You attract to you in relationship who you are.
Do you like what you see?
You are constantly in relationship with yourself.
Every single one of your relationships has been a success, even if they didn’t last forever. They have served to bring you a step closer to your true self.
The partners you attract to you in the form of the man or woman, are a physical manifestation of who and where you are in your own consciousness at this moment in time.
Look at who you attracting. What does this mirror to you about your own self?
There is so much information out there about finding the perfect partner.
The perfect partner is whomever you are with.
Let me explain: The perfect partner is that partner that mirrors perfectly where you are in your growth right now. They are the perfect mirror that serves as your inspiration and impetus to heal and grow into more of your authentic self.
The perfect partner is not someone that never makes mistakes, but the person that is willing to own their “stuff”, open through their resistances and love through their fears.
The perfect partner is someone that is willing to grow and is also committed to serving your Soul’s growth, so that you both can be more of who you really are.
The person you attract to you in an intimate relationship is no mistake. They are perfect for you right now. They may not be perfect for you forever, but in this moment, you attracted them and were attracted to them for a reason.
The best you can do to prepare yourself for a relationship with a potential romantic partner is to cultivate a loving and compassionate relationship with your self and clear whatever might be in the way of you giving and receiving love.
Many of us want a relationship, but we are not truly in relationship with ourselves. We want our partners to love us, but we still reject ourselves.
You must start by giving to yourself the love that you are already and want from another.
So if you want to attract the right person, then be the right person. The “right” person is the most authentic expression of yourself that you can access and be in this moment. You are the “right” person when you are willing to love and accept you for who you are and who you are not.
You cannot control people outside of yourself. But you can be responsible for yourself and how you are showing up in the world. You can be responsible for loving as fully as you can and living an authentic life.
So take an honest look and see what blocks there are inside you. What parts of yourself are you resenting or ashamed of? What aspects of yourself are you judging? What are the incomplete wounds inside of you that need your love and healing embrace?
As you accept yourself, you will feel differently and relate to yourself differently. You become truly powerful. From this place of wholeness you will attract to yourself a mate that is more likely to accept you at that level, as well as mirror your love and self-acceptance back to you.
You attract to yourself a partner at the level of your self-acceptance.
Trying to change your partner is a recipe for suffering.
Taking responsibility for changing yourself is a recipe for freedom.
It’s OK to want your partner to change, but only after you can fully accept that who they are right now is enough! Then you are at peace whether they change or not. And you are free to love them as they are.
As you change yourself, you will find that either they change and grow to reflect the expanded version of who you are in this moment. Or you will grow apart and you will have a change of partner that matches your new frequency.
The perfect partner is whomever you are with in that moment.
This is being reflected to you in those you attract whether you like it or not.
If you don’t like what you see.
Don’t blame the mirror.
Don’t blame yourself.
Own it and change yourself.
Then see who now shows up!
The perfect partner is YOU.
Kute Blackson is a speaker and life coach. To learn more about him, check out his website.
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