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Let’s be honest – no matter HOW far you go on The Path, no matter how much work you do on yourself or how many yoga poses you master – you are going to run into people who disagree with you and people who annoy you.
Believe it or not, I get emails from people like this all the time. I send emails too frequently (hello, it’s the DAILY love), I don’t send emails enough, I sound too aggressive, I sound too passive, I shouldn’t be selling classes like Love Uni-versity, I should be doing MORE classes like Love Uni-versity. Recently I had someone write in and tell me that I’m “making a fool of myself” through my contributions on The Daily Love and just the other day said that my Love Uni-versity classes are “more than shameful” because I charge for them. And I’ve also gotten countless emails, comments, tweets and Facebook messages saying how Love Uni-versity has changed so many lives for the better.
When you stand up in the world – you get feedback from every direction. Positive and negative. I used to go towards the positive and avoid the negative. But I’ve changed that.
My assumption is that everyone is doing the best they can from their point of view. They are. They REALLY are. And most of the time when they reach out to me – they are looking to be seen. So I do my best to engage with people instead of ignore them. Because the truth is, doing what I do – my motives should be questioned. My intentions with the blog should be scrutinized. Why? Because what I do affects so many people that it’s important to think for yourself and see if those that inspire you are walking their talk.
So I welcome it. And most of the time, with a few email interactions I am able to understand what someone is REALLY trying to say – which is venting a frustration about some other part of their life and projecting it onto me.
This is the key to understanding people who annoy you or disagree with you. MOST of the time, when I engage with someone in a dialog, we end up agreeing. Not ALL the time, but MOST of the time, because I don’t make what they are saying wrong. In the moments when they are saying something to me that seems SO FAR removed from who I really am – or if they knew me, they would never say these things, I take on the position of a listener rather than someone who judges OR flees from the conversation.
I can’t engage with EVERYONE who contacts me because I get so many emails per day, but I do my best to get back to as many people as possible.
I think the key take-away from this blog is that as we engage with people who trigger us, or who we strongly disagree with, or who see us in a way that is just sooo far beyond who we really are – if we cannot make them wrong, but instead see things from their point of view and begin to question it – all while standing firm in our own ground – then we have taken a BIG step in our own evolution and helping to bring more peace on the planet.
So, how can you apply this in your own life? How can you not make people wrong for what they believe and instead investigate what’s going on within? Can you see what they are REALLY trying to say? Leave a comment below and let’s chat about it! Plus the TDL Community will help to support you if you need any help! They’re RAD like that!
Until tomorrow, lots of LOVE,
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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