my present feelings and speak from the heart. So, ladies and gentlemen, that‘s where my blog will begin: with words from my heart! Oh, I like the way that sounds! I’ll call my blog: “Words from my heart to yours”. Hee-hee. Over the past months I have been planning a wedding. No, I’m not a wedding planner, but have hired an amazing one, MINDY WEISS. Yes, I just name dropped. HA! I have said “yes” to a wonderful man, Arthur Adam Housley. He’s going to kill me knowing that I just told the world his first name. He’s been called “Adam” since the day he was born. I am blessed to say this man loves me for me.

Without sounding sappy, I can honestly say that true love has found me. Notice I did not say: “I have found true love”. When Adam came into my life, I wasn’t looking I was FARRR from looking! I had had my share of horrible dates, broken hearts, etc. I can assure you I wanted nothing to do with a man. I even considered a nunnery. True story! I hate to be cliché, but it’s true. You always find something or someone when you’re not looking. Anyone who has been single for a long time knows it’s NOT easy. However, at the same time, singlehood can be a great time of self-reflection. During my looonggg time of being single, I learned one of the most valuable lessons of my LIFE! We must learn to LOVE OURSELVES before we can love or receive someone else’s love effectively. This is especially hard for women, since we can be so critical towards other women, and especially towards ourselves. Furthermore and paradoxically, these criticisms warp into lies, which then become our truths! I have this saying: “ALL women are princesses”.

You may be bigger, darker, smaller, etc., but God loves us just the way we are. And here’s more amazing news: there will be a person who comes along in your life that will love EVERY inch of you. So, why not start with YOU loving yourself this way! I wasn’t always this way; I HAD to LEARN to love myself. One of my insecurities as I was growing up was that I was the quirky, goofier twin! I had allowed myself to believe that I had not ONE sexy bone in my body. I was always the cute one – cute and goofy!

Little did I know, now looking back, that this was an awesome trait that set me apart from others! If only I had embraced it and had realized earlier that being cute and quirky is simply a different kind of SEXY! It is one of the traits that my fiancé absolutely LOVES about me. It was not until I learned to embrace my singleness, my flaws and finally love me for me that, coincidentally, my Adam showed up in my life. Life has a way of working itself out in divine order. Live, accept, love and let go. You’ll never know what’s around the corner. It’s never too late. TRY it and see what happens!


Tam Tam

  • Love it! Thanks & Congrats!

  • Aprl

    Hear! Hear! Loved your debut 🙂

  • Kara

    Adorable love it! –Single Lady

  • Nykki

    Congrats on the engagement. In regards to the cute,quirky and goofy traits, I possess all of those. For the longest I stayed in the backgroud, because I felt I was doomed to be the “girl friend.” I finally let go and learned to accept who I am, and wouldn’t you know an amazing guy found those things attractive. I believe women need to learn to love themselves no matter what, because if you don’t, it’s hard for someone else to even try. Keep blogging sweetie, you have an amazing spirit. Oh and A. Adam Housley you did well sir.

  • Karen

    Great post and message. I really enjoyed reading it. Congratulations and continued success and love to you!

  • Christina

    I’m not looking for a man, however, I want true love to find ME. I’ve thought I’ve found it, when all I found was heartbreak. Its very hard to let go, but this blog along with my faith in God, will encourage me. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your entries. Best wishes!

  • Tracy

    Thank you. Love it!

  • monica

    That was the best thing I’ve read it a long while….that was great keep up the good work.

  • Ujama

    I loved your post! I wish you all the best:)

  • Great Story! Congrats on your engagement! I like your state “true love found me”; may we all be as lucky.

  • I love it! Profound message! Lot of women need to realize it and embrace who they are.

  • Very well said, im gonna try
    harder too let go of the limitations of loss in the past….congrats too you finding your way back too love again for the 1st time, peace and blessings……!

  • Jess

    well done Tamera! LOVE IT!

  • claudette

    I love this!!! I’m happy for you and wish you ALL the best! You are a beautiful young lady and you have some encouraging words for some young lost soul women out there. Keep it up I enjoyed it.. Hit me up on tweeter some time!! Be blessed honey!

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  • Ashley

    Thank You so much for sharing!!!

    @ Christina, I feel the exact same way you do!!!

  • sleepless in carolina

    congrats, & so happy for you, “fellow cancer (most romantic, of the zodiac,:D)”, as you embark on your most “wondrous journey of love…!” 🙂

    thanks so much for sharing & giving true inspiration to us still so seriously “hope(less)ful romantics!” 😀 xoxo

  • Bri

    That’s so awesome! Congrats! I have to say I have dealt with the same issues in the past, and I have also learned that I am beautiful AND sexy just the way I am. Quirks and all, lol. 🙂

  • alt

    I love it!!! I haven’t read something this good in a long time. Learning to love and accept everything about myself was a struggle. Especially with me being a twin and everyone always comparing us but I learned to love every trait about me because I am a unique gift of God. Congrats on your engagement and I wish u the best with all of your future endeavors.

  • I can relate to this. I was the quirky goofy but tall and skinny girl growing up I realized one day that it was okay to just be me. I am still pretty quirky, silly no so skinny anymore lol but sexy and beautiful all at the same time. I loved this it was very well said Tamera and congratulations!

  • Indy

    I absolutely love this! Thank you. Maybe you should pass this on the Ms Chilli so that she realizes that true love will find her as well. The Bible does say ” when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing”……

  • JaeLanice

    Absofreakinlutely love this article and your nickname Tam Tam! Immaculate timing might I add. Living the singlehood life and I am a “Hopeful” Romantic! Recently, I made the decision that there were things I were unhappy about with myself and on 2/09 I will be getting a breast reduction! Also I decided instead of being a people pleaser that I would just do me and when God is ready for me to be off that single path, he will bless me with someone to enjoy life a little bit more:)

  • Cheryl

    i’ve been watching u for years and now i understand why! i’ve always described myself as quirky, goofy and cute so i definitely can relate! once i decided i was good with that, i started to attract those are good with it too. still got a few who were looking for something different but i think i’ve finally got it right. i must say the reward is wonderful and well worth the process! 🙂

  • gila

    You’re too funny and easy to read, i could hear tou talking!
    Greetings from mexico, and good luck with the wedding planner!!

  • I enjoyed reading your blog Tam! It was wonderfully written. One thing I always tell my friends is loving yourself is a must in order to receive love from someone else, also in order to understand when you are truly being loved. I learn this at a young age and try my best to teach other women the same. I wish you abundant blessings in your relationship with Adam & in all you do. May God be the foundation of your marriage so it may never break. I can see the positive energy in your life Tam, even on your Twitter page. Hope one day to have a “heart to heart” conversation with you.
    God bless you,
    Daphne <3

  • Paula Kaye

    great reading .. looking fwd to more from you .. congrats!

  • Jazzy

    Amazinggggg–so true..I’m glad your happy!!!

  • Jessica Torres

    Tamara, thank you so much for taking the time out to write this blog. You have no idea, how this is exactly what I needed to hear at this point and time in my life. I’ve been through a lot and sometimes I forget to love myself and my worth.

  • Abby

    Great job Tam Tam. You and Adam make a very lovely couple. May God continues to bless you an prosper you. Can’t wait to see the wedding pics, I know you will make a lovely bride.

  • Cloudy

    Clap, clap! on your debut. I like it, keep them coming 🙂



  • calichic143

    Wise words… thank you so much for sharing! 🙂

  • Kaylah

    I enjoyed this article and I LOVE YOU TAMARA!!! I went through a similar journey through “singlehood” and I’ve found my Mr. Right as well.
    I wish all girls could read this. 🙂

  • Sheree Bethel

    I just love this, I’m going to print and frame this just to remind me everyday that love will find me.

  • Thank you so much for lifting my spirits. It’s good to hear that someone out there will love my silly, goofy behind and even more so, find it sexy and appealing all at the same time. Where some have criticized me for being me, I have learned to love me in my singlehood. But Thank God for Hope and Love that is yet to come 🙂

  • LISA

    First let me say I LOVE,LOVE,LOVE Mastin and the Daily Love. I look forward to reading it every morning and the tweets throughout the day. How awesome you are and thank you for sharing your growth. I think people tend not to see stars as people too. Keep shining…

  • Patricia

    Thanks Tam! Beautifull words you have said, and they are all true.

  • Awesome entry! She is 100% right, and I can speak from experience myself. As soon as I stopped looking for love…it found me. And when it did, I loved who I was before he could love me for who I am.

  • Dee

    Congratulations on your engagement!! And I absolutely LOVED your blog.

    Much Love, Peace and Light

  • ginab

    I grew up watching sister sister and I ALWAYS liked u the most because even on the show u were the funny “quirky” twin. I’m that way also so it was great to have someone so fly to look up to. P.s. Tia is beautiful but I always thought u were the prettier twin.

  • Kiana

    Truly enjoyed reading ur blog…it was a breath of fresh air and truly inspiring!!..Congrats on ur upcoming nuptials and God Bless u both!!..Pls keep inspiring to write more blogs!!

  • Nichole

    Wow! Awesome debut Tam Tam =) Congratulations to you and Arthur I mean Adam haha. I completely agree with your blog. Life has a way of working itself out and so does love teehehe. Love happens when you least expect it and for that its all the more beautiful..God always has a way of working things out far better than we could ever imagine. Yaaay God!!!! So love yourself first because if you don’t…How can you expect someone else to?

    Wishing you and your fiance all of God’s best and biggest blessings for your life as one.

    Love & Blessings xoxo

  • Erika B

    I have been a big fan of yours for a VERY long time… especially since I am a twin myself! I’m so excited to read about your new blog and thank you for the wonderful message! Keep doing what you are doing, I’m sure I speak for myself and your fans when I say WE LOVE “Words from my heart to yours blog” and will be here anxiously awaiting your next message. Thank you. Hugs & Kisses

  • Bevan

    Awesome blog. Very inspiring. I, too, found love within myself this past year and it has opened DOORS for me this year that I didn’t think were possible before. I’m very much looking forward to meeting my true love this year. I know I will find her.

  • Jessica Laskey

    Well Said Tamera 🙂

  • Shana

    Awesome first blog Tamera!! You picked a subject that is extremely emotional and you covered it like a pro!! Love starts within but not many people realize this or know how to love themselves just the way they are to allow others to do the same.

  • Dee

    OMG! You considered the nunnery too? When I read that I nearly fell off my chair! It’s nice to know that we are not alone in this maze called love. No– love hasn’t found me yet but when it does, I want him to love me for me! Quirkiness and all! You and your sister are equally beautiful but it’s great when you discover how special and unique God has made YOU! Congratulations on your engagement! You deserve it! Awesome job on your first blog!!! Looking forward to reading more of your work! God’s love:o)

  • An-dray-uh

    Beautifully written and SO SO true.

  • Josey

    I can’t wait to read more.

  • Sophia

    WOW…well said Tamera. I have adored both u & ur sister for so many yrs. U both continue to inspire & this blog has inspired me. Im going to follow everything u said and make it happen. I luv u:)

  • rox

    Fully agreee. We need to love ourselves first!
    Is is always nice to hear there is one less single woman, congratulations!
    Keep writing from your heart please!

  • Aww, Congrats Tamera, I got married in ’09….couldn’t afford a wedding planner, and I have never even been to a wedding but thanks to books and tv shows, lol, my wedding came out spectacular. I also did not find true love, true love found me. Wish you all the best in your marriage.

  • Love this! So very true and timely for me. Congrats to you and Adam!

  • A Black Dude

    Talk about life lessons… Insecurities are something a lot of us have to deal with, even dudes. Loving and embracing myself is something I’m only really learning to do now, so this post truly resonates with me. The humanity in your words is especially compelling. Congratulations!

  • Tiffany

    Love this blog! Congratulations Tamera! I am also planning a wedding and I agree fully and whole-heartedly on EVERYTHING you have stated! I feel that love found me as well in college, because I truly was not looking for a relationship at all, and it just happened. It’s good to hear your story…truly inspirational! Thanks for sharing!

  • Sherra

    What a great message I think every woman needs to hear this! Great job, congrats, and good luck with your marriage!

  • This is absolutely beautiful, I am going to take heed to every word….AWESOME!!!!!

  • Jameel

    I love this and congratulations, I wish u all the best. lol you do seem like the quirky, goofy twin, but those were the reasons why I liked you on sister sister, and also because u remind me of my twin sister as well, she is also the quirky and goofy one. I am so happy for both you and your sister, and I love your quote “words from my heart to yours,” you couldn’t have said it better. Live, accept, love and let go is now going to be my everyday motto, Thank you for the inspiration.

  • Jameel

    Love this and congratulations, I wish u all the best. lol you do seem like the quirky, goofy twin, but those were the reasons why I liked you on sister sister, and also because u remind me of my twin sister as well, she is also the quirky and goofy one. I am so happy for both you and your sister, and I love your quote “words from my heart to yours,” you couldn’t have said it better. Live, accept, love and let go is now going to be my everyday motto, Thank you for the inspiration.

  • Thank You Tamara! This is a beautiful, inspiring, and informative message on letting love find you! I am like you…I never go out looking for love. Be it the front door or to the local club. I just go out for me. I have my insecurities…geesh that’s hard to admit…but it’s true. So I too have some “filling in” on the self-loving part for me to do still. I found my real first love. I am 41 years old…and I’ve been infatuated before but nothing like this. We are at a rocky point right now…not that’s pretty darn rocky okay. But I know and believe in my heart of hearts that love prevails.
    Love and Blessings Always <3

  • Kasla

    This really helped, it great to know that even the most beautiful people have to learn and accept flaws. You accepting every inch of you self encourages me (a 15yr old) and I’m sure thousands of people to never give up on themselves. I’m not looking for love (duh I’m 15 lol) but I do want to love myuself and feel close to perfect, and this blog truly helps! Thank you Tamera I love you and congrats to you and Mr. Arthur Adam Housley (now if he kills you, he has to kill me too).
    Kasla Camellon <3

  • All I can say is THANK YOU! hope it is enough!
    I used to be a great fan of you when I was like 10 and saw you in Sister, Sister…now I can say I also admire you as a person! Thank you for being proud of speaking about your faith in God and for all your love, you really are an inspiration!

  • “We must learn to LOVE OURSELVES before we can love or receive someone else’s love effectively.”

    Well said and I definitely agree. Loving others will be always difficult if we don’t know how to love our own selves. Even accepting and understanding others will be hard if you can’t do it on yourself. Love begets love a famous adage may say, it is also similar on loving ourselves and others. Self esteem is a very important factor in a person’s personality as well as in every relationships. Thanks for bringing up this post, eh. Happy for you that true love found you. 🙂

  • santosh(arya)

    sorry i didnt under in this web sene i want another u cant give or what else

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  • Anonymous

    what if you truly feel you met your true love but we’re both married to someone else?!