How To Find Your Purpose In 30 Minutes Or Less


Do you know you what your purpose in life is?

Why you exist?  What your own, unique gift is – that has the power to ground, focus and light you up every day?  Knowing and then centering your life around your purpose is probably the single most important thing you can do.

Would you like a 30 minute exercise to help you uncover your purpose?

This is the quickest exercise to uncover your purpose that I have come across (thank you Steve Pavlina). It’s also intense, because it involves your emotions, but that’s exactly why it’s so powerful.

How To Find Your Purpose In 30 Minutes Or Less

  1. Grab a piece of paper or open a new blank document on your computer.
  2. Write at the top, “What is my true life purpose”?
  3. Now type anything that comes to mind. Use stream of consciousness writing, sentences, words, phrases. Anything that pops into your head. Keep asking, keep writing.
  4. Don’t stop until…
  5. You write a sentence that makes you cry.

That’s It.  That’s your purpose.

It will make you well up with emotion.

It will make your eyes sting and and your throat ache.

It will make your heart ache.

What makes you cry is always what is most true for you, and like your joy, is your unerring guidance system.

This exercise can take you 5-30 minutes and you’ll feel like quitting. Keep going past the resistance – the deepest, juiciest, “most true stuff” is always just past your edge.

Here’s my thought process when I first did this:

“This sounds like a great, easy exercise – I’ll do it on the weekend.”

“No, I should do it now, otherwise I’ll just get busy. This is important.”

“Macbook Air or handwritten? Mac. Easier.”

“Write, write, write… this is silly, I’m not going to find my purpose through such a simple exercise.”

“Write, write, write… it’s gotta to be harder than this.”

“Write, write, write… I don’t have time for this. YES you do, Carmen, this is important”

“Write, write, write… k… these words are good, but I still don’t feel like crying.”

“Write, write, write… mmm… that’s interesting… wow, that’s feeling like…”

Write, write, write…


I found my purpose through this simple exercise.

Passion changes everything

Now (and this is SO important to know), my sentence wasn’t refined or perfect, but it was a START. It made me remember what is most important to me, what the essence of my purpose is, and what makes me cry-ache.

This exercise will start the flow of passion and meaning for you. And passion changes everything.

And it’s simple.

And it’s emotional.

Let yourself feel it.

Notice your tears, pay attention to what makes you cry-ache and follow what inspires you.

They leave you all the clues you need.

Then, over time you, you can refine your words into 1-3 succinct sentences. Soulful words will “jump” out at you over the next few weeks.  A phrase here, a word there, as your subconscious searches to beautifully speak your purpose. Be relaxed and easy about it. Let the words come to you – they’ll find you 🙂

Next? The most important part – design your LIFE around your purpose.

What do you think?  How have you found at least the “rough gem” of your purpose?  How did this exercise work for you and what did you discover? Leave a comment below – I love to hear and your comments help others!

Be Happy… Be Vibrant…

Carmen xo


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A true entrepreneur, lifestyle master and international wellness coach, Carmen is the founder of Create A Life You Love™ and the SexyFit™ Nutrition Challenge.  Carmen also works in partnership with the Handel Group Life Coaching and writes for Glam Today Magazine as their Business and Lifestyle Expert. Visit her websiteFacebook, and Twitter for more information.

  • Jessica Stone

    Wow – what a great exercise! I got teary just thinking of it, but then again, I know what my purpose is already. So see, it DOES work 🙂 Thanks for pushing us to be greater and be true to who we were created to be!

    • Awwh…what a beautiful message Jessica…”be greater and be true to who we were created to be” – LOVE! :))

    • The Daily Love

      Great to hear this impacted you Jessica! Thanks so much for sharing -TDL Team

  • JoySeeker

    Did this years ago. Found it online. My ugly cry sentences were:
    help children heal and help abused or abandoned children. I’m a hospice nurse now but I dream of one day fulfilling this call.

    • This is a beautiful purpose JoySeeker 🙂 How could you do 1 thing this week…and then 1 thing every week towards your purpose? Just ONE thing will move you towards what your heart is calling you to do 🙂 Much love, Carmen 🙂

    • The Daily Love

      That’s amazing! We’re rooting for you! -TDL Team

  • Ahhh, LOVE it! Our calling speaks to us through emotional resonance. Easier to embrace my teary moments of joy for my work knowing it’s my purpose speaking to me, versus being an over-emotional girl 🙂 Loved reading this Carmen!

    • Tears are GOOD – and I love your phrase “teary moments of joy for my work” 🙂 Yes, you are emotional and it’s a GOOD thing! LOVE this post.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks so much for sharing, Bernadette! -TDL Team

  • SuzySomething

    It works! I’m retired and feeling aimless and without purpose so reading your article was especially meaningful to me. I tried it, thinking that it I am pretty late in life to be discovering my true purpose. As I was writing “aimlessly” I began to realize that I could have a different purpose at this time in my life and that having many true purposes throughout a lifetime is probably more common than having only one that lasts all one’s life. Once I came to that realization, the next thing I wrote brought me to tears. I’m on a new path that I just discovered…thank you.

    • SuzySomething! This makes me so happy to read. First of all that you even TRIED (many people don’t when feel disheartened) and secondly that you came to the realization that we can have many purposes (I have 3 🙂 and that they can evolve and change throughout our life. What great distinctions to discover. And thirdly, that it brought you to tears. There’s your truth. Love.
      Your welcome…thank you for engaging – THAT makes my day 🙂 Carmen

    • The Daily Love

      Thank YOU for reading, Suzy! -TDL Team

    • ltlefethr

      I’m like you…..

  • Danielle

    This was truly amazing! My thought process was a bit like you described before I began…this is silly, as much soul searching as I have done and THIS is will help me find my purpose? But it did and to my delight I am right where I need to be. I have been toying with taking a few more steps to further my career but was unsure about whether this was the right path to take and clearly it is. The tears came as soon as I began the exercise. Thank you for this!

    • The Daily Love

      Wow… we love hearing things like this, Danielle! Thanks so much -TDL Team

    • Danielle :))) Your post made my day this morning. THANK YOU for sharing this and I am so glad you did the exercise…even though you weren’t sure if it was actually going to help – you took action and tried it anyways – and got results – such a great metaphor for life 🙂 Excited for you for your next steps in your career. Lots of love, Carmen 🙂

  • Sofia C.

    Thank you Carmen! It really is a powerful exercise! For the past weeks I have been reading a book by Louise Hay. I have had many editons of that book in my hands many times, but somehow, everytime I tried to read it, I ended up giving it away to another person who I thought needed it more than I did. It took me 14 years to realise I was the one who needed it the most. So without resistance i did this exercise starting out with really silly things untill I saw myself write : to be loved! and a flood of tears came and a deep ache inside! I cannot thank you enough..Loving myself is a great way to start my path

    • This is so beautiful Sofia. Thank you for sharing :)) xoxo

  • Cheryl R

    What a simple idea. I like it. I did it immediately upon reading the post, and then again a little later without distractions. I agree with SuzySomething that for some of us there is more than one purpose per lifetime, and often more than one purpose at a time. Makes me think of the essay on “Callings” by John O’Donohue in his book “To Bless the Space Between Us.” My experience with your exercise, Carmen, was being moved not by a particular purpose, but by the vision of a place I’ve never been to that I feel called to visit. This place came up in both of my sessions with this exercise. Thank you for sharing this. I’m sure I will return to this exercise again. Many blessings to you.